hello im 15 weeks pregnant now andim a little concerned about a little pain im having around my uterus on the right side when i turn on that side. my grandma used to be a an ob/gyn and retired a few eyars ago, i asked her about this and she said its nothing but im kinda worried. i dont wanna go to the doctor cause every time i go (even if only 2 weeks have passed) he will preform an echography/ultrasound to see the baby . i dont like this cause i think it might harm the baby and several people have told me that it can affect the babies hearing and ears in the long run. is this normal? its not like PAIn but its like pulsating and annoying discomfort sometimes more than others... it feels like the pain i used to feel when i was ovulating
Pain and 15 weeks pregnant?
Your uterus is expanding lot more in 2 trimester than first. You will feel the stretching and pain in your uterus or lower abdomen. It is normal as long as you don't have continuous sharp pain. In that case, you should get checked for appendicitis or any other complication. I wouldn't worry about little pain. I am going through it and my doctor said it is normal. If it bothers a lot, you should try heating pad, it works.
Also, Ultrasound does not affect baby. There are studies published that assures that ultrasound is safe for baby and pregnant mothers. My husband is a doctor and I like his educated view on ultrasound, I respect this technology which allows physicians to see any complications when they arrive. Its better to get tested and find out a problem sooner so you can fix it than late in pregnancy. It doesn't have negative affect any negative affect on the baby.
Good luck
Reply:its normal feeling...dont worry... you will be ok, and for the record, there is no proof of harm in a fetus's hearing from several ultra sounds.
Reply:Yes it is fine. They are just ligament pains. You are stretching, so don't worry. Trust your grandma, she knows what she is talking about.
Reply:www.3dpregnancy.com
Reply:don't worry. I'm14 weeks and going through the same thing on my right side, right above the hip. Yesterday on my way home from work, I would happen every time I tried to climb the stairs in the subway. It felt like the rubber band sting or like there was nothing holding my hip together. I was not concerned, cause I know it was the ligament
hang in there. we're in this thing together
Reply:I also had intense pains on both sides and STILL have them at 25 weeks. It's normal. My doctor tells me they are round ligament pains caused by everything stretching out! You have to make room for that little baby. Just lay down and try to relax and not move a lot whenever you experience the pains. They will go away. Sudden movements is what triggers it for me. You have to start slowing down now that your pregnant. Hope this helps and good luck!
Reply:I am 15 weeks too and I feel the same thing. It's very normal, and sometimes it can be worse at times. My doctor told me that you have to realize what you're uterus, and stomach muscles are going through- they are being streched and pulled every which way. So don't worry, we all feel it.
Reply:I am 15 weeks and 6 days and I get this as well. Its called round ligament pain...basically your muscles stretching to make room for baby. Its nothing to be alarmed about, but I was scared as well when I started feeling it and I called my doc. Thats what he said.
Good luck!
Saturday, November 14, 2009
Ahhaha 10 more minutes until my evil plan?
ahhaha beware!! because today i was put on my answer limit of level 3 noob but in 10 minutes when the midnight strikes i will return answering questions and hopefully educating people on certain subjects like spirituality and of course easter religions..
now as i was saying for some of my contacts who read this :
does the finding of Adams' Bridge have any positive effect on the Ramayana?
There is some nut who says the bridge is only 2 thousand eyars old while the ramayana that says there is such a bridge is itself 5 thousand years old
what is the effect on this?
Ahhaha 10 more minutes until my evil plan?
We await your return, oh, master!
Reply:what we doing today brain???? trying to take over the world
Reply:You d'man dude.
Oh, and if you're on Eastern time (and it seems you are) you have to wait until 3:00.
Reply:ur a freak
Reply:huh?
Reply:http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Adam's_Brid...
Reply:Why are we allowing an "unclean" rabbit prepare, handle and deliver our "clean" hard boiled chicken Easter eggs? Wait until God finds out about this!
Reply:easter religions!!! I love those eggs!
Reply:Shutup!
now as i was saying for some of my contacts who read this :
does the finding of Adams' Bridge have any positive effect on the Ramayana?
There is some nut who says the bridge is only 2 thousand eyars old while the ramayana that says there is such a bridge is itself 5 thousand years old
what is the effect on this?
Ahhaha 10 more minutes until my evil plan?
We await your return, oh, master!
Reply:what we doing today brain???? trying to take over the world
Reply:You d'man dude.
Oh, and if you're on Eastern time (and it seems you are) you have to wait until 3:00.
Reply:ur a freak
Reply:huh?
Reply:http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Adam's_Brid...
Reply:Why are we allowing an "unclean" rabbit prepare, handle and deliver our "clean" hard boiled chicken Easter eggs? Wait until God finds out about this!
Reply:easter religions!!! I love those eggs!
Reply:Shutup!
Is depression hereditory?
my mum is severely depressed,it isnt helped by her so called husband. she is on prozac, to be taken every day, and if she doesnt take it he makes a big issue of it in front of lots of people, usually down the pub.i dont speak to her any more for years of abuse, both from her and previous partners, they also both drink a lot which im sure doesnt help.i finally got my life sorted around three eyars ago, i made a life for myself with my best friendf who i love mroe than anything in the world, we have a two year old son, things couldnt be better... except soemtimes i get down, i dont know why. i get paranoid and easily upset. i cry over silly things, and i am unable to explain why i feel this way as even in my own head it douns stupid.
i used to self harm, though managed to quit after getting sorted out, i have tried suicide too many times. i didnt bond with my son until he was over a year old, people told me this was post natal depression.
did my mum turn me into a manic depressive%26gt;?
Is depression hereditory?
First of all well done for turning your life around in site of the lack of support you had from your family.
Secondly, it's ok to get down sometimes - everyody does and it could just be a late response to all that is in your past rather than it being a hereditry thing. I'm not 100% sure if depression is inherited through the genes or simply learned as a behaviour. It could be either or both in theory. However, even if there is the potential, it certainly doesn't mean you will turn out like your Mum.
The key thing here is heavy drinking - that in itself can cause depression if not controlled properly by the drinker.
In terms of post-natal depression it's certainly worth seeing your doctor and asking if you could speak to someone, a counsellor, about your feelings when learning to bond with your son and also about your down times. It certainly doesn't mean you'll end up on Prozac though just because you talk to someone. Doing so might actually help you come to terms with the past.
There are some herbal supplements for down times which are St John's Wort and 5-htp - both which can be bought over the counter in Holland and Barrett or Boots.
It's probably worth discussing this with your doctor as well - some are more supportive than others so find another doctor if yours isn't.
One thing though - St John's Wort can inerfere with the contraceptive pill.
I know you're probaly very busy as a mother but if you can find some me-time then join a gym and make exercise part of your life if it's not already. The endorphins are a great way to deal with feeling down.
Good luck.
Reply:No depression is hereditary. Any depression can be cured by prayer and meditiation
Your prayer is from your heart. Further You must have to understood the fact that God is present in our heart. This can be realised in meditation. Further we are the creation of our own destiny. As per Hindu sacred religion, we carry all good and bad deeds life after life. There is no end unless we pray for unification of self with the divineliness.
Hence there is always a possible way to complete mergence with God in this life by a simple and wonderful meditation
Reply:Depression isn't exactly hereditary but the tendency to depression can be inherited.
Growing up as you did in a dysfunctional household you didn't have the same chance to learn coping skills to deal with everyday life and it sounds like you had a lot to deal with in your everyday life.
Your mother didn't turn you into a manic depressive, it doesn't sound like you are bi-polar. You may have some post natal depression, that can last a long time.
Your best moves now would be talking to a symapthetic GP about counselling, ask about support groups in your area and relax. You are NOT becoming your mother!
Reply:Its not hereditary, certain situatuions can cause it, having toxins in body due to a bad diet can cause it.
Reply:Depression is in fact hereditary ,but enviornment plays a role as well. genetics is strong factor but it isnt enough something else must "strike".
If you have knowledge that this condition is hereditary you must also be cautious regarding the enviornmental factors. Take care to educate yourself regarding your condition learn to manage your symptoms and live a productive life, its a difficult tasks but hopefully your children wont be exposed to certain factors that increase the likelyhood of developing mental illness Stop the cycle,it can end with you.
Good luck
Reply:Depressive behaviour is easy to learn, as is abusive behaviour. Does it matter what research papers say about it? There could have been genetic or learned behavioural aspects of your depression. Finding something to blame isn't always that healthy, as it can put the availability of curing or helping it outside of our own control.
The main thing is how to unlearn the mindset and behaviours that result in depression. It seem like you have done alot of good work on this. Well done!
As depression is an illness, please make sure that you are properly cared for when you need it. This may include medication, NLP therapy, Cognitive Behavioural thereapy, counselling or whatever works for you.
You may be especially vulnerable at times of high stress, so managing stress may help keep low moods away. People who have had depression are prone to recurring bouts of it, and this is where medication can help break the recurrence, if the treatment was effective first time around.
Good luck! Rob
Reply:i guess it can be hereditory - but do not worry, many people acquire it on their own without have got any "paranoic genes" from their parents. So it must be the other way round as well - not necessarilly depressed parents produce depressed children. I guess it maybe a different thing - how powerful one´s drive in life is. You know, it is usually easier for children and teenagers since they have so many things to discover and usually their drive is really strong. Later, esp. after graduation it may become a problem since people just do not know what to do with themselves, they kind of lose purpose in life. Common opinion has it that family helps, but I am not at all sure - for some spouses and children do become purpose in life but it does not come to that by definition. Brits manage it better than some other nations (as they have stong inclination to hobbies and all sort of clubs). In other words , the solution is - find a passion in life. Literature, music, DIY, collectiom of stamps, re-enactions... Thank's God we have a choice!!! PS If you find something creative , not just passive it is much better, has a stronger grip on you!
Reply:Depression is not exclusively hereditary, but you can be genetically predisposed, which basically means that just because your mom was, doesn't mean you will be, but it's not out of the question. In fact, it sounds like that's what happened. It's in your genes and you just needed something to trigger it, which she did.
Reply:not really, although children of depressive parents often have problems as they were subjecteds to their own parents problems
Reply:In most cases. some are affected by seasonal effective disorder which usually happen during a series of cloudy days, see pacific northwest.
the only reason I say that is runs in my family as well. Its is quite a sight to see all of them together having a few drinks,which is an usually is problem. My mother,and 2 sisters have a problem with it, usually stems from life circumstances and the lack of doing something about changing those. I experience it as well,but find things positive to do to keep mind off whatever it is that is bothering me .I also think that most all people have their own bouts with depression, but are able to cope with it by keeping their minds occupied with other and a host of things to do leaving no time to be under the dark cloud..
Reply:in my family some r depressed others r not u sorted ur self its up to ur mu,m to sort her life out when depressed its diffcult to know due to circumstances i lost 2 members to sucide my mum died of a broken heart due to this i tried sucide and now i,m disabled because of it you can,t blame anyone for your mistakes etc etc etc friends r good
Reply:hello gothic. there is some evidence that heredity plays a role, as with most psychic conditions. but that doesnt mean anything and dont be sad. my brother has depression and he is quite well now. the important thing is organizing your life. seeking professional help, doing things that you like, eliminate anxiety from your life, dont let anyone distress you, share love and support with your husband, family and friends. congratulations for your courage and i wish you the best.
Reply:Mother is involved possibly through genetics, not by choice. You are showing signs of Bipolar Affective Disorder. I was diagnosed 2 years ago as Bipolar2, after just being treated for general depression for over a year. There's Bipolars1-3 %26amp; undetermined. Depending on the severity of the illness is what determines what type. Bipolar is a diorder of the brain's neurotransmitters where serotonin and other chemicals are altered. If gone undiagnosed or untreated the disorder progresses and makes you "act-out" possibly more frequently or with more intensity or both. Medicines are available to help stablize your chemical balance. Symptoms of the disorder include Alcoholism,drug abuse,manic episodes(ranging from highs of well-being to extreme sadness or rage), episode length also varies by person. You can be down for min, hrs, weeks, even months. Suicide, self destructive behaviors are also major signs. Drinking and drugs are usually used to self-medicate to make thoughts and feelings you can't control shut-up for a while, a temporary way out. Not 1 medication for depression will work the same for everybody. Some antidepressant actually can make your symptoms worse, so you must work closely with your doctor to find the right treatment. Depression is, in some cases, genetic. It can also hit you at any time of your life. It must be treated through therapy or medication or sometimes both. 15% of people with depression do commit suicide. 80% of people who get proper treatment fully resume a normal mind and life. Find your support team. Help yourself so you can help others. See who's depending on you.
Reply:depression IS herditory!!! im living proof of that one.. and it has been clinically proven that it is. Sorry 'bout your luck mate.
Reply:Doctors dont know for sure if it is but it does seem to run in families.
Reply:I inherited bipolar disorder/clinical depression from my mom's side of the family. Now, my mom doesn't have either (that she'll admit to) and neither does my sister (it runs only in the women, for some reason), but it hit me hard.
The thing is, some people develop problems as adults due to issues they had with their parents growing up. Some people inherit these traits or they manage to luck out and not have any problems at all.
With you, it sounds like it could be an inherited thing or possibly even post-partum depression. I advise you to see a counselor, no matter which one it is. Because I know just how difficult it is to deal with problems alone. The hormones from your pregnancy could've triggered a pre-existing condition (I started showing symptoms when I hit puberty because of the hormones), or they simply could've been unbalanced and caused a problem. Like I said, either way? It sucks.
Believe me, I'm in love with an amazing man and I get along better with my parents and I'm doing quite well in school, but I still cry over LITERALLY nothing and lock myself in my room all day, crying and trying to resist opening a vein or two.
I wish you the best of luck. :)
Reply:Depression can run in families. My grandmother is manic, my sister and I both suffer from it and so do most of my aunt and uncles. The worst thing you can do is blame yourself for any wrong doing of others, but dont think you are an angel either. Take responsibility for your actions and deal with one thing at a time.
I finally went to the doctor and I am now on Effexor XR which has helped out more than I thought it would.
Do not try to harm yourself. Especially now that you have a child who depends on you. Get help. It is hard to admit and its hard to talk about, but it is something that needs to be done. Suicide is only a selfish way to leave your problems on others. I know you don't want to leave that burden on your child.
Get to a doctor or professional who can help.
Keep your head up. There is always a reason for everything that happens! Always a bright side.
Reply:Depression is hereditory my friends has the same situation as you are and she went to the doctor they told her it can be hereditory.
white teeth
i used to self harm, though managed to quit after getting sorted out, i have tried suicide too many times. i didnt bond with my son until he was over a year old, people told me this was post natal depression.
did my mum turn me into a manic depressive%26gt;?
Is depression hereditory?
First of all well done for turning your life around in site of the lack of support you had from your family.
Secondly, it's ok to get down sometimes - everyody does and it could just be a late response to all that is in your past rather than it being a hereditry thing. I'm not 100% sure if depression is inherited through the genes or simply learned as a behaviour. It could be either or both in theory. However, even if there is the potential, it certainly doesn't mean you will turn out like your Mum.
The key thing here is heavy drinking - that in itself can cause depression if not controlled properly by the drinker.
In terms of post-natal depression it's certainly worth seeing your doctor and asking if you could speak to someone, a counsellor, about your feelings when learning to bond with your son and also about your down times. It certainly doesn't mean you'll end up on Prozac though just because you talk to someone. Doing so might actually help you come to terms with the past.
There are some herbal supplements for down times which are St John's Wort and 5-htp - both which can be bought over the counter in Holland and Barrett or Boots.
It's probably worth discussing this with your doctor as well - some are more supportive than others so find another doctor if yours isn't.
One thing though - St John's Wort can inerfere with the contraceptive pill.
I know you're probaly very busy as a mother but if you can find some me-time then join a gym and make exercise part of your life if it's not already. The endorphins are a great way to deal with feeling down.
Good luck.
Reply:No depression is hereditary. Any depression can be cured by prayer and meditiation
Your prayer is from your heart. Further You must have to understood the fact that God is present in our heart. This can be realised in meditation. Further we are the creation of our own destiny. As per Hindu sacred religion, we carry all good and bad deeds life after life. There is no end unless we pray for unification of self with the divineliness.
Hence there is always a possible way to complete mergence with God in this life by a simple and wonderful meditation
Reply:Depression isn't exactly hereditary but the tendency to depression can be inherited.
Growing up as you did in a dysfunctional household you didn't have the same chance to learn coping skills to deal with everyday life and it sounds like you had a lot to deal with in your everyday life.
Your mother didn't turn you into a manic depressive, it doesn't sound like you are bi-polar. You may have some post natal depression, that can last a long time.
Your best moves now would be talking to a symapthetic GP about counselling, ask about support groups in your area and relax. You are NOT becoming your mother!
Reply:Its not hereditary, certain situatuions can cause it, having toxins in body due to a bad diet can cause it.
Reply:Depression is in fact hereditary ,but enviornment plays a role as well. genetics is strong factor but it isnt enough something else must "strike".
If you have knowledge that this condition is hereditary you must also be cautious regarding the enviornmental factors. Take care to educate yourself regarding your condition learn to manage your symptoms and live a productive life, its a difficult tasks but hopefully your children wont be exposed to certain factors that increase the likelyhood of developing mental illness Stop the cycle,it can end with you.
Good luck
Reply:Depressive behaviour is easy to learn, as is abusive behaviour. Does it matter what research papers say about it? There could have been genetic or learned behavioural aspects of your depression. Finding something to blame isn't always that healthy, as it can put the availability of curing or helping it outside of our own control.
The main thing is how to unlearn the mindset and behaviours that result in depression. It seem like you have done alot of good work on this. Well done!
As depression is an illness, please make sure that you are properly cared for when you need it. This may include medication, NLP therapy, Cognitive Behavioural thereapy, counselling or whatever works for you.
You may be especially vulnerable at times of high stress, so managing stress may help keep low moods away. People who have had depression are prone to recurring bouts of it, and this is where medication can help break the recurrence, if the treatment was effective first time around.
Good luck! Rob
Reply:i guess it can be hereditory - but do not worry, many people acquire it on their own without have got any "paranoic genes" from their parents. So it must be the other way round as well - not necessarilly depressed parents produce depressed children. I guess it maybe a different thing - how powerful one´s drive in life is. You know, it is usually easier for children and teenagers since they have so many things to discover and usually their drive is really strong. Later, esp. after graduation it may become a problem since people just do not know what to do with themselves, they kind of lose purpose in life. Common opinion has it that family helps, but I am not at all sure - for some spouses and children do become purpose in life but it does not come to that by definition. Brits manage it better than some other nations (as they have stong inclination to hobbies and all sort of clubs). In other words , the solution is - find a passion in life. Literature, music, DIY, collectiom of stamps, re-enactions... Thank's God we have a choice!!! PS If you find something creative , not just passive it is much better, has a stronger grip on you!
Reply:Depression is not exclusively hereditary, but you can be genetically predisposed, which basically means that just because your mom was, doesn't mean you will be, but it's not out of the question. In fact, it sounds like that's what happened. It's in your genes and you just needed something to trigger it, which she did.
Reply:not really, although children of depressive parents often have problems as they were subjecteds to their own parents problems
Reply:In most cases. some are affected by seasonal effective disorder which usually happen during a series of cloudy days, see pacific northwest.
the only reason I say that is runs in my family as well. Its is quite a sight to see all of them together having a few drinks,which is an usually is problem. My mother,and 2 sisters have a problem with it, usually stems from life circumstances and the lack of doing something about changing those. I experience it as well,but find things positive to do to keep mind off whatever it is that is bothering me .I also think that most all people have their own bouts with depression, but are able to cope with it by keeping their minds occupied with other and a host of things to do leaving no time to be under the dark cloud..
Reply:in my family some r depressed others r not u sorted ur self its up to ur mu,m to sort her life out when depressed its diffcult to know due to circumstances i lost 2 members to sucide my mum died of a broken heart due to this i tried sucide and now i,m disabled because of it you can,t blame anyone for your mistakes etc etc etc friends r good
Reply:hello gothic. there is some evidence that heredity plays a role, as with most psychic conditions. but that doesnt mean anything and dont be sad. my brother has depression and he is quite well now. the important thing is organizing your life. seeking professional help, doing things that you like, eliminate anxiety from your life, dont let anyone distress you, share love and support with your husband, family and friends. congratulations for your courage and i wish you the best.
Reply:Mother is involved possibly through genetics, not by choice. You are showing signs of Bipolar Affective Disorder. I was diagnosed 2 years ago as Bipolar2, after just being treated for general depression for over a year. There's Bipolars1-3 %26amp; undetermined. Depending on the severity of the illness is what determines what type. Bipolar is a diorder of the brain's neurotransmitters where serotonin and other chemicals are altered. If gone undiagnosed or untreated the disorder progresses and makes you "act-out" possibly more frequently or with more intensity or both. Medicines are available to help stablize your chemical balance. Symptoms of the disorder include Alcoholism,drug abuse,manic episodes(ranging from highs of well-being to extreme sadness or rage), episode length also varies by person. You can be down for min, hrs, weeks, even months. Suicide, self destructive behaviors are also major signs. Drinking and drugs are usually used to self-medicate to make thoughts and feelings you can't control shut-up for a while, a temporary way out. Not 1 medication for depression will work the same for everybody. Some antidepressant actually can make your symptoms worse, so you must work closely with your doctor to find the right treatment. Depression is, in some cases, genetic. It can also hit you at any time of your life. It must be treated through therapy or medication or sometimes both. 15% of people with depression do commit suicide. 80% of people who get proper treatment fully resume a normal mind and life. Find your support team. Help yourself so you can help others. See who's depending on you.
Reply:depression IS herditory!!! im living proof of that one.. and it has been clinically proven that it is. Sorry 'bout your luck mate.
Reply:Doctors dont know for sure if it is but it does seem to run in families.
Reply:I inherited bipolar disorder/clinical depression from my mom's side of the family. Now, my mom doesn't have either (that she'll admit to) and neither does my sister (it runs only in the women, for some reason), but it hit me hard.
The thing is, some people develop problems as adults due to issues they had with their parents growing up. Some people inherit these traits or they manage to luck out and not have any problems at all.
With you, it sounds like it could be an inherited thing or possibly even post-partum depression. I advise you to see a counselor, no matter which one it is. Because I know just how difficult it is to deal with problems alone. The hormones from your pregnancy could've triggered a pre-existing condition (I started showing symptoms when I hit puberty because of the hormones), or they simply could've been unbalanced and caused a problem. Like I said, either way? It sucks.
Believe me, I'm in love with an amazing man and I get along better with my parents and I'm doing quite well in school, but I still cry over LITERALLY nothing and lock myself in my room all day, crying and trying to resist opening a vein or two.
I wish you the best of luck. :)
Reply:Depression can run in families. My grandmother is manic, my sister and I both suffer from it and so do most of my aunt and uncles. The worst thing you can do is blame yourself for any wrong doing of others, but dont think you are an angel either. Take responsibility for your actions and deal with one thing at a time.
I finally went to the doctor and I am now on Effexor XR which has helped out more than I thought it would.
Do not try to harm yourself. Especially now that you have a child who depends on you. Get help. It is hard to admit and its hard to talk about, but it is something that needs to be done. Suicide is only a selfish way to leave your problems on others. I know you don't want to leave that burden on your child.
Get to a doctor or professional who can help.
Keep your head up. There is always a reason for everything that happens! Always a bright side.
Reply:Depression is hereditory my friends has the same situation as you are and she went to the doctor they told her it can be hereditory.
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I feel hurt bc my boyfriend is not interested in the pregnancy process at all ?
I am 30 weeks pregnant, 24 eyars old, my boyfriend is 25 weve been together for about 2 and a half years. I look around at girls/women pregnant with their fiances/partners/husbands kissing their stomachs, rubbing them, even talking to the baby inside, feeling the baby kick, just adoring the baby and the mother's pregnant stomach. But my boyfriend doesnt want to hear about the baby kcking, he doesnt do any of those things, he abrely even looks at me. I'm not event hat big actualyl at 30 weeks. I just feel really bugged by this bc OUR duaghter is in there and it's special. And also bc what if I never fall pregnant again? Pregnancy isnt just some everyday thing. I only am going to be this way 10 more weeks and then I'll probably be back in no time to my bony skinny self. ( I am not bragging nor do i want 2b, it's just that I lose wieght quickly and easily before, and have fast metabolism). i just feel like I want 2 rememebr being pregnant I dont want it to speed by and have my baby but no
I feel hurt bc my boyfriend is not interested in the pregnancy process at all ?
If the pregnancy wasn't planned, then yes, it might matter a great deal to him. YOU may be excited about the pregnancy and all the changes your body is going through, but if he is less than thrilled about the idea of having a baby, you can't really expect him to be jumping for joy.
He may come around after the baby is born and he actually sees her.
Reply:don't get 2 upset if its his first kid he's probably scared and don't want 2 admit it hell come around and will mostly get over the fear give him a little more tie if nothing else tell him u need him 4 this and 2 man up bc its his kid 2
Reply:My ex was the same and i'm sorry to say but he left me when she was 2 weeks old
I'm sorry but this isn't a good sign
Reply:well, did he WANT you to get pregnant? was it planned? you two aren't married, so it might be awkward.
Reply:tell him how u feel most guys are liike thjat he'll come around
Reply:hey hun,
My bf is not into my pregnancy either I'm 20w5d along..he doesn't like the idea of feeling her move and will not talk to her...ur boyfriend sounds exactly like mine! It feels SOOOO special to me, and I am afraid he'll never know how it feels, I want him to join. Alot of people say he'll change when the baby is born, but some say no..hopefully our bfs will show alot of interests once they are here.... I have a fast metabolism too and I'm still VERY tiny at 20 wks...so I know it'll take a onth atthe veryyy tip top most (prb only 2 wks) to get back to myself lol...95 pds pre-preg
Reply:Don't listen to that guy.
Okay, so now I know it was unplanned...did you ask him his thoughts when you found out? Did he want to keep it? In my case, I wasn't sure I was going to keep it, and originally my boyfriend told me it was my decision...but when I asked the him what he wanted, he started to cry and was excited about becoming a father. So, he could just not be ready to be a dad,...but once he sees the little baby there is a great chance he will be thrilled and be a wonderful dad!
Reply:Some guys are really into the pregnancy, other's aren't. Sounds like this one isn't. I realize it's hurting your feelings, because you want him to be excited. But if he's not, you aren't going to make him excited about it.
Enjoy what you're experiencing. It's a MUCH different situation for a man. You're feeling that life inside you and it's much more REAL for you.
He's sitting back thinking, OH god, what have we done.
It's normal.
He'll get over it.
The bigger issue is what kind of a father he's going to be.
That's going to last longer than the next 10 weeks.
Reply:I'm 20 weeks and my boyfriend has been doing the same thing. I finally confronted him about and he broke down! He is not a very emotional person and when I would try to push him to share in the pregnancy more, he would pull away. He said that it's hard to be excited when you're scared. He never had a father and really is afraid he won't know how to be one, or worse he might be a bad one. Women feel close to the baby immediately because we are carrying it and can feel it move, not to mention crazy hormones that make us overly emotional. He said that that also made it really hard for him because he was resentful at first. The baby changed our relationship and even our sex life a little. It makes you a little more emotionally demanding and what guy would enjoy that? Then he also mentioned that he was a little jealous of me when he saw me bonding with the baby and feeling it move, especially when it would never move for him. So he pushed away as a defense. He has gotten a little better since we've talked. He still isn't as involved as "all the other expectant fathers", but I've learned that if I push him too much, he runs away. It will probably be the same after the baby is born because we already feel bonded with the baby, and they'll feel left out and maybe resentful all over again. Try to understand how he might be feeling and give him time. I know it's really hard and sometimes you feel lonely, but he'll come around eventually. Just try not to dwell on it.
Reply:First off, congratulations. And yes, it may matter to him that you didn't plan to get pregnant, as sad as that is. He will most likely feel differently once she is here, especially once he gets to hold her. Please realize that pregnancy is not as "real" to men as it is to women-they don't go through all that we do. It has nothing to do with the size you are, it has to do with how he feels about the situation. Be glad he's still around and didn't run for the hills.
Reply:some guys answer is not even worth commenting on...anyways was this baby planned or a surprise.if it was a surprise then he may be in extreme denial.this still doesnt excuse his behavior.ur right pregnancy is a miracle and he should realize that.maybe you could have a talk with him and tell him how you feel.i hope he comes around before its too late because in 10wks he wont be able to ignore it anymore...good luck hun
Reply:i know how you feel. i have a 2 year old daughter right now, and im 6 weeks preggo, and i dont have one of those 'romantic' men either. i mean he loves our daughter he is so good with her! after shes gotten bigger anyways,lol. but i know how you feel. i basically begged him to rub my belly and talk to her, lol and i asked him to rub lotion on it hes just not like that. we cant make them i guess, so i guess we are basically screwed! lol.
just wait. once that baby comes what he did during the pregnancy wont matter becuase you are going to love the way he is with your daughter!
good luck and congrats!!
Reply:OK, he's a guy.
We don't really care about the 'pregnancy process'.
Mostly we understand that you do care about it, so we will play along a bit.
But really, it's just not important to us.
I feel hurt bc my boyfriend is not interested in the pregnancy process at all ?
If the pregnancy wasn't planned, then yes, it might matter a great deal to him. YOU may be excited about the pregnancy and all the changes your body is going through, but if he is less than thrilled about the idea of having a baby, you can't really expect him to be jumping for joy.
He may come around after the baby is born and he actually sees her.
Reply:don't get 2 upset if its his first kid he's probably scared and don't want 2 admit it hell come around and will mostly get over the fear give him a little more tie if nothing else tell him u need him 4 this and 2 man up bc its his kid 2
Reply:My ex was the same and i'm sorry to say but he left me when she was 2 weeks old
I'm sorry but this isn't a good sign
Reply:well, did he WANT you to get pregnant? was it planned? you two aren't married, so it might be awkward.
Reply:tell him how u feel most guys are liike thjat he'll come around
Reply:hey hun,
My bf is not into my pregnancy either I'm 20w5d along..he doesn't like the idea of feeling her move and will not talk to her...ur boyfriend sounds exactly like mine! It feels SOOOO special to me, and I am afraid he'll never know how it feels, I want him to join. Alot of people say he'll change when the baby is born, but some say no..hopefully our bfs will show alot of interests once they are here.... I have a fast metabolism too and I'm still VERY tiny at 20 wks...so I know it'll take a onth atthe veryyy tip top most (prb only 2 wks) to get back to myself lol...95 pds pre-preg
Reply:Don't listen to that guy.
Okay, so now I know it was unplanned...did you ask him his thoughts when you found out? Did he want to keep it? In my case, I wasn't sure I was going to keep it, and originally my boyfriend told me it was my decision...but when I asked the him what he wanted, he started to cry and was excited about becoming a father. So, he could just not be ready to be a dad,...but once he sees the little baby there is a great chance he will be thrilled and be a wonderful dad!
Reply:Some guys are really into the pregnancy, other's aren't. Sounds like this one isn't. I realize it's hurting your feelings, because you want him to be excited. But if he's not, you aren't going to make him excited about it.
Enjoy what you're experiencing. It's a MUCH different situation for a man. You're feeling that life inside you and it's much more REAL for you.
He's sitting back thinking, OH god, what have we done.
It's normal.
He'll get over it.
The bigger issue is what kind of a father he's going to be.
That's going to last longer than the next 10 weeks.
Reply:I'm 20 weeks and my boyfriend has been doing the same thing. I finally confronted him about and he broke down! He is not a very emotional person and when I would try to push him to share in the pregnancy more, he would pull away. He said that it's hard to be excited when you're scared. He never had a father and really is afraid he won't know how to be one, or worse he might be a bad one. Women feel close to the baby immediately because we are carrying it and can feel it move, not to mention crazy hormones that make us overly emotional. He said that that also made it really hard for him because he was resentful at first. The baby changed our relationship and even our sex life a little. It makes you a little more emotionally demanding and what guy would enjoy that? Then he also mentioned that he was a little jealous of me when he saw me bonding with the baby and feeling it move, especially when it would never move for him. So he pushed away as a defense. He has gotten a little better since we've talked. He still isn't as involved as "all the other expectant fathers", but I've learned that if I push him too much, he runs away. It will probably be the same after the baby is born because we already feel bonded with the baby, and they'll feel left out and maybe resentful all over again. Try to understand how he might be feeling and give him time. I know it's really hard and sometimes you feel lonely, but he'll come around eventually. Just try not to dwell on it.
Reply:First off, congratulations. And yes, it may matter to him that you didn't plan to get pregnant, as sad as that is. He will most likely feel differently once she is here, especially once he gets to hold her. Please realize that pregnancy is not as "real" to men as it is to women-they don't go through all that we do. It has nothing to do with the size you are, it has to do with how he feels about the situation. Be glad he's still around and didn't run for the hills.
Reply:some guys answer is not even worth commenting on...anyways was this baby planned or a surprise.if it was a surprise then he may be in extreme denial.this still doesnt excuse his behavior.ur right pregnancy is a miracle and he should realize that.maybe you could have a talk with him and tell him how you feel.i hope he comes around before its too late because in 10wks he wont be able to ignore it anymore...good luck hun
Reply:i know how you feel. i have a 2 year old daughter right now, and im 6 weeks preggo, and i dont have one of those 'romantic' men either. i mean he loves our daughter he is so good with her! after shes gotten bigger anyways,lol. but i know how you feel. i basically begged him to rub my belly and talk to her, lol and i asked him to rub lotion on it hes just not like that. we cant make them i guess, so i guess we are basically screwed! lol.
just wait. once that baby comes what he did during the pregnancy wont matter becuase you are going to love the way he is with your daughter!
good luck and congrats!!
Reply:OK, he's a guy.
We don't really care about the 'pregnancy process'.
Mostly we understand that you do care about it, so we will play along a bit.
But really, it's just not important to us.
How do you deal with constant sibling tattling and fighting?
Our situation: We just adopted three children, and one is not settling in very well. He is six but obviously at the emotional age of 2. Wonderful child but the problem is when all three are together, they all feed off of each other, end up fighting etc. We have a structured home, only five house rules (no hitting, yelling, running, whining and quiet time before 8:00 a.m. as we are in a condo)
I just wondered if anyone has dealt with higher needs like this in a sibling package? My hsuband and I were foster parents for many eyars and have a good parenting experience as foster parents in the clinical sense, but are struggling with the sibling stuff, as all the kids we have been from different families, not siblings.
Please also source if you have any good websites.
thanks!
How do you deal with constant sibling tattling and fighting?
Divide and conquer.
We try to separate our kids, in order to have some one-on-one time. Weekends, particularly are tough, because they're together all weeked.
Good luck.
Reply:One thing I did with my kids was to have them each have a turn to tell what happened. The other one could not interrupt. Then I would have them each tell me what they could have done differently. If they didn't have any ideas I would help them think of things. Then I would have them "practice" doing it differently - acting out the new way to do it. It took a long time at first, but it cut way back on tattling and fighting. They didn't really enjoy the whole process! Also, it helped them see the other's point of view and to think of better ways to deal with problems.
Reply:I make my children work things out together... I try not to get involved unless someone is being harmed. It works for our family. For the most part they can solve their own problems without our intervention.
Reply:Take control of your children. Read the Love %26amp; Logic series from Jim Fay.
Reply:I have three biological children, and I can say that fighting and whatnot amongst them is normal. Its part of being sibling and part of growing up.
I don't have any good websites, just my own experience.... but if my kids fight, they all get punished, regardless of "who started it". It takes two to tango. I also don't respond to tattling for the most part. If I didn't see it, it didn't happen in my book. Of course there are exceptions here or there - I have two boys and a girl, and the boys do tend to gang up on my daughter, so in those instances the boys alone get punished.
My oldest son (who is almost 7) has what we like to nicely call a "spirited" personality. Translated = he's incredibly high maintenance and sucks the life out of all of us! He's usually the instigator in any fighting and issues that go on in our home. I find alot of the times it happens when he's "bored", so I try to keep him especially as busy as possible - with playdates, sports, etc. Also, in your case, don't be afraid to look for professional help, your son may need some counselling to help him settle in better.
Good luck!
Reply:Siblings fight. They tell on each other. That's just part of growing up. You did it, I did it, and I am sure our husbands did it. Of course some cases are more extreme then others, however, its perfectly normal, even btw (sometimes especially) natural born siblings.
The only way to get it to lessen, is to point out every time you catch them fighting/tattling, that its wrong and give them consiquences. Make sure you follow through with them. When in doubt, seperate them.
Also, what I have found to work a bit too, is find something that all the kids are into and that the whole family can play. Play together with them. They see that they can have fun and not fight and hopefully when they play that activity together, they remember how nice it was to play peacefully and continue to do so.
I just wondered if anyone has dealt with higher needs like this in a sibling package? My hsuband and I were foster parents for many eyars and have a good parenting experience as foster parents in the clinical sense, but are struggling with the sibling stuff, as all the kids we have been from different families, not siblings.
Please also source if you have any good websites.
thanks!
How do you deal with constant sibling tattling and fighting?
Divide and conquer.
We try to separate our kids, in order to have some one-on-one time. Weekends, particularly are tough, because they're together all weeked.
Good luck.
Reply:One thing I did with my kids was to have them each have a turn to tell what happened. The other one could not interrupt. Then I would have them each tell me what they could have done differently. If they didn't have any ideas I would help them think of things. Then I would have them "practice" doing it differently - acting out the new way to do it. It took a long time at first, but it cut way back on tattling and fighting. They didn't really enjoy the whole process! Also, it helped them see the other's point of view and to think of better ways to deal with problems.
Reply:I make my children work things out together... I try not to get involved unless someone is being harmed. It works for our family. For the most part they can solve their own problems without our intervention.
Reply:Take control of your children. Read the Love %26amp; Logic series from Jim Fay.
Reply:I have three biological children, and I can say that fighting and whatnot amongst them is normal. Its part of being sibling and part of growing up.
I don't have any good websites, just my own experience.... but if my kids fight, they all get punished, regardless of "who started it". It takes two to tango. I also don't respond to tattling for the most part. If I didn't see it, it didn't happen in my book. Of course there are exceptions here or there - I have two boys and a girl, and the boys do tend to gang up on my daughter, so in those instances the boys alone get punished.
My oldest son (who is almost 7) has what we like to nicely call a "spirited" personality. Translated = he's incredibly high maintenance and sucks the life out of all of us! He's usually the instigator in any fighting and issues that go on in our home. I find alot of the times it happens when he's "bored", so I try to keep him especially as busy as possible - with playdates, sports, etc. Also, in your case, don't be afraid to look for professional help, your son may need some counselling to help him settle in better.
Good luck!
Reply:Siblings fight. They tell on each other. That's just part of growing up. You did it, I did it, and I am sure our husbands did it. Of course some cases are more extreme then others, however, its perfectly normal, even btw (sometimes especially) natural born siblings.
The only way to get it to lessen, is to point out every time you catch them fighting/tattling, that its wrong and give them consiquences. Make sure you follow through with them. When in doubt, seperate them.
Also, what I have found to work a bit too, is find something that all the kids are into and that the whole family can play. Play together with them. They see that they can have fun and not fight and hopefully when they play that activity together, they remember how nice it was to play peacefully and continue to do so.
How do you get bangs to stay?
Ok so when i was younger i had bangs. i got rifd of them and didn't have them for many eyars until i decided to get them again like last week. Now i know why i got rid of them in the first place. everyone says i look better with them and i want to keep them but they are such a pain in the *** to maintain! my hair is baby fine first of all ( that's cause of dad. dad's genes haha he's got the same kinda hair.) anyway it looks fine indoors but as soon as i go out it gets a mess and looks horrible! Plus they do this weird thing too they flip up slightly on the bottom. i can never get it the way my hairdresser does, i tried hairspray, a flat iron and none of this works. Any suggestions? Should i try gel? or is it a lost cause?
How do you get bangs to stay?
i had those same probs, and like the other girl said i got mine thicker which helped a lot. i also have fine hair..but the thickness helps weigh them down. gel would just make my bangs separate more and look greasy. i've recently started using a fine tooth comb while i blowdry, and then also with the straightener if i need to use that after. it just helps it to lay nice. so also even if it may blow a little in the wind, it will pretty easily fall back into place.
Reply:I have the same thing!
I just got mine thicker. And it stayed okay.
But I guess that wouldn't work for you having such fine hair...
Maybe talk to your hairdresser. She'll know. Or he.
Reply:try some gel and dont poof it too much cuz thats probably the reason why its flipping.
Reply:exactly what happened to me its all about the blowdryingg
GET those round brushes and blow dry trust me it will work!!!
Reply:Try using a round brush and hair dryer.. like you are flipping your bangs inwards.
Reply:yeahh use a round brush when blowdrying bangs%26amp;%26amp;
thenn use hair spray on it
How do you get bangs to stay?
i had those same probs, and like the other girl said i got mine thicker which helped a lot. i also have fine hair..but the thickness helps weigh them down. gel would just make my bangs separate more and look greasy. i've recently started using a fine tooth comb while i blowdry, and then also with the straightener if i need to use that after. it just helps it to lay nice. so also even if it may blow a little in the wind, it will pretty easily fall back into place.
Reply:I have the same thing!
I just got mine thicker. And it stayed okay.
But I guess that wouldn't work for you having such fine hair...
Maybe talk to your hairdresser. She'll know. Or he.
Reply:try some gel and dont poof it too much cuz thats probably the reason why its flipping.
Reply:exactly what happened to me its all about the blowdryingg
GET those round brushes and blow dry trust me it will work!!!
Reply:Try using a round brush and hair dryer.. like you are flipping your bangs inwards.
Reply:yeahh use a round brush when blowdrying bangs%26amp;%26amp;
thenn use hair spray on it
Really need some help, please :)?
my friends and I are in a really ahrd situation.
We have this friend, and we are all really close. Shes really over weight though. She always says to us " ughh im so overweight" but our first reaction is "nooo ur not!!!"
we know its wrong to be saying that, but shes so sensetive, if we told her she was fat, she would be so upset. shes already really unconfident. also, everyone in the year laughs at her behind her back
she hates her weight but shes been like this for about 2 eyars, so we think we need to say somehting to her. we CANNOT just go up to her and tell her because i promise you she will be so upset
so i need some ways to give gentle hints to her, please, we really wanna help our friend
thanks so much if u answer this:)
xxxx
Really need some help, please :)?
Encourage her to do more physical activities. Instead of sitting around one day, you guys should go jogging. She may like it and continue.
Reply:Say lets go out and have some fun. go to the Ymca or local work out place and start lifting weights or exercising. If she really wants to lose the weight then that is one of the healthy ways to do it...
Reply:take her walking or jogging just help her out without her knowing
Reply:Maybe the best thing to do would be to help get her involved in some activities. Even if you and your other friend aren't overweight, you all can benefit from exercising. Take walks, go swimming, hiking, or get a membership to a gym or YMCA.
The next time she says she's overweight, just say...look, you're my friend and I care about you no matter what. If you think you're overweight, then lets try to do something about it.
Reply:How about next time she says "Oh, I'm so fat" instead of saying "No, you're not," which is patently untrue, try saying "Well, what are you doing about it?" That way you can recommend things to help her lose weight, like watch what she eats and exercise. If it really bothers her, she should want to do something about it. If she doesn't want to do anything, she's probably just seeking to be reassured. In that case, unless you're really worried about her, I'd say let it go. There's no way to make her care withour hurting her feelings.
Reply:a simple hint is a great idea,
buy her a scale for her birthday
Reply:First of all, being overweight isn't the end of the world. She needs a boost of self confidence and she needs to realize that she has the ability to change her weight. I think that maybe you guys should join a gym, and ask her if she wants to go with you guys.. or maybe start going running or exercising and invite her along with you. I don't think you should tell her she isn't overweight if you know she is. I know it hurts, but the truth hurts sometimes and it's better to be honest than to lie to her. She's your friend and you have to help her. Maybe suggest some healthier eating habits for her. If you guys do everything together, not only will it be much easier for her, but fun for all of you! You guys can go out and get healthy snacks and exercise and have healthy snack parties haha I don't know. She just needs to know that she isn't alone. About the kids laughing at her.. that is really horrible but that is the way kids are at a young age. It's hard to stop that so she just needs to ignore it. She needs to love herself and accept herself before anyone else can too!
Reply:I wouldnt bring it up, but rather wait until the next time she says "Im so overweight". Dont agree with her, but maybe say something like "maybe we could start going to the gym together" - and you could add "Id like to get more in shape myself". We could all use to exercise more, and that way you arent making her feel bad.
Or you could even start a diet, and then ask her if she wants to join you. Its always easier to lose weight and stay committed if you have a buddy.
Just focus on being Healthy, and not her being overweight. If she exercises and eats better she will start losing weight, but you dont wont her to obsess about weight either.
One more idea, start planning activities that include physical excise.
If diet and exercise dont work, encourage her to see a doctor about possible medical reasons for her weight.
Hope this helps!
Reply:if she just keeps complaining just be like stop complaining and do something about it
Reply:My advice to u is, if u tel her that's she is fat or u try to help her. She going to get her feelings hurt, sory. Just try to be most sensitive and nice towards her. Say u care about her and her health and that u don't like people laughing at her behind her back. Hope that helps.
Ur a sweet good friend and we need more people like u on this earth.
Reply:Say you will help her watch her weight. You will have her come over and you will prepare her a good meal that is nutritious yet tastes good. You can also eat it with her to encourage her. Then you can set up days of the week to go do a different activity. One day go play basketball, jog, lift weights... Like 2 to 3 times a week depending on how much she wants to lose. Maybe not just you and your "overweight" friend but the rest of your friends could get in on it too. Even if you guys are small exercising is good for everyone.
Reply:Tell her to put down the fork.
Reply:if you guys go out too eat or something go to a healthy store.
or invite her to go to a gym or something like that. it seems like your embarrassed to be around her because weight shouldn't matter.
Reply:Whenever she says something stop making her feel better, she is just wanting it for self esteem. I would just say if you feel that way about yourself then why dont you do something about it. Nothing I say is going to change how you feel about yourself. Or just say, you always say that or ask me if you're fat...I would really appreciate not talking about it
Reply:I think youre friend know how overweight she is already ...just when you try each other clothes ,even a backpack...she didnt want to be told it "fat" ... just let her know if she needs your help , you will be there to support her as a good friend...this will do..
Reply:you dont have to tell her that she is overweight
just start doing some active activities with her
Like for example join a sport and tell her it would be really fun if she joined it with you, or go jogging and ask her if she wants to come with you.
Or if that doesn't work than you should sit down with her and tell her really nicely that she is overweight and tell her that you will help her lose weight if she wants to .........
be a good friend yo her!!
Reply:like the first person said.
how about you all find a gym or get a workout routine or something like that and after school you all get together and work out. so she doesnt feel singled out make it so all three of you do it together.
Reply:Maybe u should just starting doing more fun active outside and invite her along like just going for walks ,boweling ,swimming you get the idea .
Or you and your friends can just sit her down and explain to her.. like next time she brings it just be like hey just go on a diet if u hate it that much and see what she says. Say u like her for who she is but you don't like the fact that he doesn't like her weight.. thats a way of saying hat u don't like her weight but turning it around so your thinking about her best interests at heart
Reply:well you should hangout with her... alot so you can influence her.... like instead of you guys watching a movie... ride bikes or walk down the street tell her its so you can just get some "fresh air" then instead of her eating idk lets just say ben and jerry's just eat.... idk say.... a 100 calorie snack pack..... i hope this helps...
Reply:Why don't you guys set up an exercise routine together and ask her to join you. If you are doing it together it will motivate her to take care of herself.
Reply:Ok, the next time she complains about being fat, ask her if she wants to go running, or to a dancing class or something which may help her lose weight... I'm sure she wants to do something about it, and with her friends support, I'm sure it will help her.
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We have this friend, and we are all really close. Shes really over weight though. She always says to us " ughh im so overweight" but our first reaction is "nooo ur not!!!"
we know its wrong to be saying that, but shes so sensetive, if we told her she was fat, she would be so upset. shes already really unconfident. also, everyone in the year laughs at her behind her back
she hates her weight but shes been like this for about 2 eyars, so we think we need to say somehting to her. we CANNOT just go up to her and tell her because i promise you she will be so upset
so i need some ways to give gentle hints to her, please, we really wanna help our friend
thanks so much if u answer this:)
xxxx
Really need some help, please :)?
Encourage her to do more physical activities. Instead of sitting around one day, you guys should go jogging. She may like it and continue.
Reply:Say lets go out and have some fun. go to the Ymca or local work out place and start lifting weights or exercising. If she really wants to lose the weight then that is one of the healthy ways to do it...
Reply:take her walking or jogging just help her out without her knowing
Reply:Maybe the best thing to do would be to help get her involved in some activities. Even if you and your other friend aren't overweight, you all can benefit from exercising. Take walks, go swimming, hiking, or get a membership to a gym or YMCA.
The next time she says she's overweight, just say...look, you're my friend and I care about you no matter what. If you think you're overweight, then lets try to do something about it.
Reply:How about next time she says "Oh, I'm so fat" instead of saying "No, you're not," which is patently untrue, try saying "Well, what are you doing about it?" That way you can recommend things to help her lose weight, like watch what she eats and exercise. If it really bothers her, she should want to do something about it. If she doesn't want to do anything, she's probably just seeking to be reassured. In that case, unless you're really worried about her, I'd say let it go. There's no way to make her care withour hurting her feelings.
Reply:a simple hint is a great idea,
buy her a scale for her birthday
Reply:First of all, being overweight isn't the end of the world. She needs a boost of self confidence and she needs to realize that she has the ability to change her weight. I think that maybe you guys should join a gym, and ask her if she wants to go with you guys.. or maybe start going running or exercising and invite her along with you. I don't think you should tell her she isn't overweight if you know she is. I know it hurts, but the truth hurts sometimes and it's better to be honest than to lie to her. She's your friend and you have to help her. Maybe suggest some healthier eating habits for her. If you guys do everything together, not only will it be much easier for her, but fun for all of you! You guys can go out and get healthy snacks and exercise and have healthy snack parties haha I don't know. She just needs to know that she isn't alone. About the kids laughing at her.. that is really horrible but that is the way kids are at a young age. It's hard to stop that so she just needs to ignore it. She needs to love herself and accept herself before anyone else can too!
Reply:I wouldnt bring it up, but rather wait until the next time she says "Im so overweight". Dont agree with her, but maybe say something like "maybe we could start going to the gym together" - and you could add "Id like to get more in shape myself". We could all use to exercise more, and that way you arent making her feel bad.
Or you could even start a diet, and then ask her if she wants to join you. Its always easier to lose weight and stay committed if you have a buddy.
Just focus on being Healthy, and not her being overweight. If she exercises and eats better she will start losing weight, but you dont wont her to obsess about weight either.
One more idea, start planning activities that include physical excise.
If diet and exercise dont work, encourage her to see a doctor about possible medical reasons for her weight.
Hope this helps!
Reply:if she just keeps complaining just be like stop complaining and do something about it
Reply:My advice to u is, if u tel her that's she is fat or u try to help her. She going to get her feelings hurt, sory. Just try to be most sensitive and nice towards her. Say u care about her and her health and that u don't like people laughing at her behind her back. Hope that helps.
Ur a sweet good friend and we need more people like u on this earth.
Reply:Say you will help her watch her weight. You will have her come over and you will prepare her a good meal that is nutritious yet tastes good. You can also eat it with her to encourage her. Then you can set up days of the week to go do a different activity. One day go play basketball, jog, lift weights... Like 2 to 3 times a week depending on how much she wants to lose. Maybe not just you and your "overweight" friend but the rest of your friends could get in on it too. Even if you guys are small exercising is good for everyone.
Reply:Tell her to put down the fork.
Reply:if you guys go out too eat or something go to a healthy store.
or invite her to go to a gym or something like that. it seems like your embarrassed to be around her because weight shouldn't matter.
Reply:Whenever she says something stop making her feel better, she is just wanting it for self esteem. I would just say if you feel that way about yourself then why dont you do something about it. Nothing I say is going to change how you feel about yourself. Or just say, you always say that or ask me if you're fat...I would really appreciate not talking about it
Reply:I think youre friend know how overweight she is already ...just when you try each other clothes ,even a backpack...she didnt want to be told it "fat" ... just let her know if she needs your help , you will be there to support her as a good friend...this will do..
Reply:you dont have to tell her that she is overweight
just start doing some active activities with her
Like for example join a sport and tell her it would be really fun if she joined it with you, or go jogging and ask her if she wants to come with you.
Or if that doesn't work than you should sit down with her and tell her really nicely that she is overweight and tell her that you will help her lose weight if she wants to .........
be a good friend yo her!!
Reply:like the first person said.
how about you all find a gym or get a workout routine or something like that and after school you all get together and work out. so she doesnt feel singled out make it so all three of you do it together.
Reply:Maybe u should just starting doing more fun active outside and invite her along like just going for walks ,boweling ,swimming you get the idea .
Or you and your friends can just sit her down and explain to her.. like next time she brings it just be like hey just go on a diet if u hate it that much and see what she says. Say u like her for who she is but you don't like the fact that he doesn't like her weight.. thats a way of saying hat u don't like her weight but turning it around so your thinking about her best interests at heart
Reply:well you should hangout with her... alot so you can influence her.... like instead of you guys watching a movie... ride bikes or walk down the street tell her its so you can just get some "fresh air" then instead of her eating idk lets just say ben and jerry's just eat.... idk say.... a 100 calorie snack pack..... i hope this helps...
Reply:Why don't you guys set up an exercise routine together and ask her to join you. If you are doing it together it will motivate her to take care of herself.
Reply:Ok, the next time she complains about being fat, ask her if she wants to go running, or to a dancing class or something which may help her lose weight... I'm sure she wants to do something about it, and with her friends support, I'm sure it will help her.
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I think my niece stole one of my dauhgters toys. whats the best way to confront her/her mom to get the toy?
BACK?? she is 8 eyars old
I think my niece stole one of my dauhgters toys. whats the best way to confront her/her mom to get the toy?
I'd say something like this: Remember the other day when you brought (name of child) over to play? I think she may have accidently taken a toy home with her. (Your daughter's name) really misses it; it's her favorite toy. Remember, never EVER accuse anyone's child of "stealing" even if they did. You don't want hurt feelings. Always make it sound like it wasn't on purpose.
Reply:Ask the mom whether her daughter brought the toy home. You don't have to say "stole." If the mom is cooperative, she will look for it; or maybe she has already seen it. If the mom isn't cooperative, be more careful about having the niece visit.
I had a similar situation, but I didn't even know the neighbor girl's mom. So I went to her house and asked if her daughter had brought a Tomagotchi home. She said yes, her daughter said my daughter gave it to her, and she (mom) hadn't wanted her daughter to have one! She called her daughter who still lied about it; then one of the girl's friends called to me from a tree (!) and handed me the Tomagotchi; she said the thief girl had asked her to hold it for her! The little thief then swore it was her cousin who gave her the Tomagotchi, while her mom tried to get her to quit lying; and at this point, having gotten the toy back, my daughter and I went home.
Reply:"(daughter) let (niece) borrow one of her toys. (daughter) really misses it and is too shy to ask (niece) for it back. I was wondering if you could bring it next time you come over please."
Reply:Call your sis and ask her to ask her daughter if she knows where what ever is missing is. That you can't find it and was wondering if she remembered where the girls put it.
Maybe it is just miss placed in the house some where or maybe they left it outside. You better be real sure of what is going on before you accuse a child of stealing. They will never forget it. If they are falsely accused.
Reply:Well I would ask your Sis or SIL to check her house you saw her daughter with the toy and not sure where it went! Your wondering if she grabbed it by accident, bc of being in a rush! Not rude just being inquisitive!! Oh and if she says no but you see it then maybe a problem, but deal w that later!
Reply:All you say is ....
Phone her - You know what I can't find .....'s toy anywhere - It's driving me mad! She's really upset - I don't suppose you picked it up by mistake? I can't think where it is!
Therefore - asking mum not accusing her daughter! Kids do that kind of thing - it's not something to make an issue of!
Reply:Phone her, and say something like:
"Hey, last time little Ashley was over she may have walked away with one of Tina's toys. My daughter thinks it went home with her (or whatever reason you have for thinking she took it). Do you have it? Tina really misses it."
I wouldn't call it confronting her, it's all about being civil. No need to make a federal case about it.
Reply:Can you prove your niece has the toy? If not then you have no cause to confront the child's mother or the child.
Reply:Just pick up the phone call and say that while she was over at your house you think you accidentally got your daughters___ mixed up with hers and could she please check in her room and see so you can quit searching for it. This way you arent accusing her and if it is there you will get it back and then the next time the kid comes over search her bag before she leaves.
I think my niece stole one of my dauhgters toys. whats the best way to confront her/her mom to get the toy?
I'd say something like this: Remember the other day when you brought (name of child) over to play? I think she may have accidently taken a toy home with her. (Your daughter's name) really misses it; it's her favorite toy. Remember, never EVER accuse anyone's child of "stealing" even if they did. You don't want hurt feelings. Always make it sound like it wasn't on purpose.
Reply:Ask the mom whether her daughter brought the toy home. You don't have to say "stole." If the mom is cooperative, she will look for it; or maybe she has already seen it. If the mom isn't cooperative, be more careful about having the niece visit.
I had a similar situation, but I didn't even know the neighbor girl's mom. So I went to her house and asked if her daughter had brought a Tomagotchi home. She said yes, her daughter said my daughter gave it to her, and she (mom) hadn't wanted her daughter to have one! She called her daughter who still lied about it; then one of the girl's friends called to me from a tree (!) and handed me the Tomagotchi; she said the thief girl had asked her to hold it for her! The little thief then swore it was her cousin who gave her the Tomagotchi, while her mom tried to get her to quit lying; and at this point, having gotten the toy back, my daughter and I went home.
Reply:"(daughter) let (niece) borrow one of her toys. (daughter) really misses it and is too shy to ask (niece) for it back. I was wondering if you could bring it next time you come over please."
Reply:Call your sis and ask her to ask her daughter if she knows where what ever is missing is. That you can't find it and was wondering if she remembered where the girls put it.
Maybe it is just miss placed in the house some where or maybe they left it outside. You better be real sure of what is going on before you accuse a child of stealing. They will never forget it. If they are falsely accused.
Reply:Well I would ask your Sis or SIL to check her house you saw her daughter with the toy and not sure where it went! Your wondering if she grabbed it by accident, bc of being in a rush! Not rude just being inquisitive!! Oh and if she says no but you see it then maybe a problem, but deal w that later!
Reply:All you say is ....
Phone her - You know what I can't find .....'s toy anywhere - It's driving me mad! She's really upset - I don't suppose you picked it up by mistake? I can't think where it is!
Therefore - asking mum not accusing her daughter! Kids do that kind of thing - it's not something to make an issue of!
Reply:Phone her, and say something like:
"Hey, last time little Ashley was over she may have walked away with one of Tina's toys. My daughter thinks it went home with her (or whatever reason you have for thinking she took it). Do you have it? Tina really misses it."
I wouldn't call it confronting her, it's all about being civil. No need to make a federal case about it.
Reply:Can you prove your niece has the toy? If not then you have no cause to confront the child's mother or the child.
Reply:Just pick up the phone call and say that while she was over at your house you think you accidentally got your daughters___ mixed up with hers and could she please check in her room and see so you can quit searching for it. This way you arent accusing her and if it is there you will get it back and then the next time the kid comes over search her bag before she leaves.
What do the numbers in a squad mean in military terms?
I want to know what it means for a squad to be called something such as i.e 141st easy company or 5002nd dog platoon, like stuff like that what do those numbers mean, are they teh eyars your company or squad has been in service, is it some form or ranking your squad, or what?
What do the numbers in a squad mean in military terms?
Its not anything special. Or it wasn't special until Units had a History to be proud of.
For instance I was once in D (delta) Battery, 2ND Battalion, 1st Air Defense Artillery. short form D/2/1 ADA
I was also in Charlie Company 440Th Signal Battalion.
72ND ATC Det
HQ and HQ Co 93rd Sig Bde
HQ 35Th Sig Bde ABN
TCLSC-E
and so on.
its just the numbers most were assigned.
Reply:the number is what unit they are in. The first letter of letter means either A, B, C, D, and so forth. Instead of A company on radio Alpha company and so forth. That way A does not sound like B or C. When I say Alpha or Albert then you no I am not saying Bravo or Boy. Cuts down on confusion on the radio also.
Reply:Check this site for info on how unit designations are determined.
http://www.globalsecurity.org/military/a...
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What do the numbers in a squad mean in military terms?
Its not anything special. Or it wasn't special until Units had a History to be proud of.
For instance I was once in D (delta) Battery, 2ND Battalion, 1st Air Defense Artillery. short form D/2/1 ADA
I was also in Charlie Company 440Th Signal Battalion.
72ND ATC Det
HQ and HQ Co 93rd Sig Bde
HQ 35Th Sig Bde ABN
TCLSC-E
and so on.
its just the numbers most were assigned.
Reply:the number is what unit they are in. The first letter of letter means either A, B, C, D, and so forth. Instead of A company on radio Alpha company and so forth. That way A does not sound like B or C. When I say Alpha or Albert then you no I am not saying Bravo or Boy. Cuts down on confusion on the radio also.
Reply:Check this site for info on how unit designations are determined.
http://www.globalsecurity.org/military/a...
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PROFILE EDITOR DISABLED ALL MY HTML help!?
i used myspace profile editor but i didnt like it so i clicked cleare all
then i found a layout i really like di pasted it into the about me, but it dosnt work, i pasted other things like image codes and nothing works. the stupid thing disbaled it! AND I DONT KNOW WHAT TI DO
ive had my myspace for three eyars and i dont wnat to delete and start again!
PROFILE EDITOR DISABLED ALL MY HTML help!?
i guess you just have to erase everything from the profile editor or something..
..i don't know. I never used it before, but I thought I saw a question like this somewhere.
then i found a layout i really like di pasted it into the about me, but it dosnt work, i pasted other things like image codes and nothing works. the stupid thing disbaled it! AND I DONT KNOW WHAT TI DO
ive had my myspace for three eyars and i dont wnat to delete and start again!
PROFILE EDITOR DISABLED ALL MY HTML help!?
i guess you just have to erase everything from the profile editor or something..
..i don't know. I never used it before, but I thought I saw a question like this somewhere.
Life out of the Peace Corps?
What kinds of opportunies are there once you complete your two years with the Peace Corps. I have been thinking about joining the Peace Corps for the past three eyars and only now am I seriously considering it.
Life out of the Peace Corps?
On one day in May 1968 I opened my mailbox at college and 1)got a letter of acceptance into the Peace Corp, 2)an offer to become an officer in the Navy (during Vietnam), or 3)work for a big defense company in Orlando, Fla. (before Disneyland was built).
I chose to go into the Navy but I often think of the other alternatives... the point of my story is that you never know where life will take you once you start down a road. That said, in the Navy I did see much of the world and met many people who were in the Peace Corps. The most important lesson I learned at that time was how important it was to see and try to understand the whole world. As a result of getting away from the US and seeing how other people lived, I saw opportunities where other people saw none.
Now I am retired and living on a tropical island in Indonesia. Most people in the US would never think of living in another country. Why? Because they have never really experienced anything outside of the US - the rest of the world is kind of strange and scary to them.
Serving in the Peace Corp will show you many new doors to places you never knew existed before. Which door you choose is entirely up to you. Some people choose to work in charitable organizations, while others take advantage of the vast new business opportunities opening up all around the world. You will gain both a perspective on life and knowledge about the other 95% of the people who live outside the United States.
No one has a crystal ball that can tell you what your future opportunities might be. All that can be said for certain is your horizons will be much broader and you will see opportunities much clearer by having served in the Peace Corp. Plus your whole life will be enriched by the experience.
I suggest you travel down that road...it's a wonderful place to start. And afterwards, when you get to the next crossroads in life, you will have opportunities open to you that you never even knew existed before.
Reply:That sounds great! What a terrific idea. A lot of employers really like Peace Corps service -- it shows that you have initiative and can deal with difficulties.
Reply:Firstly, know that most people who apply to be in the PeaceCorps are NOT accepted -- it is a highly competative process. You don't get to decide to join the PeaceCorps -- you can only decide to apply. More tips on volunteering overseas at the web site listed below.
Companies are attracted to returned PeaceCorps members because they have international experience, have gone through highly stressful, emotionally-intensive situations, and have navigated endless governmental bureacracies and cultural mindfields.
What you do post PeaceCorps is up to you -- I know returned members who went to work in the international office of the US Census Bureau, USAID, computer companies with international customers, and nonprofit organizations. What opportunities are open to you depends on your areas of expertise and the kind of work you would do abroad.
Reply:These are all terrific pieces of advice. The only thing I'd add is there is nothing like talking to a Peace Corps alum for advice. A great resource is the returned Peace Corps volunteer association -- http://www.rpcv.org/
Life out of the Peace Corps?
On one day in May 1968 I opened my mailbox at college and 1)got a letter of acceptance into the Peace Corp, 2)an offer to become an officer in the Navy (during Vietnam), or 3)work for a big defense company in Orlando, Fla. (before Disneyland was built).
I chose to go into the Navy but I often think of the other alternatives... the point of my story is that you never know where life will take you once you start down a road. That said, in the Navy I did see much of the world and met many people who were in the Peace Corps. The most important lesson I learned at that time was how important it was to see and try to understand the whole world. As a result of getting away from the US and seeing how other people lived, I saw opportunities where other people saw none.
Now I am retired and living on a tropical island in Indonesia. Most people in the US would never think of living in another country. Why? Because they have never really experienced anything outside of the US - the rest of the world is kind of strange and scary to them.
Serving in the Peace Corp will show you many new doors to places you never knew existed before. Which door you choose is entirely up to you. Some people choose to work in charitable organizations, while others take advantage of the vast new business opportunities opening up all around the world. You will gain both a perspective on life and knowledge about the other 95% of the people who live outside the United States.
No one has a crystal ball that can tell you what your future opportunities might be. All that can be said for certain is your horizons will be much broader and you will see opportunities much clearer by having served in the Peace Corp. Plus your whole life will be enriched by the experience.
I suggest you travel down that road...it's a wonderful place to start. And afterwards, when you get to the next crossroads in life, you will have opportunities open to you that you never even knew existed before.
Reply:That sounds great! What a terrific idea. A lot of employers really like Peace Corps service -- it shows that you have initiative and can deal with difficulties.
Reply:Firstly, know that most people who apply to be in the PeaceCorps are NOT accepted -- it is a highly competative process. You don't get to decide to join the PeaceCorps -- you can only decide to apply. More tips on volunteering overseas at the web site listed below.
Companies are attracted to returned PeaceCorps members because they have international experience, have gone through highly stressful, emotionally-intensive situations, and have navigated endless governmental bureacracies and cultural mindfields.
What you do post PeaceCorps is up to you -- I know returned members who went to work in the international office of the US Census Bureau, USAID, computer companies with international customers, and nonprofit organizations. What opportunities are open to you depends on your areas of expertise and the kind of work you would do abroad.
Reply:These are all terrific pieces of advice. The only thing I'd add is there is nothing like talking to a Peace Corps alum for advice. A great resource is the returned Peace Corps volunteer association -- http://www.rpcv.org/
I am from here and marred a woman from R?
I am from here and marred a woman from Russia in 2006.I am with her more than 4 eyars .We have 3 kids. Now she is a order a removal.( We tryed to appeal twais but (judge answer was) %26lt;NO%26gt;
What to do???
I am from here and marred a woman from R?
It's a bit late in the day, but you should start by talking to an immigration attorney. I take it you never filed an immigrant visa petition for her. Why not? Since we don't know the story based on the few details you provide, there isn't much anyone can tell you, so go find an attorney as soon as possible and see what options, if any, you may have.
Reply:You should have applied for a fiance visa here in the US to bring here over. Or, if you married here, applied for a green card right away. Now, there is nothing you can do.
Reply:You say you are from here???? But you can't speak Bl**dy English?????
Go to Russia with her....so I'd start packing.
Reply:If she has appealed to the highest court, then unfortunately in this situation there is nothing more that you can do. Sorry.
What to do???
I am from here and marred a woman from R?
It's a bit late in the day, but you should start by talking to an immigration attorney. I take it you never filed an immigrant visa petition for her. Why not? Since we don't know the story based on the few details you provide, there isn't much anyone can tell you, so go find an attorney as soon as possible and see what options, if any, you may have.
Reply:You should have applied for a fiance visa here in the US to bring here over. Or, if you married here, applied for a green card right away. Now, there is nothing you can do.
Reply:You say you are from here???? But you can't speak Bl**dy English?????
Go to Russia with her....so I'd start packing.
Reply:If she has appealed to the highest court, then unfortunately in this situation there is nothing more that you can do. Sorry.
Does anyone know where i can get a ride on plush unicorn ?
a few years ago i purchased a ride on unicorn for my daughter
it was pink and huge which sits on her bed but i tried searching ebay only to find 2 available and they are in melbourne and the people dont deliver.
i paid $100 for the one i purchased eyars ago but now id love to get another for my new daughter so they both have one each .
but i cant find them anywhere .
can anyone help me .
Does anyone know where i can get a ride on plush unicorn ?
What is your contact? We have a toy store %26amp; might be able to order one ... where state are you? (for freight).....
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it was pink and huge which sits on her bed but i tried searching ebay only to find 2 available and they are in melbourne and the people dont deliver.
i paid $100 for the one i purchased eyars ago but now id love to get another for my new daughter so they both have one each .
but i cant find them anywhere .
can anyone help me .
Does anyone know where i can get a ride on plush unicorn ?
What is your contact? We have a toy store %26amp; might be able to order one ... where state are you? (for freight).....
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Monday, May 4, 2009
I cant trust him?
but thats only cos my ex broke my trust. he promised to be the best guy in the world and he even fooled me and others into thinkin he was great etcetc
well then he cheated on me
so now im finding it hard to trust anyone especially the new guy, hes great he really is known him for years and stuff but im scared that just like the old ex put on a mask to show that he was a good guy, what if this guy is the same...cos it always happens to me. i never like the guys, they always like me first, then as soon as i like them back something always goes wrong and they cheat, or do something similar.
and now this guy whose always loved me [he says] for eyars, im scared he will be the same ....
I cant trust him?
we've all been there! i've just managed to get over that one myself!
at the end of the day, we've all had guys in the past that have taken us for a mug and cheated on us, broken our trust but we cannot take this out on our new partners.
if you dont have trust in a relationship, what have you actually got??
you've known him for a while so you should have a very good idea to what he's like.
i think you need to try and bury what has happened to you in the past. its all about finding mr right! and there's gonna be quite a few frogs about to break our heart before we find our prince!
like the saying goes "love like you've never been hurt!!"
Reply:Its human nature to be wary after being hurt, a defence mechanism of sorts. However you can't paint all men with the same brush because you got a faulty can of paint. Its not fair to punish him for the mistakes of someone else. If he's good to you then nothing else matters. We can't go through life shying away from hurt, that's no way to live.
If you go outside you might get hit by a car but does that mean you should stay at home covering under the blankets?
Reply:I understand y u are scared, i would be scared too. but if have known for years.... and if u and him have been kind of close for a while.... don't u think u should give him a chance.... I know every girl thinks almost every guy is the same. but trust me - they r not no where near it....
and I know u don't want to get hurt again. but i say just take a chance on this one.. maybe he will be the right one and prove u wrong.
Reply:If you ever want to be in a relationship and happy you have to conquer those demons and learn to be happy. You have to ignore the fact you had a realy nasty boyfriend and accept someone new does like you and is prepared to be with you. Dont be scared, just go with the flow and date and have fun. He will show you how interested he is in you, texts, gifts, etc. he will not be like other selfish men. And if he does know women you have to learn to trust him.
Reply:you cannot base everything on your ex. every person is different. doesnt mean that all the guys out there are cheats.
but i do understand, that you been hurt once, so you are not too sure now, about this new guy.
well, forget your ex. don't rush with this new guy. take your time. and get to know him first. but you can't compare him to your ex. that's a mistake that most of us do.
Reply:are you the same as every other girl? what about any other girl?
if not then why should he be the same as every other guy? or any other guy? for instance the last one?
if you are going to hold on to that while your with him you can trust that you will push him away, and maybe push him into anther girls arms (possibly subconciously just to see if he would, which is hardly fair on him as that puts hurdles there he shouldnt have jump over).
a suggestion, instead of focusing on wether a person is trustable - make it about what you can trust them with.
I trust my ex to sleep around, I trust my one mate to spend a fiver I leave at his place, but always return a fone and to be there should I need him. I trust those I dont know with things I feel ok to lose, to start with. butt first and formost I trust others cos I trust myself - I trust myself in dealing with it if it goes wrong, I trust myself in dealing with it goes well, and I trust that I will be happier with not being fearful all the time, always wondering where the next failing is going to be (that sort of thing is really undermining of a lot, very destructive).
that way may not suit you, but I would suggest finding a way that works for you that doesnt undermine all of your and his efforts.
Reply:Its hard for you , but eventually you will regain the ability to trust, and this guy who you've known for years, who's not the same as your ex, is there ready to love you. He deserves a chance doesn't he? Tell him how you feel and let him know that you really want to be able to trust him but that you are not yet properly healed from your last bad experience. Tell him you need some time to overcome your fears even though you realise that he is not in any way the same as your cheating ex boyfriend. If he really is the good guy who has been in love with you for years, then he won't mind if it takes just a little longer to gain your love and trust.
Reply:gotta trust untill he gives you a good reason not too,
Reply:It takes a leap of faith. Sort of like gambling. You don't really know for sure if you have a winning hand til you place your bet. Be careful about revisiting your past too often. It hurts when the one you love betrays you. Accept it and move on. If you keep making comparisons between the old and the new you may just get what you are looking for.....to get hurt again.
well then he cheated on me
so now im finding it hard to trust anyone especially the new guy, hes great he really is known him for years and stuff but im scared that just like the old ex put on a mask to show that he was a good guy, what if this guy is the same...cos it always happens to me. i never like the guys, they always like me first, then as soon as i like them back something always goes wrong and they cheat, or do something similar.
and now this guy whose always loved me [he says] for eyars, im scared he will be the same ....
I cant trust him?
we've all been there! i've just managed to get over that one myself!
at the end of the day, we've all had guys in the past that have taken us for a mug and cheated on us, broken our trust but we cannot take this out on our new partners.
if you dont have trust in a relationship, what have you actually got??
you've known him for a while so you should have a very good idea to what he's like.
i think you need to try and bury what has happened to you in the past. its all about finding mr right! and there's gonna be quite a few frogs about to break our heart before we find our prince!
like the saying goes "love like you've never been hurt!!"
Reply:Its human nature to be wary after being hurt, a defence mechanism of sorts. However you can't paint all men with the same brush because you got a faulty can of paint. Its not fair to punish him for the mistakes of someone else. If he's good to you then nothing else matters. We can't go through life shying away from hurt, that's no way to live.
If you go outside you might get hit by a car but does that mean you should stay at home covering under the blankets?
Reply:I understand y u are scared, i would be scared too. but if have known for years.... and if u and him have been kind of close for a while.... don't u think u should give him a chance.... I know every girl thinks almost every guy is the same. but trust me - they r not no where near it....
and I know u don't want to get hurt again. but i say just take a chance on this one.. maybe he will be the right one and prove u wrong.
Reply:If you ever want to be in a relationship and happy you have to conquer those demons and learn to be happy. You have to ignore the fact you had a realy nasty boyfriend and accept someone new does like you and is prepared to be with you. Dont be scared, just go with the flow and date and have fun. He will show you how interested he is in you, texts, gifts, etc. he will not be like other selfish men. And if he does know women you have to learn to trust him.
Reply:you cannot base everything on your ex. every person is different. doesnt mean that all the guys out there are cheats.
but i do understand, that you been hurt once, so you are not too sure now, about this new guy.
well, forget your ex. don't rush with this new guy. take your time. and get to know him first. but you can't compare him to your ex. that's a mistake that most of us do.
Reply:are you the same as every other girl? what about any other girl?
if not then why should he be the same as every other guy? or any other guy? for instance the last one?
if you are going to hold on to that while your with him you can trust that you will push him away, and maybe push him into anther girls arms (possibly subconciously just to see if he would, which is hardly fair on him as that puts hurdles there he shouldnt have jump over).
a suggestion, instead of focusing on wether a person is trustable - make it about what you can trust them with.
I trust my ex to sleep around, I trust my one mate to spend a fiver I leave at his place, but always return a fone and to be there should I need him. I trust those I dont know with things I feel ok to lose, to start with. butt first and formost I trust others cos I trust myself - I trust myself in dealing with it if it goes wrong, I trust myself in dealing with it goes well, and I trust that I will be happier with not being fearful all the time, always wondering where the next failing is going to be (that sort of thing is really undermining of a lot, very destructive).
that way may not suit you, but I would suggest finding a way that works for you that doesnt undermine all of your and his efforts.
Reply:Its hard for you , but eventually you will regain the ability to trust, and this guy who you've known for years, who's not the same as your ex, is there ready to love you. He deserves a chance doesn't he? Tell him how you feel and let him know that you really want to be able to trust him but that you are not yet properly healed from your last bad experience. Tell him you need some time to overcome your fears even though you realise that he is not in any way the same as your cheating ex boyfriend. If he really is the good guy who has been in love with you for years, then he won't mind if it takes just a little longer to gain your love and trust.
Reply:gotta trust untill he gives you a good reason not too,
Reply:It takes a leap of faith. Sort of like gambling. You don't really know for sure if you have a winning hand til you place your bet. Be careful about revisiting your past too often. It hurts when the one you love betrays you. Accept it and move on. If you keep making comparisons between the old and the new you may just get what you are looking for.....to get hurt again.
2 girls i like??
right i really like 2 girls iw ork with all 3 of us are part time and im ahving a hard decision of who to ask out we are all freinds and ive noticed smiling staring personal conversation and fidling with uniforms and ahir while speaking to me.
my question is which 1 do i go with 1 is same age as me 18, no ties she's sexy funny and beutifull personality, now the other is 20 eyars old has a child but is greast looking great personality and a great eprson to be around so if you were me and absed on the descriptions ive given you which would you choose i like them both fairly equally adn feel i could build a relationship with either 1 of them
2 girls i like??
Yes
Reply:go with tha one your age
Reply:Doesn't matter, both are evil.
Reply:why do you have to choose now?
be their friend and tell them that you are not thinking of being involved with anyone at the moment.
by time you will discover things in their personalities and lives and will make you decide easily.
Reply:im not digging the whole kid thing, do you want to raise a kid thats not yours?
my question is which 1 do i go with 1 is same age as me 18, no ties she's sexy funny and beutifull personality, now the other is 20 eyars old has a child but is greast looking great personality and a great eprson to be around so if you were me and absed on the descriptions ive given you which would you choose i like them both fairly equally adn feel i could build a relationship with either 1 of them
2 girls i like??
Yes
Reply:go with tha one your age
Reply:Doesn't matter, both are evil.
Reply:why do you have to choose now?
be their friend and tell them that you are not thinking of being involved with anyone at the moment.
by time you will discover things in their personalities and lives and will make you decide easily.
Reply:im not digging the whole kid thing, do you want to raise a kid thats not yours?
Will sex robots/virtual sex matrix (whateva) one day solve all our sexual problems or sex stigmas?
In my mind, if you have this at your availability, girls could have sex with brad pitt, and I could have sex with pamela anderson, male teenagers could get rid of their pure sexual urge during the eyars of 15-21...and despreate housewives could get rid of these as well during their 35-50 period....and then we could really focus not on sex, but dealing with the relationship, the personality and whether he/she is a compatible partner...and then focus on sex as a second, albeit important priority.
I beleive sex can sour beautiful friendships, and is not conductive to long lasting healthy and fruitful things.
I say this after reading that In 2020, it is projected that computer swill have the complexity of the human mind in terms of operations per second.
Will sex robots/virtual sex matrix (whateva) one day solve all our sexual problems or sex stigmas?
i think sex bots would be a great idea(human like)...although nothing compares to a real human touch.
Reply:You already have Sex-Bots, However they are Whores, males or females there is no gender distinction, as I see it, these Sex- Bots charge for their services and somewhere down the line they lose all human feeling, now doesn't that make them Sex-Bots?. Report It
Reply:sex-bots could be addictive... but they would provide a clean means to having a first time experience...no stds and such... it could prove quite educational, but there's is potential to fall falsely in love with a sex-bot...this would be like planting dragon teeth... hmmm, good question... but if you ever read piers anthony's books on the "blue adept," it does address some of these issues...
Reply:I don't know...
But...
If female robots have wild mood swings caused by mechanical PMS, and they take out their anger on male robots...
Well...
It's only fair...
Those poor robot bastards...!
Reply:hmm....I don't know if it will solve all our sexual problems. But it would be definitely more 'precious' than the stuff that's in porn, that's for sure.
Reply:Sex is Over-rated...
Reply:Not really.
As long as people know the difference, they will not be psychologically satisfied with the fake act.
Reply:Sex is a precious thing between two people yes, with virtual beings no.
Reply:Were do I sign up !?
Reply:I think that most sexual problems are human compatibility problems, and human compatibility problems are not going to be solved by a newer, faster, sexier computer...no matter what advertising tries to sell you.
...if "virtual reality" is real, why does it need a modifier?
I beleive sex can sour beautiful friendships, and is not conductive to long lasting healthy and fruitful things.
I say this after reading that In 2020, it is projected that computer swill have the complexity of the human mind in terms of operations per second.
Will sex robots/virtual sex matrix (whateva) one day solve all our sexual problems or sex stigmas?
i think sex bots would be a great idea(human like)...although nothing compares to a real human touch.
Reply:You already have Sex-Bots, However they are Whores, males or females there is no gender distinction, as I see it, these Sex- Bots charge for their services and somewhere down the line they lose all human feeling, now doesn't that make them Sex-Bots?. Report It
Reply:sex-bots could be addictive... but they would provide a clean means to having a first time experience...no stds and such... it could prove quite educational, but there's is potential to fall falsely in love with a sex-bot...this would be like planting dragon teeth... hmmm, good question... but if you ever read piers anthony's books on the "blue adept," it does address some of these issues...
Reply:I don't know...
But...
If female robots have wild mood swings caused by mechanical PMS, and they take out their anger on male robots...
Well...
It's only fair...
Those poor robot bastards...!
Reply:hmm....I don't know if it will solve all our sexual problems. But it would be definitely more 'precious' than the stuff that's in porn, that's for sure.
Reply:Sex is Over-rated...
Reply:Not really.
As long as people know the difference, they will not be psychologically satisfied with the fake act.
Reply:Sex is a precious thing between two people yes, with virtual beings no.
Reply:Were do I sign up !?
Reply:I think that most sexual problems are human compatibility problems, and human compatibility problems are not going to be solved by a newer, faster, sexier computer...no matter what advertising tries to sell you.
...if "virtual reality" is real, why does it need a modifier?
Who is happy with that Chelsea tie?
I didn't think that my eyars could smile!!!!:)
glory glory man utd
Who is happy with that Chelsea tie?
My fingers and toes are smiling as well!
Reply:Manchester United fans, of course.
Reply:i am...
glory man utd
Reply:and i thought that chelsea were going to win the match b/c they wanted to make an advantages of our tie and i turned out to be wrong..because Chelsea cant even beat a team like newcastle...!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Reply:my bon bon smiles
Reply:wow the end of that game was tense i even missed the oc for it! I kept wishing for a newcastle goal but i didnt wanna push my luck!
Reply:No....Chelsea should have lost.
Reply:It was inevitable that they too would slip up somewhere despite what all the fans were claiming. !!
and yes I am smiling, because of all the comments made about Man U on here yesterday..I am smiling big time!!
Reply:Well all the Manchester United fans are definately happy with this result.
Reply:certainly sleeping tonight with a smile on my face.
bwa ha ha %26lt;evil laugh%26gt;
Reply:I'am happy :))))
Reply:I'm pretty ecstatic.
puppy teeth
glory glory man utd
Who is happy with that Chelsea tie?
My fingers and toes are smiling as well!
Reply:Manchester United fans, of course.
Reply:i am...
glory man utd
Reply:and i thought that chelsea were going to win the match b/c they wanted to make an advantages of our tie and i turned out to be wrong..because Chelsea cant even beat a team like newcastle...!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Reply:my bon bon smiles
Reply:wow the end of that game was tense i even missed the oc for it! I kept wishing for a newcastle goal but i didnt wanna push my luck!
Reply:No....Chelsea should have lost.
Reply:It was inevitable that they too would slip up somewhere despite what all the fans were claiming. !!
and yes I am smiling, because of all the comments made about Man U on here yesterday..I am smiling big time!!
Reply:Well all the Manchester United fans are definately happy with this result.
Reply:certainly sleeping tonight with a smile on my face.
bwa ha ha %26lt;evil laugh%26gt;
Reply:I'am happy :))))
Reply:I'm pretty ecstatic.
puppy teeth
Do all shops open new years eve and new years day in london?
do all shops open new eyars eve and new years day in london
Do all shops open new years eve and new years day in london?
Sunday trading laws apply for New Years Eve, which means that apart from any 7-11 Spar-type convienience stores pretty much everywhere will be sticking to either 10am-4pm or 11am-5pm.
As far as New Years Day is concerned, most places will be open, but sticking to Bank Holiday hours. Allowing for staff hangovers and the like, most places will probably stick to Sunday trading hours again - opening at 10am or 11am and possibly going through to 5pm or 6pm, but this is at their descretion and if the staff can be found who are sober enough to be able to work.
Why can't everybody just wait until 2nd January and actually let these poor underpaid shop assistants have a day off and enjoy some time with their families instead of worrying about shop opening hours?
Reply:lol metal mickey really is meatal
I want to know the same thing beside we need shopping
Reply:No, New Years Day is a bank holiday, so shops have to follow certain trading rules, lots of shops will be open but these will be for reduced hours.
On New Years Eve, as it is a Sunday, the Sunday trading laws apply.
Do all shops open new years eve and new years day in london?
Sunday trading laws apply for New Years Eve, which means that apart from any 7-11 Spar-type convienience stores pretty much everywhere will be sticking to either 10am-4pm or 11am-5pm.
As far as New Years Day is concerned, most places will be open, but sticking to Bank Holiday hours. Allowing for staff hangovers and the like, most places will probably stick to Sunday trading hours again - opening at 10am or 11am and possibly going through to 5pm or 6pm, but this is at their descretion and if the staff can be found who are sober enough to be able to work.
Why can't everybody just wait until 2nd January and actually let these poor underpaid shop assistants have a day off and enjoy some time with their families instead of worrying about shop opening hours?
Reply:lol metal mickey really is meatal
I want to know the same thing beside we need shopping
Reply:No, New Years Day is a bank holiday, so shops have to follow certain trading rules, lots of shops will be open but these will be for reduced hours.
On New Years Eve, as it is a Sunday, the Sunday trading laws apply.
When will Christians STOP citing Josephus?
The passage in Antiwuities that mentions Jesus was stuck in there 250 eyars later. Schoalrs who are not committed Fundamentalists conclude that it's bogus.
Here's why:
1) It's stylistically different from the rest of the text.
2) Remove it, and it reads smoothly.
3) No early Christian cites Josephus, as they would if it mentioned Jesus.
4) Origen (185-254) wrote that there's no mention of Jesus in Josephus, AND that he never believed in any Messiah.
5) Interesting how in his book there are a lot of gys named "jesus"-- all in the Hebrew form, Yeshua. EXCEPT in the interpolated text, in which his name is oddly given in its erroneous Greek form, Jesus.
6) In Jewish War, Josephus expresses contempt for all messianic agitators, blaming them for the nation's ruin.
7) He also claims that Vespasian fulfilled all the Messianic prophecies. So how likely is it that he'd gush about Jesus?
When will Christians STOP citing Josephus?
You should give 'em something to look at. Modern biblical scholarship makes a very compelling case for the idea that Jesus never existed... that he was, in fact, entirely fictional.
The Jesus Puzzle
http://jesuspuzzle.humanists.net/home.ht...
Of course, true 'believers' will never look... they're afraid that they might see something that actually makes sense, and will shake the foundations of their faith.
Reply:The interesting thing about the historical existence of Jesus is it doesn't matter. If some person named Yeshua ben Yoseph did live and die at 1st century Palestine, that would not make him devine. He could just have been one of many religious rabble rousers that come up in times of trouble like Joseph Smith or Muhammad ibn Abd al-Wahhab, the guy who started Wahhabi Islam.
Don't mean a word of it is true.
Reply:the fact that some use josephus in their arguements is to give a
corelation of secular history that jives with times and events as
written in the Bible.It seems that so many folks try so hard to
prove that what is written in the Bible is folk lore or myth,that when
someone does show a direct link between secular and bible
cronology they immediatly jump on and try to discredit it as un-
true.although in theroy that one shoud accept what a non biblical
author penned.
Reply:What seems to be your major malfunction.
What the H*** do you want?
What an antagonist.
Do you enjoy making people angry?
Do you enjoy aggravating people?
You remind me of my brother -in law.
He went insane.
Even the picture you chose is aggravating.
He kept it up until he just went insane.
He asked for it and he got it.
Reply:Good information.
Reply:Added fact: I have have heard two Rabbis (one Reform and one Orthodox) say that Josephus's writing was more of a tabloid style, alot of hearsay, and cannot be completely believed.
Reply:The bible clearly states when Jesus lived and died. That is my reference. You believe what you want. I believe the bible.
Reply:Eye has not seen nor ear heard!!!!! Explain that to me silly....
Reply:The people who did write about Jesus are said to be unbelievable because their writings got included in what we call the Bible.
If we remove Jesus from Josephus' writings it reads smoothly? I'll bet if we remove him from the Bible things would read smoothly too. And as a bonus, no more arguing about his divinity or existence!
Reply:Blau ,blau, blau! Know one is listening to your nonsense!
Reply:Can`t understand you making such a hoola baloo of something that you don`t believe or being impressed of? It clearly bugs you.
Here's why:
1) It's stylistically different from the rest of the text.
2) Remove it, and it reads smoothly.
3) No early Christian cites Josephus, as they would if it mentioned Jesus.
4) Origen (185-254) wrote that there's no mention of Jesus in Josephus, AND that he never believed in any Messiah.
5) Interesting how in his book there are a lot of gys named "jesus"-- all in the Hebrew form, Yeshua. EXCEPT in the interpolated text, in which his name is oddly given in its erroneous Greek form, Jesus.
6) In Jewish War, Josephus expresses contempt for all messianic agitators, blaming them for the nation's ruin.
7) He also claims that Vespasian fulfilled all the Messianic prophecies. So how likely is it that he'd gush about Jesus?
When will Christians STOP citing Josephus?
You should give 'em something to look at. Modern biblical scholarship makes a very compelling case for the idea that Jesus never existed... that he was, in fact, entirely fictional.
The Jesus Puzzle
http://jesuspuzzle.humanists.net/home.ht...
Of course, true 'believers' will never look... they're afraid that they might see something that actually makes sense, and will shake the foundations of their faith.
Reply:The interesting thing about the historical existence of Jesus is it doesn't matter. If some person named Yeshua ben Yoseph did live and die at 1st century Palestine, that would not make him devine. He could just have been one of many religious rabble rousers that come up in times of trouble like Joseph Smith or Muhammad ibn Abd al-Wahhab, the guy who started Wahhabi Islam.
Don't mean a word of it is true.
Reply:the fact that some use josephus in their arguements is to give a
corelation of secular history that jives with times and events as
written in the Bible.It seems that so many folks try so hard to
prove that what is written in the Bible is folk lore or myth,that when
someone does show a direct link between secular and bible
cronology they immediatly jump on and try to discredit it as un-
true.although in theroy that one shoud accept what a non biblical
author penned.
Reply:What seems to be your major malfunction.
What the H*** do you want?
What an antagonist.
Do you enjoy making people angry?
Do you enjoy aggravating people?
You remind me of my brother -in law.
He went insane.
Even the picture you chose is aggravating.
He kept it up until he just went insane.
He asked for it and he got it.
Reply:Good information.
Reply:Added fact: I have have heard two Rabbis (one Reform and one Orthodox) say that Josephus's writing was more of a tabloid style, alot of hearsay, and cannot be completely believed.
Reply:The bible clearly states when Jesus lived and died. That is my reference. You believe what you want. I believe the bible.
Reply:Eye has not seen nor ear heard!!!!! Explain that to me silly....
Reply:The people who did write about Jesus are said to be unbelievable because their writings got included in what we call the Bible.
If we remove Jesus from Josephus' writings it reads smoothly? I'll bet if we remove him from the Bible things would read smoothly too. And as a bonus, no more arguing about his divinity or existence!
Reply:Blau ,blau, blau! Know one is listening to your nonsense!
Reply:Can`t understand you making such a hoola baloo of something that you don`t believe or being impressed of? It clearly bugs you.
How do you all deal with an inlaw that is alway trying to hurt you? Whose always angry and intimidating me?
My daughter in law. goes out of her way to be nasty to me, in what she says and does. She has refused to partictpate with me and allow me the time with my grandchildren. until I threatened my son that I would adopt some. Recently this DIL told me in so many words I was terrible Mother to my son and its not true. I was very close to my son until he married this girl. When I was in a car accident this DIL did not even allow my son to come and see me the first day. He cam as the eyars go by I feel she has not mellowed at all even though I got to se my grandchildren this summer, she has not alwoed me to see them before this and I feel like a stranger to two of them because she did not allow me to come for a visit unless she invited me. Few visits. and one time I went to see them she was so pissed off she would not even answer the door. The baby did. I feel she is disconnected in her feelings, she has no manners or social skills. I feel she is her own Mother. Not very sociable. either.
How do you all deal with an inlaw that is alway trying to hurt you? Whose always angry and intimidating me?
Do you have any clue (s) as to why she's the way she is? Did she have a bad upbringing or some issues with her own mother that she's putting onto you? Was there ever a time when the two of you got along, and if so, what changed that???
Certainly it can't be pleasant to deal w/this, but you need to remember that your son loves her (I'm assuming this, anyhow) and you don't want to create any more friction than already exists. Try to speak w/your son and let him know how unhappy it makes you not to be able to see your grandkids when you want to. Maybe he can bring the kids over to your place without your daughter-in-law present.
Good luck w/this difficult situation. I wish I had more suggestions!
Reply:family drama has been very popular for at least 100,000 years. why not try to figure out why it exists, and what you can do to avoid being as dysfunctional as the 1 trillion people who needed it to satisfy their unconscious needs and behaviors. check out the book *the complete idiot's guide to toltec wisdom*. without it and/ or counseling, your drama will be ceaseless. good luck ;-)
Reply:Best advice: don't stir things up between you and your daughter in-law. Your son is automatically going to take her side no matter what you say. Even if it's true and he knows these things are happening, he will always take her side. He obviously loves her or else he wouldn't be married to her. My boyfriend was in the same situation and he took his wife's side before his parents because he thought that they were wrong about her and just didn't "know" her like he did. They wound up getting a divorce. Back to you, you know, in situations like these there isn't much you can do really. You just have to kind of sit back and let things happen. One day he might get sick of how she handles things. One thing you could do is talk to your son instead of her about spending more time with your grandchildren. Where is he when she automatically makes these decisions? I'm wondering if he has a say in anything that goes on concerning their children and other matters as well.
Reply:Start today and pour out all the love and care that you can find within onto your son, his wife, and their children. Negative and negative, don't work, but pour positive on it, and it has a tendency to crack the negative. Good overcomes evil.....but you got to really feel it for it to work, so if you don't, it will show, so pour out the real love and endure and watch the changes come...
How do you all deal with an inlaw that is alway trying to hurt you? Whose always angry and intimidating me?
Do you have any clue (s) as to why she's the way she is? Did she have a bad upbringing or some issues with her own mother that she's putting onto you? Was there ever a time when the two of you got along, and if so, what changed that???
Certainly it can't be pleasant to deal w/this, but you need to remember that your son loves her (I'm assuming this, anyhow) and you don't want to create any more friction than already exists. Try to speak w/your son and let him know how unhappy it makes you not to be able to see your grandkids when you want to. Maybe he can bring the kids over to your place without your daughter-in-law present.
Good luck w/this difficult situation. I wish I had more suggestions!
Reply:family drama has been very popular for at least 100,000 years. why not try to figure out why it exists, and what you can do to avoid being as dysfunctional as the 1 trillion people who needed it to satisfy their unconscious needs and behaviors. check out the book *the complete idiot's guide to toltec wisdom*. without it and/ or counseling, your drama will be ceaseless. good luck ;-)
Reply:Best advice: don't stir things up between you and your daughter in-law. Your son is automatically going to take her side no matter what you say. Even if it's true and he knows these things are happening, he will always take her side. He obviously loves her or else he wouldn't be married to her. My boyfriend was in the same situation and he took his wife's side before his parents because he thought that they were wrong about her and just didn't "know" her like he did. They wound up getting a divorce. Back to you, you know, in situations like these there isn't much you can do really. You just have to kind of sit back and let things happen. One day he might get sick of how she handles things. One thing you could do is talk to your son instead of her about spending more time with your grandchildren. Where is he when she automatically makes these decisions? I'm wondering if he has a say in anything that goes on concerning their children and other matters as well.
Reply:Start today and pour out all the love and care that you can find within onto your son, his wife, and their children. Negative and negative, don't work, but pour positive on it, and it has a tendency to crack the negative. Good overcomes evil.....but you got to really feel it for it to work, so if you don't, it will show, so pour out the real love and endure and watch the changes come...
Please please advise?
my fiance is not only blaming me for losing my job, but bringing up things that happeded 4 years ago and throwing it all back in my face again, i want out of here so bad , but have nowhere to go, i am so hurt right now i need help, the furnace just started acting up and he is slamming doors and yelling alot, i am 34 eyars old, and not a clue what to do or how to do it.
Please please advise?
fiancee?? 4 years? Hmm. blaming. Hmmm. throwing, slamming, yelling.... Not good. He needs to learn how to manage his anger. If you don't leave, then this may very well escalate into another domestic violence statistic. Go explain your situation to the battered women's shelter. They will appropriately advise you. It's hard for you to see and understand that YOU DO have options. Go tomorrow and find out what they are before you get physically hurt. I know the emotional part is bad enough.... So go tomorrow.
Reply:Sounds like you need to vent. You probably should call someone you are close with and talk it over. You are sensitive and upset, and in need of support and encouragement.
He sounds frustrated. Maybe you are having financial problems in the house, and you losing your job put a little more pressure on him. So........just be patient with him, and yourself. It will get better. This is the truth.
Give yourself some praise for getting out there and trying to get something better, and getting those resumes around. He is probably scared and unsure and insecure about what the future will hold with him being the only bread winner right now.
Give him some space, and you get some too. He will settle down. And you will feel better. Right now emotions are just very high. Tomorrow will hopefully be a brighter day, and your moods will reflect it. Good luck to you, job hunting, and in your relationship as well.
Reply:Get away from the immature jerk!!! Go to a woman's shelter. Seek out relatives to help you until you can stand on your own two feet. It's too late for the " type of guy you should select before getting it on in a relationship", advice. But; you have to watch where you "park you car", in the future. You are 34 years old and have a lot of life left in you ... so move on and go forward !!!
Reply:Uh.....leave?
Reply:Ya Ya leave people say. If you really wanted to leave you would. You have been with him for four years and I am sure this is not the first time he has thrown a fit. Does he work or are you supporting him? Is there a womens shelter in your town? If so, go there - get on your own two feet, get some councelling and move on. No womans shelter then make a plan, get a place of your own and move out. Churches and Salvation Army have many donated items that you can get to help to set up your own apartment. No woman deserves to be treated poorly by a man (or anyone else).
Reply:Does ur fiance work?? If not, he is the meak and insecure type - so basically he is nervous of the situation - no job.... urs as well...
Reply:get out
Reply:Get yourself together, get some help from friends and/or family, and get an idependent life...it's about time you stood on your own two feet...I think you'll find it's a pretty kewl experience!
Good luck!
Reply:If you stay things will not get better, they usually get worse with each passing year. I am glad you have found the courage to leave.
Try crashing at a friends house or try a womans shelter. You will find another job and a place to live. It may take time but you willl. I know you are scared but don't be there is plenty of help out there for you.
GOOD LUCK!!!!!
Reply:It takes courage to walk away. You will find some better place to live right now you live only in tension if you remove tension you will be a new person. Do not worry you can do many things to live on your own
teeth pain
Please please advise?
fiancee?? 4 years? Hmm. blaming. Hmmm. throwing, slamming, yelling.... Not good. He needs to learn how to manage his anger. If you don't leave, then this may very well escalate into another domestic violence statistic. Go explain your situation to the battered women's shelter. They will appropriately advise you. It's hard for you to see and understand that YOU DO have options. Go tomorrow and find out what they are before you get physically hurt. I know the emotional part is bad enough.... So go tomorrow.
Reply:Sounds like you need to vent. You probably should call someone you are close with and talk it over. You are sensitive and upset, and in need of support and encouragement.
He sounds frustrated. Maybe you are having financial problems in the house, and you losing your job put a little more pressure on him. So........just be patient with him, and yourself. It will get better. This is the truth.
Give yourself some praise for getting out there and trying to get something better, and getting those resumes around. He is probably scared and unsure and insecure about what the future will hold with him being the only bread winner right now.
Give him some space, and you get some too. He will settle down. And you will feel better. Right now emotions are just very high. Tomorrow will hopefully be a brighter day, and your moods will reflect it. Good luck to you, job hunting, and in your relationship as well.
Reply:Get away from the immature jerk!!! Go to a woman's shelter. Seek out relatives to help you until you can stand on your own two feet. It's too late for the " type of guy you should select before getting it on in a relationship", advice. But; you have to watch where you "park you car", in the future. You are 34 years old and have a lot of life left in you ... so move on and go forward !!!
Reply:Uh.....leave?
Reply:Ya Ya leave people say. If you really wanted to leave you would. You have been with him for four years and I am sure this is not the first time he has thrown a fit. Does he work or are you supporting him? Is there a womens shelter in your town? If so, go there - get on your own two feet, get some councelling and move on. No womans shelter then make a plan, get a place of your own and move out. Churches and Salvation Army have many donated items that you can get to help to set up your own apartment. No woman deserves to be treated poorly by a man (or anyone else).
Reply:Does ur fiance work?? If not, he is the meak and insecure type - so basically he is nervous of the situation - no job.... urs as well...
Reply:get out
Reply:Get yourself together, get some help from friends and/or family, and get an idependent life...it's about time you stood on your own two feet...I think you'll find it's a pretty kewl experience!
Good luck!
Reply:If you stay things will not get better, they usually get worse with each passing year. I am glad you have found the courage to leave.
Try crashing at a friends house or try a womans shelter. You will find another job and a place to live. It may take time but you willl. I know you are scared but don't be there is plenty of help out there for you.
GOOD LUCK!!!!!
Reply:It takes courage to walk away. You will find some better place to live right now you live only in tension if you remove tension you will be a new person. Do not worry you can do many things to live on your own
teeth pain
Is it right?
When i was 12 years old i met my frist boyfriend. We lasted 2 years together. My family n his family knew each otha. Later Me n my family moved way n i didn't c him for 3 years. Durin dose 3 years withought him i met another boy. I am goin out with this new boy for about 2 years now. One day i was in the internet n i saw the boy i use to go out with when i was 12 years old. I still love him n he still loves me after all these eyars. Should i stay with the boy im with now after 2 years,or should i go out with the boy ive loved all my life ever since i was 12 years old?
Is it right?
go with the boy that loved you since you were 12. cause thats sweet and true love. since he still loves you.
Reply:thats tough..just follow your heart...u never know the guy that u loved when u were 12 could have changed...u all should just be friends for a whie and take it from there
Reply:At your age you should be more worried about clothes, makeup, having fun, playing sports and friends rather than worrying about a relationship. You are a kid only once, try to enjoy it.
Reply:Do what your heart says. If you don't follow your heart you will never truley be happy. If things can work out between your 12 year old love and you know it go for it. Remember relationship is about commitment It's a 2 way road not a one way. If you are happy where you are don't change things and stay with the guy you are currently with, if you aren't and you know your 12 year old love is willing to start a commitment then start it. The longer you stay with this other guy and know that it's not right and you are in love with someone else the worse it will be later. Trust me. it's happened to me several times. Just follow your heart.
Reply:You should stop worrying about boys and go to school and learn to spell ,Sweetie.
Reply:its not right unless you don;'t like the boy you are with now.
Reply:The answer is simple follow your heart,
Choose what is the best for you abd be sure that you will not regret that.
Best wishes.
Is it right?
go with the boy that loved you since you were 12. cause thats sweet and true love. since he still loves you.
Reply:thats tough..just follow your heart...u never know the guy that u loved when u were 12 could have changed...u all should just be friends for a whie and take it from there
Reply:At your age you should be more worried about clothes, makeup, having fun, playing sports and friends rather than worrying about a relationship. You are a kid only once, try to enjoy it.
Reply:Do what your heart says. If you don't follow your heart you will never truley be happy. If things can work out between your 12 year old love and you know it go for it. Remember relationship is about commitment It's a 2 way road not a one way. If you are happy where you are don't change things and stay with the guy you are currently with, if you aren't and you know your 12 year old love is willing to start a commitment then start it. The longer you stay with this other guy and know that it's not right and you are in love with someone else the worse it will be later. Trust me. it's happened to me several times. Just follow your heart.
Reply:You should stop worrying about boys and go to school and learn to spell ,Sweetie.
Reply:its not right unless you don;'t like the boy you are with now.
Reply:The answer is simple follow your heart,
Choose what is the best for you abd be sure that you will not regret that.
Best wishes.
How do I lose weight of my hips and get a flat stomach in three weeks?
I am 15 eyars old and would like to lose a stone in three weeks for my holiday, however no matter how hard i try I can not get a flat stomach or get rid of love handels.
How do I lose weight of my hips and get a flat stomach in three weeks?
Homeopathic Treatment for Excessive Fat and Weight :-
PHYTOLACCA BERRY's Mother Tincture is perhaps the safest and sure fire way of loosing excessive fat around abdomen. With Phytolacca Berry once you loose the excessive fat and weight you don't get it back because you body takes care of itself after that and keeps you from gathering up excessive fat. It is prescribed after having a baby too, to get the tummy to loose its flab and to make it flatter and tighter. And after loosing weight with this you don't get flabby it tightens up the flab and skin along with helping your body to shed the excessive accumulation of fat around the girth
The dosage is 15 to 20 drops of the tincture in half a cup of hot water thrice a day half hour before or after meals.
Avoid Chocolates, Coffee, Mints, Red Meat and Carbonated and Alcoholic drinks while taking Homeopathic Medicines. You have to take it for at least 30 to 45 days after that you start to feel the results.
To the best of my knowledge its the safest and the most sure fire way of loosing fat and weight and keeping it of for keeps. Excellent remedy for Obese people who cant seem to shed weight despite trying.
Homeopathic Remedies can be found at all Major Herbal Stores or could be bought on line, In most of the world Homeopathic remedies are quite cheap and easy to find and they do not need a prescription.
Take care and God Bless !
ATTENTION :- Please give a valid and working email ID if you want a reply to your email queries lots of people send me mails which can not be replied to. So please validate your email address before you send me an email. Thank You
Reply:There is no way of getting around it, you have to exercise and use an appropriate diet.
Reply:sorry no short cuts to the shape you are looking
for, firstly right diet and life long change is required in your attitude towards this goal.
you may goo on crash courses but as SOON as you stop following the routines you will get those "LOVE HANDLES" AGAIN!!!
Reply:Read the recommendations below. Also, go to the book store and locate the book "Weight Training for Dummies". In chapter 15 you will find excellent information on how to perform abdominal exercises correctly. Page 218 of the book dispels all the myths surrounding abdominal training.
The following healthy living recommendations will help you if you’re trying to lose weight, tone up your muscles, have aspirations of building lean muscle mass, are attempting to get a wash board stomach, or just want to feel better:
*1) Burn more calories then you're consuming everyday and measure your results using the following formula: Calories Consumed minus Basal Metabolic Rate (BMR) minus Physical Activity. Get a fitness calculator that you can put on your cell phone and computer. This will allow you to easily calculate this formula, log your daily calorie consumption, and register your physical activities.
*2) Eat natural and organic foods found on earth versus something created by a corporation to make money. Eat meals in small portions throughout the day and take a good multi-vitamin supplement.
Avoid “High Glycemic Load Carbs” (sugar, pastries, desserts, refined starches such as breads, pasta, refined grains like white rice; high starch vegetables such as white potatoes) and drink lots of water.
Do not try fad diets or diet pills. Here is an excellent food pyramid that anyone can follow: http://www.rayandterry.com/html/images/P...
*3) Exercise on most days by doing cardiovascular training and/or resistance training activities.
Read a book or find a certified trainer to make sure your doing all resistance training exercises correctly. A great book to buy that teaches you the resistance training basics is “Weight Training for Dummies”. A superb magazine to buy with excellent resistance training routines that will not get you bored is "Muscle and Fitness". Signup for the free newsletter.
A good book to buy that teaches you the cardiovascular training basics is “Fitness for Dummies”.
*4) Get plenty of sleep. Sleep experts say most adults need between seven and nine hours of sleep each night for optimum performance, health, and safety.
*5) Educate yourself continually on health issues and make a life long commitment to good health. A great free publication is “Dietary Guidelines for Americans 2005”. A superb book to read is “You The Owner’s Manual”. An excellent periodic publication is the “Nutrition Action Health Letter”. A reputable test you can take to measure your biological age is at http://realage.com
Look at all areas where you can enhance your health. For example, make improvements in the quality of the air you breathe. Review outdoor air quality forecasts where you live and get an indoor air purifier. Email me if you want a good indoor air purifier recommendation and if you have other questions.
*Click on all the source links below to get the full benefit of the recommendations. The answers presented to your health questions are not intended to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health providers with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition.
How do I lose weight of my hips and get a flat stomach in three weeks?
Homeopathic Treatment for Excessive Fat and Weight :-
PHYTOLACCA BERRY's Mother Tincture is perhaps the safest and sure fire way of loosing excessive fat around abdomen. With Phytolacca Berry once you loose the excessive fat and weight you don't get it back because you body takes care of itself after that and keeps you from gathering up excessive fat. It is prescribed after having a baby too, to get the tummy to loose its flab and to make it flatter and tighter. And after loosing weight with this you don't get flabby it tightens up the flab and skin along with helping your body to shed the excessive accumulation of fat around the girth
The dosage is 15 to 20 drops of the tincture in half a cup of hot water thrice a day half hour before or after meals.
Avoid Chocolates, Coffee, Mints, Red Meat and Carbonated and Alcoholic drinks while taking Homeopathic Medicines. You have to take it for at least 30 to 45 days after that you start to feel the results.
To the best of my knowledge its the safest and the most sure fire way of loosing fat and weight and keeping it of for keeps. Excellent remedy for Obese people who cant seem to shed weight despite trying.
Homeopathic Remedies can be found at all Major Herbal Stores or could be bought on line, In most of the world Homeopathic remedies are quite cheap and easy to find and they do not need a prescription.
Take care and God Bless !
ATTENTION :- Please give a valid and working email ID if you want a reply to your email queries lots of people send me mails which can not be replied to. So please validate your email address before you send me an email. Thank You
Reply:There is no way of getting around it, you have to exercise and use an appropriate diet.
Reply:sorry no short cuts to the shape you are looking
for, firstly right diet and life long change is required in your attitude towards this goal.
you may goo on crash courses but as SOON as you stop following the routines you will get those "LOVE HANDLES" AGAIN!!!
Reply:Read the recommendations below. Also, go to the book store and locate the book "Weight Training for Dummies". In chapter 15 you will find excellent information on how to perform abdominal exercises correctly. Page 218 of the book dispels all the myths surrounding abdominal training.
The following healthy living recommendations will help you if you’re trying to lose weight, tone up your muscles, have aspirations of building lean muscle mass, are attempting to get a wash board stomach, or just want to feel better:
*1) Burn more calories then you're consuming everyday and measure your results using the following formula: Calories Consumed minus Basal Metabolic Rate (BMR) minus Physical Activity. Get a fitness calculator that you can put on your cell phone and computer. This will allow you to easily calculate this formula, log your daily calorie consumption, and register your physical activities.
*2) Eat natural and organic foods found on earth versus something created by a corporation to make money. Eat meals in small portions throughout the day and take a good multi-vitamin supplement.
Avoid “High Glycemic Load Carbs” (sugar, pastries, desserts, refined starches such as breads, pasta, refined grains like white rice; high starch vegetables such as white potatoes) and drink lots of water.
Do not try fad diets or diet pills. Here is an excellent food pyramid that anyone can follow: http://www.rayandterry.com/html/images/P...
*3) Exercise on most days by doing cardiovascular training and/or resistance training activities.
Read a book or find a certified trainer to make sure your doing all resistance training exercises correctly. A great book to buy that teaches you the resistance training basics is “Weight Training for Dummies”. A superb magazine to buy with excellent resistance training routines that will not get you bored is "Muscle and Fitness". Signup for the free newsletter.
A good book to buy that teaches you the cardiovascular training basics is “Fitness for Dummies”.
*4) Get plenty of sleep. Sleep experts say most adults need between seven and nine hours of sleep each night for optimum performance, health, and safety.
*5) Educate yourself continually on health issues and make a life long commitment to good health. A great free publication is “Dietary Guidelines for Americans 2005”. A superb book to read is “You The Owner’s Manual”. An excellent periodic publication is the “Nutrition Action Health Letter”. A reputable test you can take to measure your biological age is at http://realage.com
Look at all areas where you can enhance your health. For example, make improvements in the quality of the air you breathe. Review outdoor air quality forecasts where you live and get an indoor air purifier. Email me if you want a good indoor air purifier recommendation and if you have other questions.
*Click on all the source links below to get the full benefit of the recommendations. The answers presented to your health questions are not intended to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health providers with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition.
What do you need to get from the boss when quitting the job?
My sister is quiting her job. she is a chef at the restaurant for 3 eyars and she does all the work very good but the people there are not treating her good and the boss is very 2 faced and unfair. The boss never pays the vacation paychecks until u ask for them, and even monthly paychecks sometimes bounce.
now she is quiting and she doesn't know what papars seh has to get from her boss to certify her leaving and what else does she have a right to receive? the last payment, the payment for the next 2 weeks? the vacation paycheck for this year, a paycheck for the health injuries she got(lifting up heavy meat)?
please share what you know about this and give any advice. thanx
What do you need to get from the boss when quitting the job?
Her pay, her 4%, her separation papers, any letters of recommendation. She can ask at the unemployment office what she can do next. She can also take her case and any complaints ,money owed, back pay, to the labour offices. They will advise her of her rights.
Reply:From your sister: a letter of resignation with 2 weeks notice, depending on states, provinces.
From the boss:
- A final pay cheque with all outstanding wages owned by the boss.
- All vacation pay - by law, they have to be paid to your sister.
- Record of employment paper - to apply for unemployment insurance as needed.
- A letter of Reference - good, use it. If not, keep it away.
Please check out the local labor law office for more information.
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http://lifequery.com
Reply:i dont think she needs anything when you quit. when she fills out a new app maybe she can just put that she felt she was being mis treated they should give her her pay for the time she worked . and it varies about the vacation pay some places will give it some wont
Reply:She should give a letter to her boss stating that she is resigning her position in two weeks. This is standard notice of leaving. She should also ask in that same letter for two letters of reference (duplicates). This is very normal and should be granted even if she has issues with the boss. She should be paid for the last two weeks and when she finishes those weeks she should be paid vacation pay and health injury pay (if still owing). Basically she should be totally squared up on her last day or know that the money will be deposited on a given day (if direct deposit).
now she is quiting and she doesn't know what papars seh has to get from her boss to certify her leaving and what else does she have a right to receive? the last payment, the payment for the next 2 weeks? the vacation paycheck for this year, a paycheck for the health injuries she got(lifting up heavy meat)?
please share what you know about this and give any advice. thanx
What do you need to get from the boss when quitting the job?
Her pay, her 4%, her separation papers, any letters of recommendation. She can ask at the unemployment office what she can do next. She can also take her case and any complaints ,money owed, back pay, to the labour offices. They will advise her of her rights.
Reply:From your sister: a letter of resignation with 2 weeks notice, depending on states, provinces.
From the boss:
- A final pay cheque with all outstanding wages owned by the boss.
- All vacation pay - by law, they have to be paid to your sister.
- Record of employment paper - to apply for unemployment insurance as needed.
- A letter of Reference - good, use it. If not, keep it away.
Please check out the local labor law office for more information.
--------------------------------------...
http://job.splashine.com
http://lifequery.com
Reply:i dont think she needs anything when you quit. when she fills out a new app maybe she can just put that she felt she was being mis treated they should give her her pay for the time she worked . and it varies about the vacation pay some places will give it some wont
Reply:She should give a letter to her boss stating that she is resigning her position in two weeks. This is standard notice of leaving. She should also ask in that same letter for two letters of reference (duplicates). This is very normal and should be granted even if she has issues with the boss. She should be paid for the last two weeks and when she finishes those weeks she should be paid vacation pay and health injury pay (if still owing). Basically she should be totally squared up on her last day or know that the money will be deposited on a given day (if direct deposit).
Guy Problems?
I've ben dating my mand for 4 eyars now. We recenttly took a 2 month break because we would argue alot. We jsut got back togetehr 1 week ago and things seem like they are the same. When we argue he screams at me raising hsi voice and uses the "F" word alot. I Feel like i piss him off very easily. Before- if he didn't like something he would go along with it and said whatever. Now- he yells at me and expects me not to defend myself. He told me he's seeing someone else jsut to piss me of. A while a go he called me and left several messages saying he's sorryf or acting like a jerk and telling me those things and that he had told me these things because he wanted to get a reaction out of me. In reality he REALLY hurt my feelings. What should i do???I love him very much but- i can't put up with this kind of treatment. I feel like i deserve better. One reason why i won't move on is because he's never cheated on me and really believe he never will. He's one of those faithfull one
Guy Problems?
Being faithful isn't the only things a relationship is about. You have to respect each other. There are definitely a lot or reasons to break up, not just one. He needs to get his anger under control because he sounds half way dangerous to you. I would cut your losses and leave. I know you've invested a lot of time and energy into him but you do deserve better. Just tell him you're tired of fighting and that though you'll always care for him you can't go on living your life like this. You guys just aren't compatible, even if you do love each other.
Reply:You really need to put your child FIRST and not what YOU want. Do you really think that this is a healthy situation for the child to be in? The situation with you the BF won't change...and how do you know he doesn't have someone else? He might well have but you don't want to accept it.
Also, why do you feel you must have a man in your child's life? He is better off with just you than you and some abuser.
Reply:If I was you I would get off *** an yell back. Show him what you don't like. Don't let him lower your self-esteem. Don't show him whose boss, just let him know that you have say so in this relationship to.
Reply:YOUR FEELING IS RIGHT YOU DO DESERVE BETTER. HE IS VERBALLY ABUSING YOU, RIGHT UP THERE WITH CHEATING. IT IS NOT BETTER. VERBAL TURNS TO PHYSICAL. PROTECT YOU AND YOUR CHILD. MAKE THE HARDEST DESICIONS OF YOUR LIFE. GOOD LUCK!
Reply:This guy really needs some anger management classes if you barely do anything to piss him off. If he doesn't get help, the arguments could escalate into physical violence. True love or not, you cannot put yourself in harm's way. Help him find help, and then move on. No man is worth risking your life for.
Reply:Best Answer
You like the BAD BOY JERKS that treat you like s h i t so you can have something to talk about with your friends. Just keep playing the game with him until he decideds to settle down with you and get married.
Reply:No one deserves to be treated that way. My suggestion is that he go to counseling. After he goes to a couple of sessions, maybe you could both go together.
Reply:Get busy with your own life, being alone isn't so bad....I would rather deal with my own company than waste my energy screaming and fighting and bs allllll the time....for what?
know what I mean jellybean?
Reply:NO ENTIENDO?
Reply:I'm in a similar relationship right now, my husband is very tough but he doesn't beat me and definitely doesn't cheat on me he doesn't believe in it.but believe me i was in your shoes and i wish i didn't move on.it hurts to admit Cos relatively its not so bad but at the same time it could have been better..you will do a lot of sacrificing and will be hurt you and your child.believe me that percent of the good times you are having with him now will decrease by the days so it is not worth it!
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Guy Problems?
Being faithful isn't the only things a relationship is about. You have to respect each other. There are definitely a lot or reasons to break up, not just one. He needs to get his anger under control because he sounds half way dangerous to you. I would cut your losses and leave. I know you've invested a lot of time and energy into him but you do deserve better. Just tell him you're tired of fighting and that though you'll always care for him you can't go on living your life like this. You guys just aren't compatible, even if you do love each other.
Reply:You really need to put your child FIRST and not what YOU want. Do you really think that this is a healthy situation for the child to be in? The situation with you the BF won't change...and how do you know he doesn't have someone else? He might well have but you don't want to accept it.
Also, why do you feel you must have a man in your child's life? He is better off with just you than you and some abuser.
Reply:If I was you I would get off *** an yell back. Show him what you don't like. Don't let him lower your self-esteem. Don't show him whose boss, just let him know that you have say so in this relationship to.
Reply:YOUR FEELING IS RIGHT YOU DO DESERVE BETTER. HE IS VERBALLY ABUSING YOU, RIGHT UP THERE WITH CHEATING. IT IS NOT BETTER. VERBAL TURNS TO PHYSICAL. PROTECT YOU AND YOUR CHILD. MAKE THE HARDEST DESICIONS OF YOUR LIFE. GOOD LUCK!
Reply:This guy really needs some anger management classes if you barely do anything to piss him off. If he doesn't get help, the arguments could escalate into physical violence. True love or not, you cannot put yourself in harm's way. Help him find help, and then move on. No man is worth risking your life for.
Reply:Best Answer
You like the BAD BOY JERKS that treat you like s h i t so you can have something to talk about with your friends. Just keep playing the game with him until he decideds to settle down with you and get married.
Reply:No one deserves to be treated that way. My suggestion is that he go to counseling. After he goes to a couple of sessions, maybe you could both go together.
Reply:Get busy with your own life, being alone isn't so bad....I would rather deal with my own company than waste my energy screaming and fighting and bs allllll the time....for what?
know what I mean jellybean?
Reply:NO ENTIENDO?
Reply:I'm in a similar relationship right now, my husband is very tough but he doesn't beat me and definitely doesn't cheat on me he doesn't believe in it.but believe me i was in your shoes and i wish i didn't move on.it hurts to admit Cos relatively its not so bad but at the same time it could have been better..you will do a lot of sacrificing and will be hurt you and your child.believe me that percent of the good times you are having with him now will decrease by the days so it is not worth it!
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Help me please?
I have loved this girl for 3 eyars now. We dated early for about a year and we broke up. We are in close contact and still mess around. I would love to get back with her but she is young and has told me a relationship right now is not what she needs. Do I give up? or wait for the girl of my dreams?
Help me please?
Listen to what she is telling you bro. She needs some space.....so for now, enjoy the booty, and when she is ready to get serious, you're in. Don't give up, be patient and listen
Reply:Go on about your life for now, because if it is meant to be than it is going to happen regardless.
Reply:ask her if when shes ready to ate will she pick you and that's how you know if ou need to wait or move on
Reply:well... if ya love the gurl soo much then wait yeah if mite take a while but time passes! wait for her its the best thing to do -k-!!!
Reply:give it up. look, she's not available; why beat a dead horse. go find someone new.
Reply:if u think she is the one for u and while ur waiting she wont mess around then wait for her.but if u know she will be doing whatever she wants and ur the only one who is waiting for her then it really doesnt make alot of sense to me.
Reply:Personally my friend life is too short to keep trying if she's said not now well you can't be expected to wait until she's ready...move on and maybe you'll find the women of your dreams or this girl will wake up once she knows what she's lost...
Reply:if u really love her wait for ur time.. if not.. then why waste time for that..
Reply:how old are each of you? regardless, she obviously does not feel the same way about you, if you are indeed in love, you need to extract her from your life while you move on and get over her...maybe you can return to being friends once your romantic feelings subside
Reply:give the girl some space maybe that is what she wants. maybe she dont want to be with someone right now. she is young and maybe she just wants to enjoy her life for awhile. give her time to think and if she still feels the same for u then trust me she will come back to ya. for now let it be and dont talk about it unless she wants to. and tell her you will respect the chosen that she makes. and tell her you`ll always be there for her no matter what.
Reply:Well sounds to me that you already have her, just not in the ways and terms that YOU want. Think about what is best for the relationship that you do have now to last, and do that. If you really like her so much, then keep doing what you're doing, and wait for her to say that she's ready for that commitment to you.
Reply:Wait for her. you'll be glad you did or ask her this question and see her intentions.
Reply:I'm probably one of the few woman that will tell you to continue to mess around with her (if you can keep your heart from being hurt). But, look around for a new woman. I'm sure there are plenty of woman out there that would be happy to be involved in a relationship with a guy like you. There are a lot of people out there that you can be happy with. just gotta give them a chance. One question.....why do you want a relationship with a girl who only wants friendship sex?
Reply:keep messing around ... and look for another girl at the same time
Reply:if she is worth waiting for, wait for her!
Reply:If she is the girl of you're dreams YOU WAIT FOR HER!
Shes still young remember, the most important things in life are taken slow. Don't give up yet.
Reply:well if u love her that much i would wait for the girl and see what happens keep her as a friend, do what your heart tells you what to do, i moved to texas to be with someone and it was the best thing i ever did
Reply:do what your heart says.
Reply:here i am going to put my gurl friend on her to tell you what you schould do ok
hello i think that she wants to be with you and she may just found the out and it scared her to know she fell in love with you andi think that you schould wait for her and help her with the stuff that is confuseing her with all this and dont push her to do anything she dont want to do ok i hope she comes out of it and comes back to you
jessica
man you should take her advices she is good on that stuff why do you think i am still around:)
Reply:do you really love her? because if you do then you should be willing to wait for her
Help me please?
Listen to what she is telling you bro. She needs some space.....so for now, enjoy the booty, and when she is ready to get serious, you're in. Don't give up, be patient and listen
Reply:Go on about your life for now, because if it is meant to be than it is going to happen regardless.
Reply:ask her if when shes ready to ate will she pick you and that's how you know if ou need to wait or move on
Reply:well... if ya love the gurl soo much then wait yeah if mite take a while but time passes! wait for her its the best thing to do -k-!!!
Reply:give it up. look, she's not available; why beat a dead horse. go find someone new.
Reply:if u think she is the one for u and while ur waiting she wont mess around then wait for her.but if u know she will be doing whatever she wants and ur the only one who is waiting for her then it really doesnt make alot of sense to me.
Reply:Personally my friend life is too short to keep trying if she's said not now well you can't be expected to wait until she's ready...move on and maybe you'll find the women of your dreams or this girl will wake up once she knows what she's lost...
Reply:if u really love her wait for ur time.. if not.. then why waste time for that..
Reply:how old are each of you? regardless, she obviously does not feel the same way about you, if you are indeed in love, you need to extract her from your life while you move on and get over her...maybe you can return to being friends once your romantic feelings subside
Reply:give the girl some space maybe that is what she wants. maybe she dont want to be with someone right now. she is young and maybe she just wants to enjoy her life for awhile. give her time to think and if she still feels the same for u then trust me she will come back to ya. for now let it be and dont talk about it unless she wants to. and tell her you will respect the chosen that she makes. and tell her you`ll always be there for her no matter what.
Reply:Well sounds to me that you already have her, just not in the ways and terms that YOU want. Think about what is best for the relationship that you do have now to last, and do that. If you really like her so much, then keep doing what you're doing, and wait for her to say that she's ready for that commitment to you.
Reply:Wait for her. you'll be glad you did or ask her this question and see her intentions.
Reply:I'm probably one of the few woman that will tell you to continue to mess around with her (if you can keep your heart from being hurt). But, look around for a new woman. I'm sure there are plenty of woman out there that would be happy to be involved in a relationship with a guy like you. There are a lot of people out there that you can be happy with. just gotta give them a chance. One question.....why do you want a relationship with a girl who only wants friendship sex?
Reply:keep messing around ... and look for another girl at the same time
Reply:if she is worth waiting for, wait for her!
Reply:If she is the girl of you're dreams YOU WAIT FOR HER!
Shes still young remember, the most important things in life are taken slow. Don't give up yet.
Reply:well if u love her that much i would wait for the girl and see what happens keep her as a friend, do what your heart tells you what to do, i moved to texas to be with someone and it was the best thing i ever did
Reply:do what your heart says.
Reply:here i am going to put my gurl friend on her to tell you what you schould do ok
hello i think that she wants to be with you and she may just found the out and it scared her to know she fell in love with you andi think that you schould wait for her and help her with the stuff that is confuseing her with all this and dont push her to do anything she dont want to do ok i hope she comes out of it and comes back to you
jessica
man you should take her advices she is good on that stuff why do you think i am still around:)
Reply:do you really love her? because if you do then you should be willing to wait for her
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