hello im 15 weeks pregnant now andim a little concerned about a little pain im having around my uterus on the right side when i turn on that side. my grandma used to be a an ob/gyn and retired a few eyars ago, i asked her about this and she said its nothing but im kinda worried. i dont wanna go to the doctor cause every time i go (even if only 2 weeks have passed) he will preform an echography/ultrasound to see the baby . i dont like this cause i think it might harm the baby and several people have told me that it can affect the babies hearing and ears in the long run. is this normal? its not like PAIn but its like pulsating and annoying discomfort sometimes more than others... it feels like the pain i used to feel when i was ovulating
Pain and 15 weeks pregnant?
Your uterus is expanding lot more in 2 trimester than first. You will feel the stretching and pain in your uterus or lower abdomen. It is normal as long as you don't have continuous sharp pain. In that case, you should get checked for appendicitis or any other complication. I wouldn't worry about little pain. I am going through it and my doctor said it is normal. If it bothers a lot, you should try heating pad, it works.
Also, Ultrasound does not affect baby. There are studies published that assures that ultrasound is safe for baby and pregnant mothers. My husband is a doctor and I like his educated view on ultrasound, I respect this technology which allows physicians to see any complications when they arrive. Its better to get tested and find out a problem sooner so you can fix it than late in pregnancy. It doesn't have negative affect any negative affect on the baby.
Good luck
Reply:its normal feeling...dont worry... you will be ok, and for the record, there is no proof of harm in a fetus's hearing from several ultra sounds.
Reply:Yes it is fine. They are just ligament pains. You are stretching, so don't worry. Trust your grandma, she knows what she is talking about.
Reply:www.3dpregnancy.com
Reply:don't worry. I'm14 weeks and going through the same thing on my right side, right above the hip. Yesterday on my way home from work, I would happen every time I tried to climb the stairs in the subway. It felt like the rubber band sting or like there was nothing holding my hip together. I was not concerned, cause I know it was the ligament
hang in there. we're in this thing together
Reply:I also had intense pains on both sides and STILL have them at 25 weeks. It's normal. My doctor tells me they are round ligament pains caused by everything stretching out! You have to make room for that little baby. Just lay down and try to relax and not move a lot whenever you experience the pains. They will go away. Sudden movements is what triggers it for me. You have to start slowing down now that your pregnant. Hope this helps and good luck!
Reply:I am 15 weeks too and I feel the same thing. It's very normal, and sometimes it can be worse at times. My doctor told me that you have to realize what you're uterus, and stomach muscles are going through- they are being streched and pulled every which way. So don't worry, we all feel it.
Reply:I am 15 weeks and 6 days and I get this as well. Its called round ligament pain...basically your muscles stretching to make room for baby. Its nothing to be alarmed about, but I was scared as well when I started feeling it and I called my doc. Thats what he said.
Good luck!
Saturday, November 14, 2009
Ahhaha 10 more minutes until my evil plan?
ahhaha beware!! because today i was put on my answer limit of level 3 noob but in 10 minutes when the midnight strikes i will return answering questions and hopefully educating people on certain subjects like spirituality and of course easter religions..
now as i was saying for some of my contacts who read this :
does the finding of Adams' Bridge have any positive effect on the Ramayana?
There is some nut who says the bridge is only 2 thousand eyars old while the ramayana that says there is such a bridge is itself 5 thousand years old
what is the effect on this?
Ahhaha 10 more minutes until my evil plan?
We await your return, oh, master!
Reply:what we doing today brain???? trying to take over the world
Reply:You d'man dude.
Oh, and if you're on Eastern time (and it seems you are) you have to wait until 3:00.
Reply:ur a freak
Reply:huh?
Reply:http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Adam's_Brid...
Reply:Why are we allowing an "unclean" rabbit prepare, handle and deliver our "clean" hard boiled chicken Easter eggs? Wait until God finds out about this!
Reply:easter religions!!! I love those eggs!
Reply:Shutup!
now as i was saying for some of my contacts who read this :
does the finding of Adams' Bridge have any positive effect on the Ramayana?
There is some nut who says the bridge is only 2 thousand eyars old while the ramayana that says there is such a bridge is itself 5 thousand years old
what is the effect on this?
Ahhaha 10 more minutes until my evil plan?
We await your return, oh, master!
Reply:what we doing today brain???? trying to take over the world
Reply:You d'man dude.
Oh, and if you're on Eastern time (and it seems you are) you have to wait until 3:00.
Reply:ur a freak
Reply:huh?
Reply:http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Adam's_Brid...
Reply:Why are we allowing an "unclean" rabbit prepare, handle and deliver our "clean" hard boiled chicken Easter eggs? Wait until God finds out about this!
Reply:easter religions!!! I love those eggs!
Reply:Shutup!
Is depression hereditory?
my mum is severely depressed,it isnt helped by her so called husband. she is on prozac, to be taken every day, and if she doesnt take it he makes a big issue of it in front of lots of people, usually down the pub.i dont speak to her any more for years of abuse, both from her and previous partners, they also both drink a lot which im sure doesnt help.i finally got my life sorted around three eyars ago, i made a life for myself with my best friendf who i love mroe than anything in the world, we have a two year old son, things couldnt be better... except soemtimes i get down, i dont know why. i get paranoid and easily upset. i cry over silly things, and i am unable to explain why i feel this way as even in my own head it douns stupid.
i used to self harm, though managed to quit after getting sorted out, i have tried suicide too many times. i didnt bond with my son until he was over a year old, people told me this was post natal depression.
did my mum turn me into a manic depressive%26gt;?
Is depression hereditory?
First of all well done for turning your life around in site of the lack of support you had from your family.
Secondly, it's ok to get down sometimes - everyody does and it could just be a late response to all that is in your past rather than it being a hereditry thing. I'm not 100% sure if depression is inherited through the genes or simply learned as a behaviour. It could be either or both in theory. However, even if there is the potential, it certainly doesn't mean you will turn out like your Mum.
The key thing here is heavy drinking - that in itself can cause depression if not controlled properly by the drinker.
In terms of post-natal depression it's certainly worth seeing your doctor and asking if you could speak to someone, a counsellor, about your feelings when learning to bond with your son and also about your down times. It certainly doesn't mean you'll end up on Prozac though just because you talk to someone. Doing so might actually help you come to terms with the past.
There are some herbal supplements for down times which are St John's Wort and 5-htp - both which can be bought over the counter in Holland and Barrett or Boots.
It's probably worth discussing this with your doctor as well - some are more supportive than others so find another doctor if yours isn't.
One thing though - St John's Wort can inerfere with the contraceptive pill.
I know you're probaly very busy as a mother but if you can find some me-time then join a gym and make exercise part of your life if it's not already. The endorphins are a great way to deal with feeling down.
Good luck.
Reply:No depression is hereditary. Any depression can be cured by prayer and meditiation
Your prayer is from your heart. Further You must have to understood the fact that God is present in our heart. This can be realised in meditation. Further we are the creation of our own destiny. As per Hindu sacred religion, we carry all good and bad deeds life after life. There is no end unless we pray for unification of self with the divineliness.
Hence there is always a possible way to complete mergence with God in this life by a simple and wonderful meditation
Reply:Depression isn't exactly hereditary but the tendency to depression can be inherited.
Growing up as you did in a dysfunctional household you didn't have the same chance to learn coping skills to deal with everyday life and it sounds like you had a lot to deal with in your everyday life.
Your mother didn't turn you into a manic depressive, it doesn't sound like you are bi-polar. You may have some post natal depression, that can last a long time.
Your best moves now would be talking to a symapthetic GP about counselling, ask about support groups in your area and relax. You are NOT becoming your mother!
Reply:Its not hereditary, certain situatuions can cause it, having toxins in body due to a bad diet can cause it.
Reply:Depression is in fact hereditary ,but enviornment plays a role as well. genetics is strong factor but it isnt enough something else must "strike".
If you have knowledge that this condition is hereditary you must also be cautious regarding the enviornmental factors. Take care to educate yourself regarding your condition learn to manage your symptoms and live a productive life, its a difficult tasks but hopefully your children wont be exposed to certain factors that increase the likelyhood of developing mental illness Stop the cycle,it can end with you.
Good luck
Reply:Depressive behaviour is easy to learn, as is abusive behaviour. Does it matter what research papers say about it? There could have been genetic or learned behavioural aspects of your depression. Finding something to blame isn't always that healthy, as it can put the availability of curing or helping it outside of our own control.
The main thing is how to unlearn the mindset and behaviours that result in depression. It seem like you have done alot of good work on this. Well done!
As depression is an illness, please make sure that you are properly cared for when you need it. This may include medication, NLP therapy, Cognitive Behavioural thereapy, counselling or whatever works for you.
You may be especially vulnerable at times of high stress, so managing stress may help keep low moods away. People who have had depression are prone to recurring bouts of it, and this is where medication can help break the recurrence, if the treatment was effective first time around.
Good luck! Rob
Reply:i guess it can be hereditory - but do not worry, many people acquire it on their own without have got any "paranoic genes" from their parents. So it must be the other way round as well - not necessarilly depressed parents produce depressed children. I guess it maybe a different thing - how powerful one´s drive in life is. You know, it is usually easier for children and teenagers since they have so many things to discover and usually their drive is really strong. Later, esp. after graduation it may become a problem since people just do not know what to do with themselves, they kind of lose purpose in life. Common opinion has it that family helps, but I am not at all sure - for some spouses and children do become purpose in life but it does not come to that by definition. Brits manage it better than some other nations (as they have stong inclination to hobbies and all sort of clubs). In other words , the solution is - find a passion in life. Literature, music, DIY, collectiom of stamps, re-enactions... Thank's God we have a choice!!! PS If you find something creative , not just passive it is much better, has a stronger grip on you!
Reply:Depression is not exclusively hereditary, but you can be genetically predisposed, which basically means that just because your mom was, doesn't mean you will be, but it's not out of the question. In fact, it sounds like that's what happened. It's in your genes and you just needed something to trigger it, which she did.
Reply:not really, although children of depressive parents often have problems as they were subjecteds to their own parents problems
Reply:In most cases. some are affected by seasonal effective disorder which usually happen during a series of cloudy days, see pacific northwest.
the only reason I say that is runs in my family as well. Its is quite a sight to see all of them together having a few drinks,which is an usually is problem. My mother,and 2 sisters have a problem with it, usually stems from life circumstances and the lack of doing something about changing those. I experience it as well,but find things positive to do to keep mind off whatever it is that is bothering me .I also think that most all people have their own bouts with depression, but are able to cope with it by keeping their minds occupied with other and a host of things to do leaving no time to be under the dark cloud..
Reply:in my family some r depressed others r not u sorted ur self its up to ur mu,m to sort her life out when depressed its diffcult to know due to circumstances i lost 2 members to sucide my mum died of a broken heart due to this i tried sucide and now i,m disabled because of it you can,t blame anyone for your mistakes etc etc etc friends r good
Reply:hello gothic. there is some evidence that heredity plays a role, as with most psychic conditions. but that doesnt mean anything and dont be sad. my brother has depression and he is quite well now. the important thing is organizing your life. seeking professional help, doing things that you like, eliminate anxiety from your life, dont let anyone distress you, share love and support with your husband, family and friends. congratulations for your courage and i wish you the best.
Reply:Mother is involved possibly through genetics, not by choice. You are showing signs of Bipolar Affective Disorder. I was diagnosed 2 years ago as Bipolar2, after just being treated for general depression for over a year. There's Bipolars1-3 %26amp; undetermined. Depending on the severity of the illness is what determines what type. Bipolar is a diorder of the brain's neurotransmitters where serotonin and other chemicals are altered. If gone undiagnosed or untreated the disorder progresses and makes you "act-out" possibly more frequently or with more intensity or both. Medicines are available to help stablize your chemical balance. Symptoms of the disorder include Alcoholism,drug abuse,manic episodes(ranging from highs of well-being to extreme sadness or rage), episode length also varies by person. You can be down for min, hrs, weeks, even months. Suicide, self destructive behaviors are also major signs. Drinking and drugs are usually used to self-medicate to make thoughts and feelings you can't control shut-up for a while, a temporary way out. Not 1 medication for depression will work the same for everybody. Some antidepressant actually can make your symptoms worse, so you must work closely with your doctor to find the right treatment. Depression is, in some cases, genetic. It can also hit you at any time of your life. It must be treated through therapy or medication or sometimes both. 15% of people with depression do commit suicide. 80% of people who get proper treatment fully resume a normal mind and life. Find your support team. Help yourself so you can help others. See who's depending on you.
Reply:depression IS herditory!!! im living proof of that one.. and it has been clinically proven that it is. Sorry 'bout your luck mate.
Reply:Doctors dont know for sure if it is but it does seem to run in families.
Reply:I inherited bipolar disorder/clinical depression from my mom's side of the family. Now, my mom doesn't have either (that she'll admit to) and neither does my sister (it runs only in the women, for some reason), but it hit me hard.
The thing is, some people develop problems as adults due to issues they had with their parents growing up. Some people inherit these traits or they manage to luck out and not have any problems at all.
With you, it sounds like it could be an inherited thing or possibly even post-partum depression. I advise you to see a counselor, no matter which one it is. Because I know just how difficult it is to deal with problems alone. The hormones from your pregnancy could've triggered a pre-existing condition (I started showing symptoms when I hit puberty because of the hormones), or they simply could've been unbalanced and caused a problem. Like I said, either way? It sucks.
Believe me, I'm in love with an amazing man and I get along better with my parents and I'm doing quite well in school, but I still cry over LITERALLY nothing and lock myself in my room all day, crying and trying to resist opening a vein or two.
I wish you the best of luck. :)
Reply:Depression can run in families. My grandmother is manic, my sister and I both suffer from it and so do most of my aunt and uncles. The worst thing you can do is blame yourself for any wrong doing of others, but dont think you are an angel either. Take responsibility for your actions and deal with one thing at a time.
I finally went to the doctor and I am now on Effexor XR which has helped out more than I thought it would.
Do not try to harm yourself. Especially now that you have a child who depends on you. Get help. It is hard to admit and its hard to talk about, but it is something that needs to be done. Suicide is only a selfish way to leave your problems on others. I know you don't want to leave that burden on your child.
Get to a doctor or professional who can help.
Keep your head up. There is always a reason for everything that happens! Always a bright side.
Reply:Depression is hereditory my friends has the same situation as you are and she went to the doctor they told her it can be hereditory.
white teeth
i used to self harm, though managed to quit after getting sorted out, i have tried suicide too many times. i didnt bond with my son until he was over a year old, people told me this was post natal depression.
did my mum turn me into a manic depressive%26gt;?
Is depression hereditory?
First of all well done for turning your life around in site of the lack of support you had from your family.
Secondly, it's ok to get down sometimes - everyody does and it could just be a late response to all that is in your past rather than it being a hereditry thing. I'm not 100% sure if depression is inherited through the genes or simply learned as a behaviour. It could be either or both in theory. However, even if there is the potential, it certainly doesn't mean you will turn out like your Mum.
The key thing here is heavy drinking - that in itself can cause depression if not controlled properly by the drinker.
In terms of post-natal depression it's certainly worth seeing your doctor and asking if you could speak to someone, a counsellor, about your feelings when learning to bond with your son and also about your down times. It certainly doesn't mean you'll end up on Prozac though just because you talk to someone. Doing so might actually help you come to terms with the past.
There are some herbal supplements for down times which are St John's Wort and 5-htp - both which can be bought over the counter in Holland and Barrett or Boots.
It's probably worth discussing this with your doctor as well - some are more supportive than others so find another doctor if yours isn't.
One thing though - St John's Wort can inerfere with the contraceptive pill.
I know you're probaly very busy as a mother but if you can find some me-time then join a gym and make exercise part of your life if it's not already. The endorphins are a great way to deal with feeling down.
Good luck.
Reply:No depression is hereditary. Any depression can be cured by prayer and meditiation
Your prayer is from your heart. Further You must have to understood the fact that God is present in our heart. This can be realised in meditation. Further we are the creation of our own destiny. As per Hindu sacred religion, we carry all good and bad deeds life after life. There is no end unless we pray for unification of self with the divineliness.
Hence there is always a possible way to complete mergence with God in this life by a simple and wonderful meditation
Reply:Depression isn't exactly hereditary but the tendency to depression can be inherited.
Growing up as you did in a dysfunctional household you didn't have the same chance to learn coping skills to deal with everyday life and it sounds like you had a lot to deal with in your everyday life.
Your mother didn't turn you into a manic depressive, it doesn't sound like you are bi-polar. You may have some post natal depression, that can last a long time.
Your best moves now would be talking to a symapthetic GP about counselling, ask about support groups in your area and relax. You are NOT becoming your mother!
Reply:Its not hereditary, certain situatuions can cause it, having toxins in body due to a bad diet can cause it.
Reply:Depression is in fact hereditary ,but enviornment plays a role as well. genetics is strong factor but it isnt enough something else must "strike".
If you have knowledge that this condition is hereditary you must also be cautious regarding the enviornmental factors. Take care to educate yourself regarding your condition learn to manage your symptoms and live a productive life, its a difficult tasks but hopefully your children wont be exposed to certain factors that increase the likelyhood of developing mental illness Stop the cycle,it can end with you.
Good luck
Reply:Depressive behaviour is easy to learn, as is abusive behaviour. Does it matter what research papers say about it? There could have been genetic or learned behavioural aspects of your depression. Finding something to blame isn't always that healthy, as it can put the availability of curing or helping it outside of our own control.
The main thing is how to unlearn the mindset and behaviours that result in depression. It seem like you have done alot of good work on this. Well done!
As depression is an illness, please make sure that you are properly cared for when you need it. This may include medication, NLP therapy, Cognitive Behavioural thereapy, counselling or whatever works for you.
You may be especially vulnerable at times of high stress, so managing stress may help keep low moods away. People who have had depression are prone to recurring bouts of it, and this is where medication can help break the recurrence, if the treatment was effective first time around.
Good luck! Rob
Reply:i guess it can be hereditory - but do not worry, many people acquire it on their own without have got any "paranoic genes" from their parents. So it must be the other way round as well - not necessarilly depressed parents produce depressed children. I guess it maybe a different thing - how powerful one´s drive in life is. You know, it is usually easier for children and teenagers since they have so many things to discover and usually their drive is really strong. Later, esp. after graduation it may become a problem since people just do not know what to do with themselves, they kind of lose purpose in life. Common opinion has it that family helps, but I am not at all sure - for some spouses and children do become purpose in life but it does not come to that by definition. Brits manage it better than some other nations (as they have stong inclination to hobbies and all sort of clubs). In other words , the solution is - find a passion in life. Literature, music, DIY, collectiom of stamps, re-enactions... Thank's God we have a choice!!! PS If you find something creative , not just passive it is much better, has a stronger grip on you!
Reply:Depression is not exclusively hereditary, but you can be genetically predisposed, which basically means that just because your mom was, doesn't mean you will be, but it's not out of the question. In fact, it sounds like that's what happened. It's in your genes and you just needed something to trigger it, which she did.
Reply:not really, although children of depressive parents often have problems as they were subjecteds to their own parents problems
Reply:In most cases. some are affected by seasonal effective disorder which usually happen during a series of cloudy days, see pacific northwest.
the only reason I say that is runs in my family as well. Its is quite a sight to see all of them together having a few drinks,which is an usually is problem. My mother,and 2 sisters have a problem with it, usually stems from life circumstances and the lack of doing something about changing those. I experience it as well,but find things positive to do to keep mind off whatever it is that is bothering me .I also think that most all people have their own bouts with depression, but are able to cope with it by keeping their minds occupied with other and a host of things to do leaving no time to be under the dark cloud..
Reply:in my family some r depressed others r not u sorted ur self its up to ur mu,m to sort her life out when depressed its diffcult to know due to circumstances i lost 2 members to sucide my mum died of a broken heart due to this i tried sucide and now i,m disabled because of it you can,t blame anyone for your mistakes etc etc etc friends r good
Reply:hello gothic. there is some evidence that heredity plays a role, as with most psychic conditions. but that doesnt mean anything and dont be sad. my brother has depression and he is quite well now. the important thing is organizing your life. seeking professional help, doing things that you like, eliminate anxiety from your life, dont let anyone distress you, share love and support with your husband, family and friends. congratulations for your courage and i wish you the best.
Reply:Mother is involved possibly through genetics, not by choice. You are showing signs of Bipolar Affective Disorder. I was diagnosed 2 years ago as Bipolar2, after just being treated for general depression for over a year. There's Bipolars1-3 %26amp; undetermined. Depending on the severity of the illness is what determines what type. Bipolar is a diorder of the brain's neurotransmitters where serotonin and other chemicals are altered. If gone undiagnosed or untreated the disorder progresses and makes you "act-out" possibly more frequently or with more intensity or both. Medicines are available to help stablize your chemical balance. Symptoms of the disorder include Alcoholism,drug abuse,manic episodes(ranging from highs of well-being to extreme sadness or rage), episode length also varies by person. You can be down for min, hrs, weeks, even months. Suicide, self destructive behaviors are also major signs. Drinking and drugs are usually used to self-medicate to make thoughts and feelings you can't control shut-up for a while, a temporary way out. Not 1 medication for depression will work the same for everybody. Some antidepressant actually can make your symptoms worse, so you must work closely with your doctor to find the right treatment. Depression is, in some cases, genetic. It can also hit you at any time of your life. It must be treated through therapy or medication or sometimes both. 15% of people with depression do commit suicide. 80% of people who get proper treatment fully resume a normal mind and life. Find your support team. Help yourself so you can help others. See who's depending on you.
Reply:depression IS herditory!!! im living proof of that one.. and it has been clinically proven that it is. Sorry 'bout your luck mate.
Reply:Doctors dont know for sure if it is but it does seem to run in families.
Reply:I inherited bipolar disorder/clinical depression from my mom's side of the family. Now, my mom doesn't have either (that she'll admit to) and neither does my sister (it runs only in the women, for some reason), but it hit me hard.
The thing is, some people develop problems as adults due to issues they had with their parents growing up. Some people inherit these traits or they manage to luck out and not have any problems at all.
With you, it sounds like it could be an inherited thing or possibly even post-partum depression. I advise you to see a counselor, no matter which one it is. Because I know just how difficult it is to deal with problems alone. The hormones from your pregnancy could've triggered a pre-existing condition (I started showing symptoms when I hit puberty because of the hormones), or they simply could've been unbalanced and caused a problem. Like I said, either way? It sucks.
Believe me, I'm in love with an amazing man and I get along better with my parents and I'm doing quite well in school, but I still cry over LITERALLY nothing and lock myself in my room all day, crying and trying to resist opening a vein or two.
I wish you the best of luck. :)
Reply:Depression can run in families. My grandmother is manic, my sister and I both suffer from it and so do most of my aunt and uncles. The worst thing you can do is blame yourself for any wrong doing of others, but dont think you are an angel either. Take responsibility for your actions and deal with one thing at a time.
I finally went to the doctor and I am now on Effexor XR which has helped out more than I thought it would.
Do not try to harm yourself. Especially now that you have a child who depends on you. Get help. It is hard to admit and its hard to talk about, but it is something that needs to be done. Suicide is only a selfish way to leave your problems on others. I know you don't want to leave that burden on your child.
Get to a doctor or professional who can help.
Keep your head up. There is always a reason for everything that happens! Always a bright side.
Reply:Depression is hereditory my friends has the same situation as you are and she went to the doctor they told her it can be hereditory.
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I feel hurt bc my boyfriend is not interested in the pregnancy process at all ?
I am 30 weeks pregnant, 24 eyars old, my boyfriend is 25 weve been together for about 2 and a half years. I look around at girls/women pregnant with their fiances/partners/husbands kissing their stomachs, rubbing them, even talking to the baby inside, feeling the baby kick, just adoring the baby and the mother's pregnant stomach. But my boyfriend doesnt want to hear about the baby kcking, he doesnt do any of those things, he abrely even looks at me. I'm not event hat big actualyl at 30 weeks. I just feel really bugged by this bc OUR duaghter is in there and it's special. And also bc what if I never fall pregnant again? Pregnancy isnt just some everyday thing. I only am going to be this way 10 more weeks and then I'll probably be back in no time to my bony skinny self. ( I am not bragging nor do i want 2b, it's just that I lose wieght quickly and easily before, and have fast metabolism). i just feel like I want 2 rememebr being pregnant I dont want it to speed by and have my baby but no
I feel hurt bc my boyfriend is not interested in the pregnancy process at all ?
If the pregnancy wasn't planned, then yes, it might matter a great deal to him. YOU may be excited about the pregnancy and all the changes your body is going through, but if he is less than thrilled about the idea of having a baby, you can't really expect him to be jumping for joy.
He may come around after the baby is born and he actually sees her.
Reply:don't get 2 upset if its his first kid he's probably scared and don't want 2 admit it hell come around and will mostly get over the fear give him a little more tie if nothing else tell him u need him 4 this and 2 man up bc its his kid 2
Reply:My ex was the same and i'm sorry to say but he left me when she was 2 weeks old
I'm sorry but this isn't a good sign
Reply:well, did he WANT you to get pregnant? was it planned? you two aren't married, so it might be awkward.
Reply:tell him how u feel most guys are liike thjat he'll come around
Reply:hey hun,
My bf is not into my pregnancy either I'm 20w5d along..he doesn't like the idea of feeling her move and will not talk to her...ur boyfriend sounds exactly like mine! It feels SOOOO special to me, and I am afraid he'll never know how it feels, I want him to join. Alot of people say he'll change when the baby is born, but some say no..hopefully our bfs will show alot of interests once they are here.... I have a fast metabolism too and I'm still VERY tiny at 20 wks...so I know it'll take a onth atthe veryyy tip top most (prb only 2 wks) to get back to myself lol...95 pds pre-preg
Reply:Don't listen to that guy.
Okay, so now I know it was unplanned...did you ask him his thoughts when you found out? Did he want to keep it? In my case, I wasn't sure I was going to keep it, and originally my boyfriend told me it was my decision...but when I asked the him what he wanted, he started to cry and was excited about becoming a father. So, he could just not be ready to be a dad,...but once he sees the little baby there is a great chance he will be thrilled and be a wonderful dad!
Reply:Some guys are really into the pregnancy, other's aren't. Sounds like this one isn't. I realize it's hurting your feelings, because you want him to be excited. But if he's not, you aren't going to make him excited about it.
Enjoy what you're experiencing. It's a MUCH different situation for a man. You're feeling that life inside you and it's much more REAL for you.
He's sitting back thinking, OH god, what have we done.
It's normal.
He'll get over it.
The bigger issue is what kind of a father he's going to be.
That's going to last longer than the next 10 weeks.
Reply:I'm 20 weeks and my boyfriend has been doing the same thing. I finally confronted him about and he broke down! He is not a very emotional person and when I would try to push him to share in the pregnancy more, he would pull away. He said that it's hard to be excited when you're scared. He never had a father and really is afraid he won't know how to be one, or worse he might be a bad one. Women feel close to the baby immediately because we are carrying it and can feel it move, not to mention crazy hormones that make us overly emotional. He said that that also made it really hard for him because he was resentful at first. The baby changed our relationship and even our sex life a little. It makes you a little more emotionally demanding and what guy would enjoy that? Then he also mentioned that he was a little jealous of me when he saw me bonding with the baby and feeling it move, especially when it would never move for him. So he pushed away as a defense. He has gotten a little better since we've talked. He still isn't as involved as "all the other expectant fathers", but I've learned that if I push him too much, he runs away. It will probably be the same after the baby is born because we already feel bonded with the baby, and they'll feel left out and maybe resentful all over again. Try to understand how he might be feeling and give him time. I know it's really hard and sometimes you feel lonely, but he'll come around eventually. Just try not to dwell on it.
Reply:First off, congratulations. And yes, it may matter to him that you didn't plan to get pregnant, as sad as that is. He will most likely feel differently once she is here, especially once he gets to hold her. Please realize that pregnancy is not as "real" to men as it is to women-they don't go through all that we do. It has nothing to do with the size you are, it has to do with how he feels about the situation. Be glad he's still around and didn't run for the hills.
Reply:some guys answer is not even worth commenting on...anyways was this baby planned or a surprise.if it was a surprise then he may be in extreme denial.this still doesnt excuse his behavior.ur right pregnancy is a miracle and he should realize that.maybe you could have a talk with him and tell him how you feel.i hope he comes around before its too late because in 10wks he wont be able to ignore it anymore...good luck hun
Reply:i know how you feel. i have a 2 year old daughter right now, and im 6 weeks preggo, and i dont have one of those 'romantic' men either. i mean he loves our daughter he is so good with her! after shes gotten bigger anyways,lol. but i know how you feel. i basically begged him to rub my belly and talk to her, lol and i asked him to rub lotion on it hes just not like that. we cant make them i guess, so i guess we are basically screwed! lol.
just wait. once that baby comes what he did during the pregnancy wont matter becuase you are going to love the way he is with your daughter!
good luck and congrats!!
Reply:OK, he's a guy.
We don't really care about the 'pregnancy process'.
Mostly we understand that you do care about it, so we will play along a bit.
But really, it's just not important to us.
I feel hurt bc my boyfriend is not interested in the pregnancy process at all ?
If the pregnancy wasn't planned, then yes, it might matter a great deal to him. YOU may be excited about the pregnancy and all the changes your body is going through, but if he is less than thrilled about the idea of having a baby, you can't really expect him to be jumping for joy.
He may come around after the baby is born and he actually sees her.
Reply:don't get 2 upset if its his first kid he's probably scared and don't want 2 admit it hell come around and will mostly get over the fear give him a little more tie if nothing else tell him u need him 4 this and 2 man up bc its his kid 2
Reply:My ex was the same and i'm sorry to say but he left me when she was 2 weeks old
I'm sorry but this isn't a good sign
Reply:well, did he WANT you to get pregnant? was it planned? you two aren't married, so it might be awkward.
Reply:tell him how u feel most guys are liike thjat he'll come around
Reply:hey hun,
My bf is not into my pregnancy either I'm 20w5d along..he doesn't like the idea of feeling her move and will not talk to her...ur boyfriend sounds exactly like mine! It feels SOOOO special to me, and I am afraid he'll never know how it feels, I want him to join. Alot of people say he'll change when the baby is born, but some say no..hopefully our bfs will show alot of interests once they are here.... I have a fast metabolism too and I'm still VERY tiny at 20 wks...so I know it'll take a onth atthe veryyy tip top most (prb only 2 wks) to get back to myself lol...95 pds pre-preg
Reply:Don't listen to that guy.
Okay, so now I know it was unplanned...did you ask him his thoughts when you found out? Did he want to keep it? In my case, I wasn't sure I was going to keep it, and originally my boyfriend told me it was my decision...but when I asked the him what he wanted, he started to cry and was excited about becoming a father. So, he could just not be ready to be a dad,...but once he sees the little baby there is a great chance he will be thrilled and be a wonderful dad!
Reply:Some guys are really into the pregnancy, other's aren't. Sounds like this one isn't. I realize it's hurting your feelings, because you want him to be excited. But if he's not, you aren't going to make him excited about it.
Enjoy what you're experiencing. It's a MUCH different situation for a man. You're feeling that life inside you and it's much more REAL for you.
He's sitting back thinking, OH god, what have we done.
It's normal.
He'll get over it.
The bigger issue is what kind of a father he's going to be.
That's going to last longer than the next 10 weeks.
Reply:I'm 20 weeks and my boyfriend has been doing the same thing. I finally confronted him about and he broke down! He is not a very emotional person and when I would try to push him to share in the pregnancy more, he would pull away. He said that it's hard to be excited when you're scared. He never had a father and really is afraid he won't know how to be one, or worse he might be a bad one. Women feel close to the baby immediately because we are carrying it and can feel it move, not to mention crazy hormones that make us overly emotional. He said that that also made it really hard for him because he was resentful at first. The baby changed our relationship and even our sex life a little. It makes you a little more emotionally demanding and what guy would enjoy that? Then he also mentioned that he was a little jealous of me when he saw me bonding with the baby and feeling it move, especially when it would never move for him. So he pushed away as a defense. He has gotten a little better since we've talked. He still isn't as involved as "all the other expectant fathers", but I've learned that if I push him too much, he runs away. It will probably be the same after the baby is born because we already feel bonded with the baby, and they'll feel left out and maybe resentful all over again. Try to understand how he might be feeling and give him time. I know it's really hard and sometimes you feel lonely, but he'll come around eventually. Just try not to dwell on it.
Reply:First off, congratulations. And yes, it may matter to him that you didn't plan to get pregnant, as sad as that is. He will most likely feel differently once she is here, especially once he gets to hold her. Please realize that pregnancy is not as "real" to men as it is to women-they don't go through all that we do. It has nothing to do with the size you are, it has to do with how he feels about the situation. Be glad he's still around and didn't run for the hills.
Reply:some guys answer is not even worth commenting on...anyways was this baby planned or a surprise.if it was a surprise then he may be in extreme denial.this still doesnt excuse his behavior.ur right pregnancy is a miracle and he should realize that.maybe you could have a talk with him and tell him how you feel.i hope he comes around before its too late because in 10wks he wont be able to ignore it anymore...good luck hun
Reply:i know how you feel. i have a 2 year old daughter right now, and im 6 weeks preggo, and i dont have one of those 'romantic' men either. i mean he loves our daughter he is so good with her! after shes gotten bigger anyways,lol. but i know how you feel. i basically begged him to rub my belly and talk to her, lol and i asked him to rub lotion on it hes just not like that. we cant make them i guess, so i guess we are basically screwed! lol.
just wait. once that baby comes what he did during the pregnancy wont matter becuase you are going to love the way he is with your daughter!
good luck and congrats!!
Reply:OK, he's a guy.
We don't really care about the 'pregnancy process'.
Mostly we understand that you do care about it, so we will play along a bit.
But really, it's just not important to us.
How do you deal with constant sibling tattling and fighting?
Our situation: We just adopted three children, and one is not settling in very well. He is six but obviously at the emotional age of 2. Wonderful child but the problem is when all three are together, they all feed off of each other, end up fighting etc. We have a structured home, only five house rules (no hitting, yelling, running, whining and quiet time before 8:00 a.m. as we are in a condo)
I just wondered if anyone has dealt with higher needs like this in a sibling package? My hsuband and I were foster parents for many eyars and have a good parenting experience as foster parents in the clinical sense, but are struggling with the sibling stuff, as all the kids we have been from different families, not siblings.
Please also source if you have any good websites.
thanks!
How do you deal with constant sibling tattling and fighting?
Divide and conquer.
We try to separate our kids, in order to have some one-on-one time. Weekends, particularly are tough, because they're together all weeked.
Good luck.
Reply:One thing I did with my kids was to have them each have a turn to tell what happened. The other one could not interrupt. Then I would have them each tell me what they could have done differently. If they didn't have any ideas I would help them think of things. Then I would have them "practice" doing it differently - acting out the new way to do it. It took a long time at first, but it cut way back on tattling and fighting. They didn't really enjoy the whole process! Also, it helped them see the other's point of view and to think of better ways to deal with problems.
Reply:I make my children work things out together... I try not to get involved unless someone is being harmed. It works for our family. For the most part they can solve their own problems without our intervention.
Reply:Take control of your children. Read the Love %26amp; Logic series from Jim Fay.
Reply:I have three biological children, and I can say that fighting and whatnot amongst them is normal. Its part of being sibling and part of growing up.
I don't have any good websites, just my own experience.... but if my kids fight, they all get punished, regardless of "who started it". It takes two to tango. I also don't respond to tattling for the most part. If I didn't see it, it didn't happen in my book. Of course there are exceptions here or there - I have two boys and a girl, and the boys do tend to gang up on my daughter, so in those instances the boys alone get punished.
My oldest son (who is almost 7) has what we like to nicely call a "spirited" personality. Translated = he's incredibly high maintenance and sucks the life out of all of us! He's usually the instigator in any fighting and issues that go on in our home. I find alot of the times it happens when he's "bored", so I try to keep him especially as busy as possible - with playdates, sports, etc. Also, in your case, don't be afraid to look for professional help, your son may need some counselling to help him settle in better.
Good luck!
Reply:Siblings fight. They tell on each other. That's just part of growing up. You did it, I did it, and I am sure our husbands did it. Of course some cases are more extreme then others, however, its perfectly normal, even btw (sometimes especially) natural born siblings.
The only way to get it to lessen, is to point out every time you catch them fighting/tattling, that its wrong and give them consiquences. Make sure you follow through with them. When in doubt, seperate them.
Also, what I have found to work a bit too, is find something that all the kids are into and that the whole family can play. Play together with them. They see that they can have fun and not fight and hopefully when they play that activity together, they remember how nice it was to play peacefully and continue to do so.
I just wondered if anyone has dealt with higher needs like this in a sibling package? My hsuband and I were foster parents for many eyars and have a good parenting experience as foster parents in the clinical sense, but are struggling with the sibling stuff, as all the kids we have been from different families, not siblings.
Please also source if you have any good websites.
thanks!
How do you deal with constant sibling tattling and fighting?
Divide and conquer.
We try to separate our kids, in order to have some one-on-one time. Weekends, particularly are tough, because they're together all weeked.
Good luck.
Reply:One thing I did with my kids was to have them each have a turn to tell what happened. The other one could not interrupt. Then I would have them each tell me what they could have done differently. If they didn't have any ideas I would help them think of things. Then I would have them "practice" doing it differently - acting out the new way to do it. It took a long time at first, but it cut way back on tattling and fighting. They didn't really enjoy the whole process! Also, it helped them see the other's point of view and to think of better ways to deal with problems.
Reply:I make my children work things out together... I try not to get involved unless someone is being harmed. It works for our family. For the most part they can solve their own problems without our intervention.
Reply:Take control of your children. Read the Love %26amp; Logic series from Jim Fay.
Reply:I have three biological children, and I can say that fighting and whatnot amongst them is normal. Its part of being sibling and part of growing up.
I don't have any good websites, just my own experience.... but if my kids fight, they all get punished, regardless of "who started it". It takes two to tango. I also don't respond to tattling for the most part. If I didn't see it, it didn't happen in my book. Of course there are exceptions here or there - I have two boys and a girl, and the boys do tend to gang up on my daughter, so in those instances the boys alone get punished.
My oldest son (who is almost 7) has what we like to nicely call a "spirited" personality. Translated = he's incredibly high maintenance and sucks the life out of all of us! He's usually the instigator in any fighting and issues that go on in our home. I find alot of the times it happens when he's "bored", so I try to keep him especially as busy as possible - with playdates, sports, etc. Also, in your case, don't be afraid to look for professional help, your son may need some counselling to help him settle in better.
Good luck!
Reply:Siblings fight. They tell on each other. That's just part of growing up. You did it, I did it, and I am sure our husbands did it. Of course some cases are more extreme then others, however, its perfectly normal, even btw (sometimes especially) natural born siblings.
The only way to get it to lessen, is to point out every time you catch them fighting/tattling, that its wrong and give them consiquences. Make sure you follow through with them. When in doubt, seperate them.
Also, what I have found to work a bit too, is find something that all the kids are into and that the whole family can play. Play together with them. They see that they can have fun and not fight and hopefully when they play that activity together, they remember how nice it was to play peacefully and continue to do so.
How do you get bangs to stay?
Ok so when i was younger i had bangs. i got rifd of them and didn't have them for many eyars until i decided to get them again like last week. Now i know why i got rid of them in the first place. everyone says i look better with them and i want to keep them but they are such a pain in the *** to maintain! my hair is baby fine first of all ( that's cause of dad. dad's genes haha he's got the same kinda hair.) anyway it looks fine indoors but as soon as i go out it gets a mess and looks horrible! Plus they do this weird thing too they flip up slightly on the bottom. i can never get it the way my hairdresser does, i tried hairspray, a flat iron and none of this works. Any suggestions? Should i try gel? or is it a lost cause?
How do you get bangs to stay?
i had those same probs, and like the other girl said i got mine thicker which helped a lot. i also have fine hair..but the thickness helps weigh them down. gel would just make my bangs separate more and look greasy. i've recently started using a fine tooth comb while i blowdry, and then also with the straightener if i need to use that after. it just helps it to lay nice. so also even if it may blow a little in the wind, it will pretty easily fall back into place.
Reply:I have the same thing!
I just got mine thicker. And it stayed okay.
But I guess that wouldn't work for you having such fine hair...
Maybe talk to your hairdresser. She'll know. Or he.
Reply:try some gel and dont poof it too much cuz thats probably the reason why its flipping.
Reply:exactly what happened to me its all about the blowdryingg
GET those round brushes and blow dry trust me it will work!!!
Reply:Try using a round brush and hair dryer.. like you are flipping your bangs inwards.
Reply:yeahh use a round brush when blowdrying bangs%26amp;%26amp;
thenn use hair spray on it
How do you get bangs to stay?
i had those same probs, and like the other girl said i got mine thicker which helped a lot. i also have fine hair..but the thickness helps weigh them down. gel would just make my bangs separate more and look greasy. i've recently started using a fine tooth comb while i blowdry, and then also with the straightener if i need to use that after. it just helps it to lay nice. so also even if it may blow a little in the wind, it will pretty easily fall back into place.
Reply:I have the same thing!
I just got mine thicker. And it stayed okay.
But I guess that wouldn't work for you having such fine hair...
Maybe talk to your hairdresser. She'll know. Or he.
Reply:try some gel and dont poof it too much cuz thats probably the reason why its flipping.
Reply:exactly what happened to me its all about the blowdryingg
GET those round brushes and blow dry trust me it will work!!!
Reply:Try using a round brush and hair dryer.. like you are flipping your bangs inwards.
Reply:yeahh use a round brush when blowdrying bangs%26amp;%26amp;
thenn use hair spray on it
Really need some help, please :)?
my friends and I are in a really ahrd situation.
We have this friend, and we are all really close. Shes really over weight though. She always says to us " ughh im so overweight" but our first reaction is "nooo ur not!!!"
we know its wrong to be saying that, but shes so sensetive, if we told her she was fat, she would be so upset. shes already really unconfident. also, everyone in the year laughs at her behind her back
she hates her weight but shes been like this for about 2 eyars, so we think we need to say somehting to her. we CANNOT just go up to her and tell her because i promise you she will be so upset
so i need some ways to give gentle hints to her, please, we really wanna help our friend
thanks so much if u answer this:)
xxxx
Really need some help, please :)?
Encourage her to do more physical activities. Instead of sitting around one day, you guys should go jogging. She may like it and continue.
Reply:Say lets go out and have some fun. go to the Ymca or local work out place and start lifting weights or exercising. If she really wants to lose the weight then that is one of the healthy ways to do it...
Reply:take her walking or jogging just help her out without her knowing
Reply:Maybe the best thing to do would be to help get her involved in some activities. Even if you and your other friend aren't overweight, you all can benefit from exercising. Take walks, go swimming, hiking, or get a membership to a gym or YMCA.
The next time she says she's overweight, just say...look, you're my friend and I care about you no matter what. If you think you're overweight, then lets try to do something about it.
Reply:How about next time she says "Oh, I'm so fat" instead of saying "No, you're not," which is patently untrue, try saying "Well, what are you doing about it?" That way you can recommend things to help her lose weight, like watch what she eats and exercise. If it really bothers her, she should want to do something about it. If she doesn't want to do anything, she's probably just seeking to be reassured. In that case, unless you're really worried about her, I'd say let it go. There's no way to make her care withour hurting her feelings.
Reply:a simple hint is a great idea,
buy her a scale for her birthday
Reply:First of all, being overweight isn't the end of the world. She needs a boost of self confidence and she needs to realize that she has the ability to change her weight. I think that maybe you guys should join a gym, and ask her if she wants to go with you guys.. or maybe start going running or exercising and invite her along with you. I don't think you should tell her she isn't overweight if you know she is. I know it hurts, but the truth hurts sometimes and it's better to be honest than to lie to her. She's your friend and you have to help her. Maybe suggest some healthier eating habits for her. If you guys do everything together, not only will it be much easier for her, but fun for all of you! You guys can go out and get healthy snacks and exercise and have healthy snack parties haha I don't know. She just needs to know that she isn't alone. About the kids laughing at her.. that is really horrible but that is the way kids are at a young age. It's hard to stop that so she just needs to ignore it. She needs to love herself and accept herself before anyone else can too!
Reply:I wouldnt bring it up, but rather wait until the next time she says "Im so overweight". Dont agree with her, but maybe say something like "maybe we could start going to the gym together" - and you could add "Id like to get more in shape myself". We could all use to exercise more, and that way you arent making her feel bad.
Or you could even start a diet, and then ask her if she wants to join you. Its always easier to lose weight and stay committed if you have a buddy.
Just focus on being Healthy, and not her being overweight. If she exercises and eats better she will start losing weight, but you dont wont her to obsess about weight either.
One more idea, start planning activities that include physical excise.
If diet and exercise dont work, encourage her to see a doctor about possible medical reasons for her weight.
Hope this helps!
Reply:if she just keeps complaining just be like stop complaining and do something about it
Reply:My advice to u is, if u tel her that's she is fat or u try to help her. She going to get her feelings hurt, sory. Just try to be most sensitive and nice towards her. Say u care about her and her health and that u don't like people laughing at her behind her back. Hope that helps.
Ur a sweet good friend and we need more people like u on this earth.
Reply:Say you will help her watch her weight. You will have her come over and you will prepare her a good meal that is nutritious yet tastes good. You can also eat it with her to encourage her. Then you can set up days of the week to go do a different activity. One day go play basketball, jog, lift weights... Like 2 to 3 times a week depending on how much she wants to lose. Maybe not just you and your "overweight" friend but the rest of your friends could get in on it too. Even if you guys are small exercising is good for everyone.
Reply:Tell her to put down the fork.
Reply:if you guys go out too eat or something go to a healthy store.
or invite her to go to a gym or something like that. it seems like your embarrassed to be around her because weight shouldn't matter.
Reply:Whenever she says something stop making her feel better, she is just wanting it for self esteem. I would just say if you feel that way about yourself then why dont you do something about it. Nothing I say is going to change how you feel about yourself. Or just say, you always say that or ask me if you're fat...I would really appreciate not talking about it
Reply:I think youre friend know how overweight she is already ...just when you try each other clothes ,even a backpack...she didnt want to be told it "fat" ... just let her know if she needs your help , you will be there to support her as a good friend...this will do..
Reply:you dont have to tell her that she is overweight
just start doing some active activities with her
Like for example join a sport and tell her it would be really fun if she joined it with you, or go jogging and ask her if she wants to come with you.
Or if that doesn't work than you should sit down with her and tell her really nicely that she is overweight and tell her that you will help her lose weight if she wants to .........
be a good friend yo her!!
Reply:like the first person said.
how about you all find a gym or get a workout routine or something like that and after school you all get together and work out. so she doesnt feel singled out make it so all three of you do it together.
Reply:Maybe u should just starting doing more fun active outside and invite her along like just going for walks ,boweling ,swimming you get the idea .
Or you and your friends can just sit her down and explain to her.. like next time she brings it just be like hey just go on a diet if u hate it that much and see what she says. Say u like her for who she is but you don't like the fact that he doesn't like her weight.. thats a way of saying hat u don't like her weight but turning it around so your thinking about her best interests at heart
Reply:well you should hangout with her... alot so you can influence her.... like instead of you guys watching a movie... ride bikes or walk down the street tell her its so you can just get some "fresh air" then instead of her eating idk lets just say ben and jerry's just eat.... idk say.... a 100 calorie snack pack..... i hope this helps...
Reply:Why don't you guys set up an exercise routine together and ask her to join you. If you are doing it together it will motivate her to take care of herself.
Reply:Ok, the next time she complains about being fat, ask her if she wants to go running, or to a dancing class or something which may help her lose weight... I'm sure she wants to do something about it, and with her friends support, I'm sure it will help her.
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We have this friend, and we are all really close. Shes really over weight though. She always says to us " ughh im so overweight" but our first reaction is "nooo ur not!!!"
we know its wrong to be saying that, but shes so sensetive, if we told her she was fat, she would be so upset. shes already really unconfident. also, everyone in the year laughs at her behind her back
she hates her weight but shes been like this for about 2 eyars, so we think we need to say somehting to her. we CANNOT just go up to her and tell her because i promise you she will be so upset
so i need some ways to give gentle hints to her, please, we really wanna help our friend
thanks so much if u answer this:)
xxxx
Really need some help, please :)?
Encourage her to do more physical activities. Instead of sitting around one day, you guys should go jogging. She may like it and continue.
Reply:Say lets go out and have some fun. go to the Ymca or local work out place and start lifting weights or exercising. If she really wants to lose the weight then that is one of the healthy ways to do it...
Reply:take her walking or jogging just help her out without her knowing
Reply:Maybe the best thing to do would be to help get her involved in some activities. Even if you and your other friend aren't overweight, you all can benefit from exercising. Take walks, go swimming, hiking, or get a membership to a gym or YMCA.
The next time she says she's overweight, just say...look, you're my friend and I care about you no matter what. If you think you're overweight, then lets try to do something about it.
Reply:How about next time she says "Oh, I'm so fat" instead of saying "No, you're not," which is patently untrue, try saying "Well, what are you doing about it?" That way you can recommend things to help her lose weight, like watch what she eats and exercise. If it really bothers her, she should want to do something about it. If she doesn't want to do anything, she's probably just seeking to be reassured. In that case, unless you're really worried about her, I'd say let it go. There's no way to make her care withour hurting her feelings.
Reply:a simple hint is a great idea,
buy her a scale for her birthday
Reply:First of all, being overweight isn't the end of the world. She needs a boost of self confidence and she needs to realize that she has the ability to change her weight. I think that maybe you guys should join a gym, and ask her if she wants to go with you guys.. or maybe start going running or exercising and invite her along with you. I don't think you should tell her she isn't overweight if you know she is. I know it hurts, but the truth hurts sometimes and it's better to be honest than to lie to her. She's your friend and you have to help her. Maybe suggest some healthier eating habits for her. If you guys do everything together, not only will it be much easier for her, but fun for all of you! You guys can go out and get healthy snacks and exercise and have healthy snack parties haha I don't know. She just needs to know that she isn't alone. About the kids laughing at her.. that is really horrible but that is the way kids are at a young age. It's hard to stop that so she just needs to ignore it. She needs to love herself and accept herself before anyone else can too!
Reply:I wouldnt bring it up, but rather wait until the next time she says "Im so overweight". Dont agree with her, but maybe say something like "maybe we could start going to the gym together" - and you could add "Id like to get more in shape myself". We could all use to exercise more, and that way you arent making her feel bad.
Or you could even start a diet, and then ask her if she wants to join you. Its always easier to lose weight and stay committed if you have a buddy.
Just focus on being Healthy, and not her being overweight. If she exercises and eats better she will start losing weight, but you dont wont her to obsess about weight either.
One more idea, start planning activities that include physical excise.
If diet and exercise dont work, encourage her to see a doctor about possible medical reasons for her weight.
Hope this helps!
Reply:if she just keeps complaining just be like stop complaining and do something about it
Reply:My advice to u is, if u tel her that's she is fat or u try to help her. She going to get her feelings hurt, sory. Just try to be most sensitive and nice towards her. Say u care about her and her health and that u don't like people laughing at her behind her back. Hope that helps.
Ur a sweet good friend and we need more people like u on this earth.
Reply:Say you will help her watch her weight. You will have her come over and you will prepare her a good meal that is nutritious yet tastes good. You can also eat it with her to encourage her. Then you can set up days of the week to go do a different activity. One day go play basketball, jog, lift weights... Like 2 to 3 times a week depending on how much she wants to lose. Maybe not just you and your "overweight" friend but the rest of your friends could get in on it too. Even if you guys are small exercising is good for everyone.
Reply:Tell her to put down the fork.
Reply:if you guys go out too eat or something go to a healthy store.
or invite her to go to a gym or something like that. it seems like your embarrassed to be around her because weight shouldn't matter.
Reply:Whenever she says something stop making her feel better, she is just wanting it for self esteem. I would just say if you feel that way about yourself then why dont you do something about it. Nothing I say is going to change how you feel about yourself. Or just say, you always say that or ask me if you're fat...I would really appreciate not talking about it
Reply:I think youre friend know how overweight she is already ...just when you try each other clothes ,even a backpack...she didnt want to be told it "fat" ... just let her know if she needs your help , you will be there to support her as a good friend...this will do..
Reply:you dont have to tell her that she is overweight
just start doing some active activities with her
Like for example join a sport and tell her it would be really fun if she joined it with you, or go jogging and ask her if she wants to come with you.
Or if that doesn't work than you should sit down with her and tell her really nicely that she is overweight and tell her that you will help her lose weight if she wants to .........
be a good friend yo her!!
Reply:like the first person said.
how about you all find a gym or get a workout routine or something like that and after school you all get together and work out. so she doesnt feel singled out make it so all three of you do it together.
Reply:Maybe u should just starting doing more fun active outside and invite her along like just going for walks ,boweling ,swimming you get the idea .
Or you and your friends can just sit her down and explain to her.. like next time she brings it just be like hey just go on a diet if u hate it that much and see what she says. Say u like her for who she is but you don't like the fact that he doesn't like her weight.. thats a way of saying hat u don't like her weight but turning it around so your thinking about her best interests at heart
Reply:well you should hangout with her... alot so you can influence her.... like instead of you guys watching a movie... ride bikes or walk down the street tell her its so you can just get some "fresh air" then instead of her eating idk lets just say ben and jerry's just eat.... idk say.... a 100 calorie snack pack..... i hope this helps...
Reply:Why don't you guys set up an exercise routine together and ask her to join you. If you are doing it together it will motivate her to take care of herself.
Reply:Ok, the next time she complains about being fat, ask her if she wants to go running, or to a dancing class or something which may help her lose weight... I'm sure she wants to do something about it, and with her friends support, I'm sure it will help her.
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