Please please advise?

my fiance is not only blaming me for losing my job, but bringing up things that happeded 4 years ago and throwing it all back in my face again, i want out of here so bad , but have nowhere to go, i am so hurt right now i need help, the furnace just started acting up and he is slamming doors and yelling alot, i am 34 eyars old, and not a clue what to do or how to do it.

Please please advise?
fiancee?? 4 years? Hmm. blaming. Hmmm. throwing, slamming, yelling.... Not good. He needs to learn how to manage his anger. If you don't leave, then this may very well escalate into another domestic violence statistic. Go explain your situation to the battered women's shelter. They will appropriately advise you. It's hard for you to see and understand that YOU DO have options. Go tomorrow and find out what they are before you get physically hurt. I know the emotional part is bad enough.... So go tomorrow.
Reply:Sounds like you need to vent. You probably should call someone you are close with and talk it over. You are sensitive and upset, and in need of support and encouragement.





He sounds frustrated. Maybe you are having financial problems in the house, and you losing your job put a little more pressure on him. So........just be patient with him, and yourself. It will get better. This is the truth.





Give yourself some praise for getting out there and trying to get something better, and getting those resumes around. He is probably scared and unsure and insecure about what the future will hold with him being the only bread winner right now.





Give him some space, and you get some too. He will settle down. And you will feel better. Right now emotions are just very high. Tomorrow will hopefully be a brighter day, and your moods will reflect it. Good luck to you, job hunting, and in your relationship as well.
Reply:Get away from the immature jerk!!! Go to a woman's shelter. Seek out relatives to help you until you can stand on your own two feet. It's too late for the " type of guy you should select before getting it on in a relationship", advice. But; you have to watch where you "park you car", in the future. You are 34 years old and have a lot of life left in you ... so move on and go forward !!!
Reply:Uh.....leave?
Reply:Ya Ya leave people say. If you really wanted to leave you would. You have been with him for four years and I am sure this is not the first time he has thrown a fit. Does he work or are you supporting him? Is there a womens shelter in your town? If so, go there - get on your own two feet, get some councelling and move on. No womans shelter then make a plan, get a place of your own and move out. Churches and Salvation Army have many donated items that you can get to help to set up your own apartment. No woman deserves to be treated poorly by a man (or anyone else).
Reply:Does ur fiance work?? If not, he is the meak and insecure type - so basically he is nervous of the situation - no job.... urs as well...
Reply:get out
Reply:Get yourself together, get some help from friends and/or family, and get an idependent life...it's about time you stood on your own two feet...I think you'll find it's a pretty kewl experience!





Good luck!
Reply:If you stay things will not get better, they usually get worse with each passing year. I am glad you have found the courage to leave.





Try crashing at a friends house or try a womans shelter. You will find another job and a place to live. It may take time but you willl. I know you are scared but don't be there is plenty of help out there for you.





GOOD LUCK!!!!!
Reply:It takes courage to walk away. You will find some better place to live right now you live only in tension if you remove tension you will be a new person. Do not worry you can do many things to live on your own

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