Please please advise?

my fiance is not only blaming me for losing my job, but bringing up things that happeded 4 years ago and throwing it all back in my face again, i want out of here so bad , but have nowhere to go, i am so hurt right now i need help, the furnace just started acting up and he is slamming doors and yelling alot, i am 34 eyars old, and not a clue what to do or how to do it.

Please please advise?
The lack of money comes between two loving couples everytime. It's not that you don't love him anymore nor does he love you any less either. It's that money is tight. Now more than ever you need to work together to get through this. Be strong by saying, "You know what (name) I am just as mad about this as you are. I could slam doors too! But I am not going to. I am looking for a job first thing tomorrow. And I am calling a few of my friends and see if they know anybody that will work with us on getting the furnace looked at and fixed. I can see your hurting. But I am going to be strong for the both of us because I love you and I am not going to let a job, a furnace or money come between you and me. SO! Your either with me or against me. Now what is the furnace doing I need to know so I can explain whats going to my friends so I can get the right kind of help. And...





be ready to accept his apology. Because a real man measures himself by how well he provides for his family... not by ranting and raiving like a mad man. No real man makes his wife hurt or want to leave. And no man ever allows his wife to do what a man should do... its against the universal rules of being a man.





Your place is with your husband in YOUR home. However, if he gets abusive (doesn't sound like it) or gets physical (doesn't sound like that either) you need to get to a womans shelter.





It sounds like your mature enough to get through this. Don't be surpised if he comes home from work with a few leads for jobs in the area. Thats how he could help both of you as well.
Reply:If it is that bad go to a women's shelter, I know there is often stigma attached, but hon, that is only in our own minds. I know guys like him I have BEEN with guys like him and trust me it only gets worse. LEAVE. Take what you can and get OUT!


Go to your nearest women's domestic violence shelter and they will help you find another place, and get a job, or training for a better one. DO IT! It is necessary. I know you can. Feel free to email me, if you need a shoulder to lean on. I have been there.
Reply:What is his problem? Is he working himself ? Obviously you two are going through a rough patch in your relationship. You have to decide whether you want to stay with creep or run for your life. Surely you must have family or friends that will take you in until you sort out this mess.At your age you should be out having fun instead of staying at home with a ranting lunatic. Get in touch with a womans shelter or lifeline if that is your only option. Just get the hell out of their before you go completely nuts. Unless you decide you really want to marry someone like that...... Then thats a completely different story. I guess then you will have to try and work things out , somehow. Whatever you decide GOOD LUCK.
Reply:You need to get a game plan.Write it out if you have to.If you have no where to go now get a plan together so you will have somewhere to go soon.He seems to look better gone and taking advantage because he know obviously that you have no where to go.Look for another job and stay focused on moving on and moving out.Try you local Sundays paper.they have it online now and look in your local phone book @ places you'd like to work and call and see if there hiring.And try employment agencies.
Reply:Dont take it,if its that bad and he is making u fell this way its always best to go with your instincts.Go chill with a friend or family member.What I usally do when I get stressed is have a drink.Brush it off,U can find better.Thats exactly how I felt when Me and my babies ma split.I loved her but she was making me happy so way ruin both of our lifes
Reply:If you are so miserable and unable to find yourself, simply make a decision about what is most important to you. You have in fact made your bed now you have to decide whether you wish to sleep in it. In this case procrastinating is dangerous. If you love him, talk to him and see if you can sort things out. If you no longer do, take your life into your own hands and walk away clean. This world of ours is always full of challenges, I'm sure that you will find your way, if only you give it a try.
Reply:You are young enough to get a fairly decent job again. Do so and get the H away from that selfish, self-centered maniac!!! If you don't, you'll be miserable and life's to short for that.
Reply:Pack up your stuff and leave, it's not going to get any better. Find a friend, family member or shelter and go there. DO NOT STAY WITH THIS MAN... HE HAS ABUSIVE TENDENCIES!!!
Reply:Do you have a car? Start looking for another job right away, save up some money, 5 here, 10 there, put it away, first pay check, even if you have to go stay at a motel or something till you can get on your feet, He's a jerk! You dont need to be treated like that! Tighten up that back bone baby girl, and get you a life of your own! Its out there, you just have to want it!
Reply:You need to get out of the house go see your best friend or a parent or someone that you look up and you have confident talking to them and explain to the what happened and how you feel about it.
Reply:I agree with odandme. Get out. Find a shelter. Call your local police dept for a shelter number if you can do it without him knowing.
Reply:I say he's a jerkface..haha ♥goodluck and I say find a better man..who's more respectful and appreciative of you!!!!!!!