Really need some help, please :)?

my friends and I are in a really ahrd situation.





We have this friend, and we are all really close. Shes really over weight though. She always says to us " ughh im so overweight" but our first reaction is "nooo ur not!!!"





we know its wrong to be saying that, but shes so sensetive, if we told her she was fat, she would be so upset. shes already really unconfident. also, everyone in the year laughs at her behind her back





she hates her weight but shes been like this for about 2 eyars, so we think we need to say somehting to her. we CANNOT just go up to her and tell her because i promise you she will be so upset





so i need some ways to give gentle hints to her, please, we really wanna help our friend





thanks so much if u answer this:)





xxxx

Really need some help, please :)?
Encourage her to do more physical activities. Instead of sitting around one day, you guys should go jogging. She may like it and continue.
Reply:Say lets go out and have some fun. go to the Ymca or local work out place and start lifting weights or exercising. If she really wants to lose the weight then that is one of the healthy ways to do it...
Reply:take her walking or jogging just help her out without her knowing
Reply:Maybe the best thing to do would be to help get her involved in some activities. Even if you and your other friend aren't overweight, you all can benefit from exercising. Take walks, go swimming, hiking, or get a membership to a gym or YMCA.





The next time she says she's overweight, just say...look, you're my friend and I care about you no matter what. If you think you're overweight, then lets try to do something about it.
Reply:How about next time she says "Oh, I'm so fat" instead of saying "No, you're not," which is patently untrue, try saying "Well, what are you doing about it?" That way you can recommend things to help her lose weight, like watch what she eats and exercise. If it really bothers her, she should want to do something about it. If she doesn't want to do anything, she's probably just seeking to be reassured. In that case, unless you're really worried about her, I'd say let it go. There's no way to make her care withour hurting her feelings.
Reply:a simple hint is a great idea,





buy her a scale for her birthday
Reply:First of all, being overweight isn't the end of the world. She needs a boost of self confidence and she needs to realize that she has the ability to change her weight. I think that maybe you guys should join a gym, and ask her if she wants to go with you guys.. or maybe start going running or exercising and invite her along with you. I don't think you should tell her she isn't overweight if you know she is. I know it hurts, but the truth hurts sometimes and it's better to be honest than to lie to her. She's your friend and you have to help her. Maybe suggest some healthier eating habits for her. If you guys do everything together, not only will it be much easier for her, but fun for all of you! You guys can go out and get healthy snacks and exercise and have healthy snack parties haha I don't know. She just needs to know that she isn't alone. About the kids laughing at her.. that is really horrible but that is the way kids are at a young age. It's hard to stop that so she just needs to ignore it. She needs to love herself and accept herself before anyone else can too!
Reply:I wouldnt bring it up, but rather wait until the next time she says "Im so overweight". Dont agree with her, but maybe say something like "maybe we could start going to the gym together" - and you could add "Id like to get more in shape myself". We could all use to exercise more, and that way you arent making her feel bad.


Or you could even start a diet, and then ask her if she wants to join you. Its always easier to lose weight and stay committed if you have a buddy.


Just focus on being Healthy, and not her being overweight. If she exercises and eats better she will start losing weight, but you dont wont her to obsess about weight either.


One more idea, start planning activities that include physical excise.


If diet and exercise dont work, encourage her to see a doctor about possible medical reasons for her weight.


Hope this helps!
Reply:if she just keeps complaining just be like stop complaining and do something about it
Reply:My advice to u is, if u tel her that's she is fat or u try to help her. She going to get her feelings hurt, sory. Just try to be most sensitive and nice towards her. Say u care about her and her health and that u don't like people laughing at her behind her back. Hope that helps.


Ur a sweet good friend and we need more people like u on this earth.
Reply:Say you will help her watch her weight. You will have her come over and you will prepare her a good meal that is nutritious yet tastes good. You can also eat it with her to encourage her. Then you can set up days of the week to go do a different activity. One day go play basketball, jog, lift weights... Like 2 to 3 times a week depending on how much she wants to lose. Maybe not just you and your "overweight" friend but the rest of your friends could get in on it too. Even if you guys are small exercising is good for everyone.
Reply:Tell her to put down the fork.
Reply:if you guys go out too eat or something go to a healthy store.


or invite her to go to a gym or something like that. it seems like your embarrassed to be around her because weight shouldn't matter.
Reply:Whenever she says something stop making her feel better, she is just wanting it for self esteem. I would just say if you feel that way about yourself then why dont you do something about it. Nothing I say is going to change how you feel about yourself. Or just say, you always say that or ask me if you're fat...I would really appreciate not talking about it
Reply:I think youre friend know how overweight she is already ...just when you try each other clothes ,even a backpack...she didnt want to be told it "fat" ... just let her know if she needs your help , you will be there to support her as a good friend...this will do..
Reply:you dont have to tell her that she is overweight


just start doing some active activities with her


Like for example join a sport and tell her it would be really fun if she joined it with you, or go jogging and ask her if she wants to come with you.





Or if that doesn't work than you should sit down with her and tell her really nicely that she is overweight and tell her that you will help her lose weight if she wants to .........





be a good friend yo her!!
Reply:like the first person said.


how about you all find a gym or get a workout routine or something like that and after school you all get together and work out. so she doesnt feel singled out make it so all three of you do it together.
Reply:Maybe u should just starting doing more fun active outside and invite her along like just going for walks ,boweling ,swimming you get the idea .


Or you and your friends can just sit her down and explain to her.. like next time she brings it just be like hey just go on a diet if u hate it that much and see what she says. Say u like her for who she is but you don't like the fact that he doesn't like her weight.. thats a way of saying hat u don't like her weight but turning it around so your thinking about her best interests at heart
Reply:well you should hangout with her... alot so you can influence her.... like instead of you guys watching a movie... ride bikes or walk down the street tell her its so you can just get some "fresh air" then instead of her eating idk lets just say ben and jerry's just eat.... idk say.... a 100 calorie snack pack..... i hope this helps...
Reply:Why don't you guys set up an exercise routine together and ask her to join you. If you are doing it together it will motivate her to take care of herself.
Reply:Ok, the next time she complains about being fat, ask her if she wants to go running, or to a dancing class or something which may help her lose weight... I'm sure she wants to do something about it, and with her friends support, I'm sure it will help her.

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