I feel hurt bc my boyfriend is not interested in the pregnancy process at all ?

I am 30 weeks pregnant, 24 eyars old, my boyfriend is 25 weve been together for about 2 and a half years. I look around at girls/women pregnant with their fiances/partners/husbands kissing their stomachs, rubbing them, even talking to the baby inside, feeling the baby kick, just adoring the baby and the mother's pregnant stomach. But my boyfriend doesnt want to hear about the baby kcking, he doesnt do any of those things, he abrely even looks at me. I'm not event hat big actualyl at 30 weeks. I just feel really bugged by this bc OUR duaghter is in there and it's special. And also bc what if I never fall pregnant again? Pregnancy isnt just some everyday thing. I only am going to be this way 10 more weeks and then I'll probably be back in no time to my bony skinny self. ( I am not bragging nor do i want 2b, it's just that I lose wieght quickly and easily before, and have fast metabolism). i just feel like I want 2 rememebr being pregnant I dont want it to speed by and have my baby but no

I feel hurt bc my boyfriend is not interested in the pregnancy process at all ?
If the pregnancy wasn't planned, then yes, it might matter a great deal to him. YOU may be excited about the pregnancy and all the changes your body is going through, but if he is less than thrilled about the idea of having a baby, you can't really expect him to be jumping for joy.





He may come around after the baby is born and he actually sees her.
Reply:don't get 2 upset if its his first kid he's probably scared and don't want 2 admit it hell come around and will mostly get over the fear give him a little more tie if nothing else tell him u need him 4 this and 2 man up bc its his kid 2
Reply:My ex was the same and i'm sorry to say but he left me when she was 2 weeks old


I'm sorry but this isn't a good sign
Reply:well, did he WANT you to get pregnant? was it planned? you two aren't married, so it might be awkward.
Reply:tell him how u feel most guys are liike thjat he'll come around
Reply:hey hun,


My bf is not into my pregnancy either I'm 20w5d along..he doesn't like the idea of feeling her move and will not talk to her...ur boyfriend sounds exactly like mine! It feels SOOOO special to me, and I am afraid he'll never know how it feels, I want him to join. Alot of people say he'll change when the baby is born, but some say no..hopefully our bfs will show alot of interests once they are here.... I have a fast metabolism too and I'm still VERY tiny at 20 wks...so I know it'll take a onth atthe veryyy tip top most (prb only 2 wks) to get back to myself lol...95 pds pre-preg
Reply:Don't listen to that guy.





Okay, so now I know it was unplanned...did you ask him his thoughts when you found out? Did he want to keep it? In my case, I wasn't sure I was going to keep it, and originally my boyfriend told me it was my decision...but when I asked the him what he wanted, he started to cry and was excited about becoming a father. So, he could just not be ready to be a dad,...but once he sees the little baby there is a great chance he will be thrilled and be a wonderful dad!
Reply:Some guys are really into the pregnancy, other's aren't. Sounds like this one isn't. I realize it's hurting your feelings, because you want him to be excited. But if he's not, you aren't going to make him excited about it.





Enjoy what you're experiencing. It's a MUCH different situation for a man. You're feeling that life inside you and it's much more REAL for you.





He's sitting back thinking, OH god, what have we done.





It's normal.





He'll get over it.





The bigger issue is what kind of a father he's going to be.





That's going to last longer than the next 10 weeks.
Reply:I'm 20 weeks and my boyfriend has been doing the same thing. I finally confronted him about and he broke down! He is not a very emotional person and when I would try to push him to share in the pregnancy more, he would pull away. He said that it's hard to be excited when you're scared. He never had a father and really is afraid he won't know how to be one, or worse he might be a bad one. Women feel close to the baby immediately because we are carrying it and can feel it move, not to mention crazy hormones that make us overly emotional. He said that that also made it really hard for him because he was resentful at first. The baby changed our relationship and even our sex life a little. It makes you a little more emotionally demanding and what guy would enjoy that? Then he also mentioned that he was a little jealous of me when he saw me bonding with the baby and feeling it move, especially when it would never move for him. So he pushed away as a defense. He has gotten a little better since we've talked. He still isn't as involved as "all the other expectant fathers", but I've learned that if I push him too much, he runs away. It will probably be the same after the baby is born because we already feel bonded with the baby, and they'll feel left out and maybe resentful all over again. Try to understand how he might be feeling and give him time. I know it's really hard and sometimes you feel lonely, but he'll come around eventually. Just try not to dwell on it.
Reply:First off, congratulations. And yes, it may matter to him that you didn't plan to get pregnant, as sad as that is. He will most likely feel differently once she is here, especially once he gets to hold her. Please realize that pregnancy is not as "real" to men as it is to women-they don't go through all that we do. It has nothing to do with the size you are, it has to do with how he feels about the situation. Be glad he's still around and didn't run for the hills.
Reply:some guys answer is not even worth commenting on...anyways was this baby planned or a surprise.if it was a surprise then he may be in extreme denial.this still doesnt excuse his behavior.ur right pregnancy is a miracle and he should realize that.maybe you could have a talk with him and tell him how you feel.i hope he comes around before its too late because in 10wks he wont be able to ignore it anymore...good luck hun
Reply:i know how you feel. i have a 2 year old daughter right now, and im 6 weeks preggo, and i dont have one of those 'romantic' men either. i mean he loves our daughter he is so good with her! after shes gotten bigger anyways,lol. but i know how you feel. i basically begged him to rub my belly and talk to her, lol and i asked him to rub lotion on it hes just not like that. we cant make them i guess, so i guess we are basically screwed! lol.





just wait. once that baby comes what he did during the pregnancy wont matter becuase you are going to love the way he is with your daughter!





good luck and congrats!!
Reply:OK, he's a guy.





We don't really care about the 'pregnancy process'.





Mostly we understand that you do care about it, so we will play along a bit.





But really, it's just not important to us.