I cant trust him?

but thats only cos my ex broke my trust. he promised to be the best guy in the world and he even fooled me and others into thinkin he was great etcetc


well then he cheated on me





so now im finding it hard to trust anyone especially the new guy, hes great he really is known him for years and stuff but im scared that just like the old ex put on a mask to show that he was a good guy, what if this guy is the same...cos it always happens to me. i never like the guys, they always like me first, then as soon as i like them back something always goes wrong and they cheat, or do something similar.


and now this guy whose always loved me [he says] for eyars, im scared he will be the same ....

I cant trust him?
we've all been there! i've just managed to get over that one myself!





at the end of the day, we've all had guys in the past that have taken us for a mug and cheated on us, broken our trust but we cannot take this out on our new partners.





if you dont have trust in a relationship, what have you actually got??





you've known him for a while so you should have a very good idea to what he's like.





i think you need to try and bury what has happened to you in the past. its all about finding mr right! and there's gonna be quite a few frogs about to break our heart before we find our prince!





like the saying goes "love like you've never been hurt!!"
Reply:Its human nature to be wary after being hurt, a defence mechanism of sorts. However you can't paint all men with the same brush because you got a faulty can of paint. Its not fair to punish him for the mistakes of someone else. If he's good to you then nothing else matters. We can't go through life shying away from hurt, that's no way to live.





If you go outside you might get hit by a car but does that mean you should stay at home covering under the blankets?
Reply:I understand y u are scared, i would be scared too. but if have known for years.... and if u and him have been kind of close for a while.... don't u think u should give him a chance.... I know every girl thinks almost every guy is the same. but trust me - they r not no where near it....


and I know u don't want to get hurt again. but i say just take a chance on this one.. maybe he will be the right one and prove u wrong.
Reply:If you ever want to be in a relationship and happy you have to conquer those demons and learn to be happy. You have to ignore the fact you had a realy nasty boyfriend and accept someone new does like you and is prepared to be with you. Dont be scared, just go with the flow and date and have fun. He will show you how interested he is in you, texts, gifts, etc. he will not be like other selfish men. And if he does know women you have to learn to trust him.
Reply:you cannot base everything on your ex. every person is different. doesnt mean that all the guys out there are cheats.


but i do understand, that you been hurt once, so you are not too sure now, about this new guy.


well, forget your ex. don't rush with this new guy. take your time. and get to know him first. but you can't compare him to your ex. that's a mistake that most of us do.
Reply:are you the same as every other girl? what about any other girl?


if not then why should he be the same as every other guy? or any other guy? for instance the last one?





if you are going to hold on to that while your with him you can trust that you will push him away, and maybe push him into anther girls arms (possibly subconciously just to see if he would, which is hardly fair on him as that puts hurdles there he shouldnt have jump over).





a suggestion, instead of focusing on wether a person is trustable - make it about what you can trust them with.


I trust my ex to sleep around, I trust my one mate to spend a fiver I leave at his place, but always return a fone and to be there should I need him. I trust those I dont know with things I feel ok to lose, to start with. butt first and formost I trust others cos I trust myself - I trust myself in dealing with it if it goes wrong, I trust myself in dealing with it goes well, and I trust that I will be happier with not being fearful all the time, always wondering where the next failing is going to be (that sort of thing is really undermining of a lot, very destructive).





that way may not suit you, but I would suggest finding a way that works for you that doesnt undermine all of your and his efforts.
Reply:Its hard for you , but eventually you will regain the ability to trust, and this guy who you've known for years, who's not the same as your ex, is there ready to love you. He deserves a chance doesn't he? Tell him how you feel and let him know that you really want to be able to trust him but that you are not yet properly healed from your last bad experience. Tell him you need some time to overcome your fears even though you realise that he is not in any way the same as your cheating ex boyfriend. If he really is the good guy who has been in love with you for years, then he won't mind if it takes just a little longer to gain your love and trust.
Reply:gotta trust untill he gives you a good reason not too,
Reply:It takes a leap of faith. Sort of like gambling. You don't really know for sure if you have a winning hand til you place your bet. Be careful about revisiting your past too often. It hurts when the one you love betrays you. Accept it and move on. If you keep making comparisons between the old and the new you may just get what you are looking for.....to get hurt again.

2 girls i like??

right i really like 2 girls iw ork with all 3 of us are part time and im ahving a hard decision of who to ask out we are all freinds and ive noticed smiling staring personal conversation and fidling with uniforms and ahir while speaking to me.





my question is which 1 do i go with 1 is same age as me 18, no ties she's sexy funny and beutifull personality, now the other is 20 eyars old has a child but is greast looking great personality and a great eprson to be around so if you were me and absed on the descriptions ive given you which would you choose i like them both fairly equally adn feel i could build a relationship with either 1 of them

2 girls i like??
Yes
Reply:go with tha one your age
Reply:Doesn't matter, both are evil.
Reply:why do you have to choose now?





be their friend and tell them that you are not thinking of being involved with anyone at the moment.





by time you will discover things in their personalities and lives and will make you decide easily.
Reply:im not digging the whole kid thing, do you want to raise a kid thats not yours?

Will sex robots/virtual sex matrix (whateva) one day solve all our sexual problems or sex stigmas?

In my mind, if you have this at your availability, girls could have sex with brad pitt, and I could have sex with pamela anderson, male teenagers could get rid of their pure sexual urge during the eyars of 15-21...and despreate housewives could get rid of these as well during their 35-50 period....and then we could really focus not on sex, but dealing with the relationship, the personality and whether he/she is a compatible partner...and then focus on sex as a second, albeit important priority.





I beleive sex can sour beautiful friendships, and is not conductive to long lasting healthy and fruitful things.





I say this after reading that In 2020, it is projected that computer swill have the complexity of the human mind in terms of operations per second.

Will sex robots/virtual sex matrix (whateva) one day solve all our sexual problems or sex stigmas?
i think sex bots would be a great idea(human like)...although nothing compares to a real human touch.
Reply:You already have Sex-Bots, However they are Whores, males or females there is no gender distinction, as I see it, these Sex- Bots charge for their services and somewhere down the line they lose all human feeling, now doesn't that make them Sex-Bots?. Report It

Reply:sex-bots could be addictive... but they would provide a clean means to having a first time experience...no stds and such... it could prove quite educational, but there's is potential to fall falsely in love with a sex-bot...this would be like planting dragon teeth... hmmm, good question... but if you ever read piers anthony's books on the "blue adept," it does address some of these issues...
Reply:I don't know...


But...





If female robots have wild mood swings caused by mechanical PMS, and they take out their anger on male robots...


Well...





It's only fair...





Those poor robot bastards...!
Reply:hmm....I don't know if it will solve all our sexual problems. But it would be definitely more 'precious' than the stuff that's in porn, that's for sure.
Reply:Sex is Over-rated...
Reply:Not really.





As long as people know the difference, they will not be psychologically satisfied with the fake act.
Reply:Sex is a precious thing between two people yes, with virtual beings no.
Reply:Were do I sign up !?
Reply:I think that most sexual problems are human compatibility problems, and human compatibility problems are not going to be solved by a newer, faster, sexier computer...no matter what advertising tries to sell you.


...if "virtual reality" is real, why does it need a modifier?

Who is happy with that Chelsea tie?

I didn't think that my eyars could smile!!!!:)





glory glory man utd

Who is happy with that Chelsea tie?
My fingers and toes are smiling as well!
Reply:Manchester United fans, of course.
Reply:i am...


glory man utd
Reply:and i thought that chelsea were going to win the match b/c they wanted to make an advantages of our tie and i turned out to be wrong..because Chelsea cant even beat a team like newcastle...!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Reply:my bon bon smiles
Reply:wow the end of that game was tense i even missed the oc for it! I kept wishing for a newcastle goal but i didnt wanna push my luck!
Reply:No....Chelsea should have lost.
Reply:It was inevitable that they too would slip up somewhere despite what all the fans were claiming. !!





and yes I am smiling, because of all the comments made about Man U on here yesterday..I am smiling big time!!
Reply:Well all the Manchester United fans are definately happy with this result.
Reply:certainly sleeping tonight with a smile on my face.





bwa ha ha %26lt;evil laugh%26gt;
Reply:I'am happy :))))
Reply:I'm pretty ecstatic.

puppy teeth

Do all shops open new years eve and new years day in london?

do all shops open new eyars eve and new years day in london

Do all shops open new years eve and new years day in london?
Sunday trading laws apply for New Years Eve, which means that apart from any 7-11 Spar-type convienience stores pretty much everywhere will be sticking to either 10am-4pm or 11am-5pm.





As far as New Years Day is concerned, most places will be open, but sticking to Bank Holiday hours. Allowing for staff hangovers and the like, most places will probably stick to Sunday trading hours again - opening at 10am or 11am and possibly going through to 5pm or 6pm, but this is at their descretion and if the staff can be found who are sober enough to be able to work.





Why can't everybody just wait until 2nd January and actually let these poor underpaid shop assistants have a day off and enjoy some time with their families instead of worrying about shop opening hours?
Reply:lol metal mickey really is meatal





I want to know the same thing beside we need shopping
Reply:No, New Years Day is a bank holiday, so shops have to follow certain trading rules, lots of shops will be open but these will be for reduced hours.





On New Years Eve, as it is a Sunday, the Sunday trading laws apply.

When will Christians STOP citing Josephus?

The passage in Antiwuities that mentions Jesus was stuck in there 250 eyars later. Schoalrs who are not committed Fundamentalists conclude that it's bogus.





Here's why:





1) It's stylistically different from the rest of the text.


2) Remove it, and it reads smoothly.


3) No early Christian cites Josephus, as they would if it mentioned Jesus.


4) Origen (185-254) wrote that there's no mention of Jesus in Josephus, AND that he never believed in any Messiah.


5) Interesting how in his book there are a lot of gys named "jesus"-- all in the Hebrew form, Yeshua. EXCEPT in the interpolated text, in which his name is oddly given in its erroneous Greek form, Jesus.


6) In Jewish War, Josephus expresses contempt for all messianic agitators, blaming them for the nation's ruin.


7) He also claims that Vespasian fulfilled all the Messianic prophecies. So how likely is it that he'd gush about Jesus?

When will Christians STOP citing Josephus?
You should give 'em something to look at. Modern biblical scholarship makes a very compelling case for the idea that Jesus never existed... that he was, in fact, entirely fictional.





The Jesus Puzzle


http://jesuspuzzle.humanists.net/home.ht...





Of course, true 'believers' will never look... they're afraid that they might see something that actually makes sense, and will shake the foundations of their faith.
Reply:The interesting thing about the historical existence of Jesus is it doesn't matter. If some person named Yeshua ben Yoseph did live and die at 1st century Palestine, that would not make him devine. He could just have been one of many religious rabble rousers that come up in times of trouble like Joseph Smith or Muhammad ibn Abd al-Wahhab, the guy who started Wahhabi Islam.


Don't mean a word of it is true.
Reply:the fact that some use josephus in their arguements is to give a


corelation of secular history that jives with times and events as


written in the Bible.It seems that so many folks try so hard to


prove that what is written in the Bible is folk lore or myth,that when


someone does show a direct link between secular and bible


cronology they immediatly jump on and try to discredit it as un-


true.although in theroy that one shoud accept what a non biblical


author penned.
Reply:What seems to be your major malfunction.


What the H*** do you want?


What an antagonist.


Do you enjoy making people angry?


Do you enjoy aggravating people?


You remind me of my brother -in law.


He went insane.





Even the picture you chose is aggravating.


He kept it up until he just went insane.


He asked for it and he got it.
Reply:Good information.
Reply:Added fact: I have have heard two Rabbis (one Reform and one Orthodox) say that Josephus's writing was more of a tabloid style, alot of hearsay, and cannot be completely believed.
Reply:The bible clearly states when Jesus lived and died. That is my reference. You believe what you want. I believe the bible.
Reply:Eye has not seen nor ear heard!!!!! Explain that to me silly....
Reply:The people who did write about Jesus are said to be unbelievable because their writings got included in what we call the Bible.





If we remove Jesus from Josephus' writings it reads smoothly? I'll bet if we remove him from the Bible things would read smoothly too. And as a bonus, no more arguing about his divinity or existence!
Reply:Blau ,blau, blau! Know one is listening to your nonsense!
Reply:Can`t understand you making such a hoola baloo of something that you don`t believe or being impressed of? It clearly bugs you.

How do you all deal with an inlaw that is alway trying to hurt you? Whose always angry and intimidating me?

My daughter in law. goes out of her way to be nasty to me, in what she says and does. She has refused to partictpate with me and allow me the time with my grandchildren. until I threatened my son that I would adopt some. Recently this DIL told me in so many words I was terrible Mother to my son and its not true. I was very close to my son until he married this girl. When I was in a car accident this DIL did not even allow my son to come and see me the first day. He cam as the eyars go by I feel she has not mellowed at all even though I got to se my grandchildren this summer, she has not alwoed me to see them before this and I feel like a stranger to two of them because she did not allow me to come for a visit unless she invited me. Few visits. and one time I went to see them she was so pissed off she would not even answer the door. The baby did. I feel she is disconnected in her feelings, she has no manners or social skills. I feel she is her own Mother. Not very sociable. either.

How do you all deal with an inlaw that is alway trying to hurt you? Whose always angry and intimidating me?
Do you have any clue (s) as to why she's the way she is? Did she have a bad upbringing or some issues with her own mother that she's putting onto you? Was there ever a time when the two of you got along, and if so, what changed that???





Certainly it can't be pleasant to deal w/this, but you need to remember that your son loves her (I'm assuming this, anyhow) and you don't want to create any more friction than already exists. Try to speak w/your son and let him know how unhappy it makes you not to be able to see your grandkids when you want to. Maybe he can bring the kids over to your place without your daughter-in-law present.





Good luck w/this difficult situation. I wish I had more suggestions!
Reply:family drama has been very popular for at least 100,000 years. why not try to figure out why it exists, and what you can do to avoid being as dysfunctional as the 1 trillion people who needed it to satisfy their unconscious needs and behaviors. check out the book *the complete idiot's guide to toltec wisdom*. without it and/ or counseling, your drama will be ceaseless. good luck ;-)
Reply:Best advice: don't stir things up between you and your daughter in-law. Your son is automatically going to take her side no matter what you say. Even if it's true and he knows these things are happening, he will always take her side. He obviously loves her or else he wouldn't be married to her. My boyfriend was in the same situation and he took his wife's side before his parents because he thought that they were wrong about her and just didn't "know" her like he did. They wound up getting a divorce. Back to you, you know, in situations like these there isn't much you can do really. You just have to kind of sit back and let things happen. One day he might get sick of how she handles things. One thing you could do is talk to your son instead of her about spending more time with your grandchildren. Where is he when she automatically makes these decisions? I'm wondering if he has a say in anything that goes on concerning their children and other matters as well.
Reply:Start today and pour out all the love and care that you can find within onto your son, his wife, and their children. Negative and negative, don't work, but pour positive on it, and it has a tendency to crack the negative. Good overcomes evil.....but you got to really feel it for it to work, so if you don't, it will show, so pour out the real love and endure and watch the changes come...