Help..i am really upset?

my mom is on a "diet." She was eating about 3 scoops of ice cream tonight with chocolate syrup and bananas. She said "it's the only junk food I had today" and "I am doing the right thing for now, trust me" but she makes me cry. i always hear her complain about her weight, and it hurts me to see her eat that much in one time. She even made me cry. even though she did say" i am doing the right thing for now" and she told me "I don't understand." I am fourteen eyars old and really worried about my mother. what should I do? she doesn't want me talking about it with her.

Help..i am really upset?
i'm sure it's a sensitive subject, and a complex one


you are doing the right thing by letting her know you are concerned for her health... other things you might do to help, invite her to do things with you that are physical, something not too hard... maybe go for a walk and talk (about other things, not her diet)





the truth is, she will need to decide within herself that she wants better health





i know this because i worked as a consultant for jenny craig for a year and a half
Reply:Instead of telling her that she shouldn't do it, start the conversation by saying, there is something that I would like to talk to you about that makes me very sad. I even cried. Then she may sit down wondering what it is. Then talk to her about how it makes you very sad to see any one you love hurt and sad and displeased with who they are. Tell her that you really want her to be happy with herself so that you can be happy with yourself. Maybe you could go shopping with her and pick out fruits and vegetables you like and tell her how YOU don't like the ice cream so you shouldn't get it.. Help her by exercising with her and then once she likes who she is becoming, buy a small bag of cookies for you to share with her. Then she is limited to sweets when they are not bought. I'm sorry if this doesn't help
Reply:You should tell her that if her 14 year old daughter knows something is wrong with her mother's dietary habits then it actually means that something is so wrong a child can see it and that she should start being a role model and eating healthy foods and choosing better snacks for herself. You do not want her to die of heart disease which is what those foods will cause. Heart disease is the leading cause of death among women in America.
Reply:Get her a scale and record how much she is gaining instead of losing, and give her advice, suggest she eat a cup of pop-corn or a salad with lime juice. If she wants something sweet, cut up some fruit squeeze some lime on it. Keep an eye on what she eats and bug her about it, this will help her remember she IS on a diet. You are a smart girl to know that what she is doing is not right, she is cheating and this will ultimately hurt her. Encouage her to exercise, even if you have to walk around the football field with her, it will give you time to talk and get close to her, so that she doesn't get mad at you for giving her advice. Sometimes children say things that make a difference in a parent's life, good luck.
Reply:is she obese? Maybe she allows herself to cheat once in a while. If ur really upset about it, maybe you should hide/throw away any junk food in the house.
Reply:*hugs* I know how hard it is. This is ultimately in her hands even though it hurts you. You will need to explain this to her at some point when the mood is right. If your push it on her she will be likely to push back. You should check into the the show "The Biggest Loser". It sounds like she really needs a life changing experience.
Reply:switch her ice cream to the fat free one
Reply:If you can't directly make an impact, maybe tell one of her siblings or one of her really good friends that CAN make an impact. I'm sure it's disappointing that you can't help your mother, but trying and putting in an effort is enough to make you feel good. Keep trying, you can do it!
Reply:try posting some good nutritional diagrams, charts, and pictures to give your mom some physicial simulation. hopefully that will help her eat better. maybe you can create a menu for her to follow for each meal. like a list of foods that she can have during breakfast, lunch, snack and dinner. you can also try to start small to like help her quite soda or junk food all together.





keep it up, there is nothing wrong with a helpful disagreement between love ones. good luck.
Reply:You see darling, the best way to make your mom realize how worried you are is by not telling her anything. something like revese psychology. you can show her by means other than telling her. soon or later she will realize how much is she hurting you by over eating.

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