I think my niece stole one of my dauhgters toys. whats the best way to confront her/her mom to get the toy?

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I think my niece stole one of my dauhgters toys. whats the best way to confront her/her mom to get the toy?
I'd say something like this: Remember the other day when you brought (name of child) over to play? I think she may have accidently taken a toy home with her. (Your daughter's name) really misses it; it's her favorite toy. Remember, never EVER accuse anyone's child of "stealing" even if they did. You don't want hurt feelings. Always make it sound like it wasn't on purpose.
Reply:Ask the mom whether her daughter brought the toy home. You don't have to say "stole." If the mom is cooperative, she will look for it; or maybe she has already seen it. If the mom isn't cooperative, be more careful about having the niece visit.


I had a similar situation, but I didn't even know the neighbor girl's mom. So I went to her house and asked if her daughter had brought a Tomagotchi home. She said yes, her daughter said my daughter gave it to her, and she (mom) hadn't wanted her daughter to have one! She called her daughter who still lied about it; then one of the girl's friends called to me from a tree (!) and handed me the Tomagotchi; she said the thief girl had asked her to hold it for her! The little thief then swore it was her cousin who gave her the Tomagotchi, while her mom tried to get her to quit lying; and at this point, having gotten the toy back, my daughter and I went home.
Reply:"(daughter) let (niece) borrow one of her toys. (daughter) really misses it and is too shy to ask (niece) for it back. I was wondering if you could bring it next time you come over please."
Reply:Call your sis and ask her to ask her daughter if she knows where what ever is missing is. That you can't find it and was wondering if she remembered where the girls put it.





Maybe it is just miss placed in the house some where or maybe they left it outside. You better be real sure of what is going on before you accuse a child of stealing. They will never forget it. If they are falsely accused.
Reply:Well I would ask your Sis or SIL to check her house you saw her daughter with the toy and not sure where it went! Your wondering if she grabbed it by accident, bc of being in a rush! Not rude just being inquisitive!! Oh and if she says no but you see it then maybe a problem, but deal w that later!
Reply:All you say is ....


Phone her - You know what I can't find .....'s toy anywhere - It's driving me mad! She's really upset - I don't suppose you picked it up by mistake? I can't think where it is!


Therefore - asking mum not accusing her daughter! Kids do that kind of thing - it's not something to make an issue of!
Reply:Phone her, and say something like:





"Hey, last time little Ashley was over she may have walked away with one of Tina's toys. My daughter thinks it went home with her (or whatever reason you have for thinking she took it). Do you have it? Tina really misses it."





I wouldn't call it confronting her, it's all about being civil. No need to make a federal case about it.
Reply:Can you prove your niece has the toy? If not then you have no cause to confront the child's mother or the child.
Reply:Just pick up the phone call and say that while she was over at your house you think you accidentally got your daughters___ mixed up with hers and could she please check in her room and see so you can quit searching for it. This way you arent accusing her and if it is there you will get it back and then the next time the kid comes over search her bag before she leaves.